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Archived questions from: December, 2016 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

He is two different boyfriends in one. Mr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He's making me feel scared. what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2864 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - MODNOTE FREE UK resources added by the Moderator: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/if-you-are-a-woman-experiencing-domestic-violence.aspx Phone 0808 2000 247 in UK and http://www.refuge.org.uk/what-we-do/our-services/helpline/ ...

How do I tell my boyfriend I'd like to watch him masturbate

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - I have a fantasy and I am not sure how to approach my boyfriend about it. I don't want him to think I'm weird/something wrong with me or to embarrass him. I know it is natural for men to masturbate and I have no problem with him doing it. However, ...

Can you be pregnant with negative test results?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2819 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...

I've only had one night stands or FWB ... how do I ask a girl on a date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (M) - Hi guys, I've never had a girlfriend before or been on a date up to yet, more because I've been happy being single rather than an inability to speak to girls. Basically my experience with girls has been one night stands and a few fwbs. However...

What hope is there for a boyfriendless virgin? I think about sex, a lot. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - Hi so I'm 17 and I'll be 18 this following year. Whilst I've had "situations" or issues with guys I've never had a boyfriend and never had sex. There was a time where I was close to sleeping with a guy I did not even want to be my boyfriend, bu...

Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...

Why has my Boyfriend changed his sexual style to a more conservative one, to the style he favoured previously? Could he be cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2885 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - Hello friends. I have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend. We have always had a good time experimenting with each other sexually. We have a good bond and have connected from the get go. And we have also had stellar chemistry and a gr...

How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

28 December 2016 (M) - I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...

I have a serious health issue and cannot have penetrative sex. Will I ever be able to have a normal relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - Guys, would you date a 29-year old woman who is unable to have penetrative sex and unable to bear children? I'm wondering because you guessed it: that person is me. I have a really bad case of vaginismus (had it all my life for as far as I can tel...

In a committed, passionate, loving relationship. Am I wrong for feeling 'put down' or like a 'one night stand'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2886 days ago

25 December 2016 (M) - Here are the basics in order to fully understand my feelings about this situation: I am a 35 yr old male and she is 34. We have been in a committed relationship for a year now. We have a what we call "remarkable" relationship that truthfully ...

Why do some men say things to their partner the man thinks may sound supportive, and yet concurrently they collect pictures of women and porn?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - I know this might seem a dumb question but it's bothered me in a lot of relationships I've been in as I've noticed most guys seem to do it and think it's no big deal to lie about it . Why do some men say things to their partner like 'you're the only...

I just found his sex doll, I’m upset! What do I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2887 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - I just found my boyfriend of 4 yrs silicone sex doll. I haven't had a chance to talk yo him about it bc his mom has been in the hospital but is now coming home. I can't hold it in much longer. I'm upset what do I do?...

How to determine if a woman likes me? How do I let a woman know I like her? How to slow down my orgasm when with a woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2896 days ago

23 December 2016 (M) - Moderator note: more than one question combined into this one post. .. . . . . . . . . . . .. . I am a man wanting to know how to go about letting a woman know I like her? I am very shy and have a hard time telling a woman I like them. Once I...

My wife is not interested in group sex. How can I stop having an urge to participate in group sex? I need to stop these urges, but how?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2896 days ago

20 December 2016 (M) - I have always fantasized about group sex. While there is nothing unusual about this, I'mean worried that the degree to which I want it is harmful. My wife and I have been married for twenty years and about a decade ago I decided that it was my o...

Suspicious of my friend's invitation

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - If you have a friend who you havent seen for some years but who has made it quite clear that he wants sex with you although not exactly in those words, then it doesnt make sense to visit him in his home does it? I imagine its probably best to not v...

I need my husband's physical attention!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

19 December 2016 (F) - Hi cupids, in May this year my what was to me perfect world crashed. I was hospilised for what we thought was a stroke, (I'm 37) however after many many tests I have a neurological condition which is called hemipligic migraines, which after an ...

I want him to be more assertive in bed

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - I'm going out with someone who's very quiet during sex and it turns me off. I sort of like this person, but in bed, while I'm sucking him he just stays there, eyes closed like a Buddha ( and he takes forever to come, like 30 plus minutes, Is that ...

There is this older woman I'd like to have sex with ...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

17 December 2016 (M) - I'm 24. There's a woman I work with who's in her late 40's, divorced, still pretty attractive, and friendly with me. I've never been with a woman that much older than me before. I'd be interested to experience sex with her. Her oldest son is almost ...

Boyfriend wont have sex because he is anxious about unwanted pregnancies

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2901 days ago

14 December 2016 (F) - Hey there! So Ive been with my boyfriend for a year(to keep people anonymous we can call him bob) and I wasn't a virgin when I met him, but he was when we started dating. We've had sex more than a few times but he admitted to me some months ago...

How can I know if I'll be open to a boyfriend being sexually polygamous?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2901 days ago

14 December 2016 (F) - I don't have a BF right now, and I have actually never had a boyfriend before. However, I realized that there are many men out there that cheat, not because they don't love their GF enough, (or so I think), but because they just love to have variety ...

I need help with my retroactive jealousy!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

13 December 2016 (M) - Hi, sorry for my bad english in advance. I’m with my girlfriend since 6 month, we know each other since we are in middle school. After that she go in another school and in an other high school in the same town. We are now both 20 years old, ...

My boyfriend says our sex life is boring for him, he wants things I don’t!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

13 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend says our sex life is boring for him. We have been together for less than a year and he is my first boyfriend. He says he is bored with what we do. He wants anal, bondage, toys, and other stuff, I don't even know... The thing is I don...

Is this sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2903 days ago

11 December 2016 (F) - So me and my boyfriend were both in our underwear just simply rubbing and grinding. No intercourse. BUT, he slid my panty aside and stuck it in but he still had his boxers on... he maybe stuck a inch in but it was inside but not skin on skin. Im ...

Boyfriend bought me a chastity belt and expects me to wear it

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2903 days ago

11 December 2016 (F) - I have been with my bf for 6 months now. last week we were out, i was sitting at this table and a bloke came over and we were just chatting but my bf was like super mad and he hates me to chat to any guy. He is such a control freek that way. but i ...

Think he used my coat to masturbate

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

10 December 2016 (F) - I recently baby sat for a 15 year old boy while his parents went out for the night. He was mainly up in his room. I came upstairs to see if he needed anything I poked my head around his door and noticed he was on his computer looking at porn. ...

Is it time to leave this relationship? I'm starting to feel like a roommate or a good friend

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

9 December 2016 (F) - 29 F dating 29 M for approximately 1.5 years. My relationship has been rocky from the start. My boyfriend has always pushed the limit with flirting with girls or talking about them. Last month he texted a girl to send him pictures while o...

Is my sexual wish too much to ask?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

9 December 2016 (M) - Dear aunts, I have a gf who i love. I'm straight but a like girls to play with my arse. I just like the sensation. I'm afraid if i ask my gf to try a dildo or a strap on on me will make me less desirable for her. What do you think?...

Am I a lousy lover for my wife?

This question has 32 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

9 December 2016 (M) - I am 48 y.I. married for 8 years. I met my wife when we both were 40. The only way that she can reach the orgasm with me is with oral sex. She always told me that she was unable to reach an orgasm troough intercourse. I know that she has had 28 p...

My new boyfriend likes to 'be in control' sexually

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

8 December 2016 (F) - hey everyone . Ive just started seeing my new boyfriend we spoke about lots of stuff how we like and dislike things in bed . He told me he likes being ' in control ' in the bedroom slight bondage stuff and various other stuff i havent tried . ...

A threesome with my wife and another male was my fantasy. So why couldn't I get hard looking at my wife?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

7 December 2016 (M) - How would you explain this? What I am about to say was totally MY idea, even though my wife was very into it once it got started...My wife and I were in a male friends house initiating a threesome with him...up to this point you could say it was ...

Is casual sex possible without emotion?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2905 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - Is sex without emotions possible? I have only had two relations ships one long term since I was 20-26 and another one short brief 7 months ago- I grew up in a strict orthodox background that was never open to sex outside of marriage or being ...

He's become really rough and insistent about sex, is this just a phase?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2907 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - my bf just wants sex al the time and it is getting very difficult for me/us to lead a normal social life. He used to be very caring and loving but he is like a different person now. He is pressuring me into stuff that i really not sure i want to do ...

How can I stop being addicted to love?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2912 days ago

6 December 2016 (F) - How can one make love not so important? It seems that I'm always thinking about love (I'm single) and thirty 32 but ever since I can remember it's always been 90 percent of my life- I've lost jobs for men - I've gotten into arguments with my family ...

'I have given that threesome thing a thought.'

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

5 December 2016 (M) - Hello. Long story short. I'm divorced and I started an affair with a colleague. She's young and energetic. She once suggested me to bring a close friend of hers -whom I know personally quite well and is like a friend to me - into our sexual relation ...

Told him to forget it - he's married. Now I've change my mind

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

5 December 2016 (F) - OK, an old acquaintance, we coincidentally met in a new town, and had sex for two nights. We spent the 3days hanging out together. We parted as we went back to our respective towns. He called me for a chat everyday, claiming that he missed me. O...

Lack of confidence has put sex on the shelf

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

5 December 2016 (M) - I've been dating a guy now for about 5 months and everything is going really well; however I'm feeling incredibly guilty at the moment because, although we have been intimate a few times, we haven't had sex yet (this is when is starts to get ...

Please advise me. Trying hard to meet the right type

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2911 days ago

5 December 2016 (M) - I am a 30 year old man, and it's the time of year when I see loved-up couples enjoying themselves and families getting together. I have the family part at Christmas (always enjoy that). I have Asperger's Syndrome but that's not the main issue h...

I'm scared at the thought of sex and being vulnerable!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - Hi I'll be 18 in a few months and whilst I've been somewhat intimate with a guy, I've never had sex. Partly because I'm waiting for the right guy and the right moment and partly because I'm just scared. Im not even sure what I'm scared of. The ...

I sometimes think sex is a chore.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I are having sex issues and it's really damaging our relationship. He seems to get an erection as soon as he wakes up, but I'm so groggy and tired that I'm not in the mood at that time. I'm also seem to have lost any desire to have ...

How can this be resolved? I don't want to be a nag but I do want to be told I'm sexy!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2914 days ago

4 December 2016 (F) - Sometimes I like to make an effort in the bedroom and get new lingerie or something that I think is sexy. My guy just takes it off immediately without saying anything. I want to figure out a way to get my guy to communicate that he apprecia...

Boyfriend's libido is so low

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2914 days ago

3 December 2016 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months. Sex has never been frequent or very passionate on his side... he doesn't even like to kiss either. However, recently he doesn't want sex at all and it's weeks and weeks before he gives it me again, but ...

Is it possible to have borderline personality yet lack the urge to be a slut and cheater???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2916 days ago

3 December 2016 (F) - I found out recently that I might have borderline personality disorder and dependent personality disorder. Ever since I been researching and trying to fix all the annoying parts these disorders have...And I keep coming to this question here, ho...

Is my boyfriend bored of me sexually, because he has suggested we use sex toys?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2679 days ago

2 December 2016 (F) - Hello cupids. I am not sure where my boyfriend is coming from. I am afraid he is not as happy with me sexually as he once was. We have been together for close to 4 years. Our sex life has always been pretty amazing. I went ahead and booked a hot...

Our sex drives are mismatched! Is he being selfish?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2917 days ago

2 December 2016 (F) - Hiya I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now but the last couple of months he doesn't seem to want sex anymore when I ask him if anything is wrong if hes stressed etc he says he's fine he's just lazy and hasnt got a very high sex drive whereas I ...