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writes:im sitting here needing advice-this is so sad.i met a guy at my job two months ago-i cant explain it but we clicked and get along so well-we have coffee breaks etc-he says he likes working with me too and we had a coffee out once and i sent a text saying thanks and he replied 4 u anytime. ive had some sort of feelings for him since the minute we met. heres the problems-hes in the middle of getting divorced and hes already casually dating yet says shes not his girlfriend ?we spoke on the phone a lot-just friendly chit chat but the other day we spoke he was cool with me and i havent heard since-hes on holiday but still has called every few days. im gutted that somethings gone wrong-even if i just had him as a good friend-im not going to cause problems but i dont understand we got on amazingly well-even he said so-and then the text and he always asks to work with me so what has happened. i do have feelings for him but realise its too complicatedhas he got any feelings for me or should i just forget him please help soooo upset :((((((
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Hi there, Being in the middle of a divorce is enough it seems for him to handle at the moment. Too much involvement, I think he is telling you without words, is not what he wants or needs right now. If you press the issue, you will probsbly lose any chance at being close to him. Back off and allow him to get through the divorce and even then I would not rush in for a relatiionship. People need space sometimes to gather their wits. It has nothing to do with whether or not he likes you, it's a complicated time for him emotionally. Try to understand and give him time. Good luck and Happy New Year. Take care.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2009):
He's in the middle of a divorce, so he'll be confused and his feelings will be all over the place at the moment. I think he's trying to make sure you don't get involved, because he knows it's a mess. Have patience and be there for him as a friend. I don't think it sounds like he's really ready to date.
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