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writes:Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to make things work with this girl.So, if anyone has any tips for being a bit less predictable, that would be super :) Reply to this Question
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reader, NinetiesKid +, writes (31 December 2009):
NinetiesKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBlod, I'm gonna talk to her a bit more about this, just to clarify what she meant. I try to be as spontanious as possible, like last week, we'd just woken up and I took her out for breakfast (not planned, was just a sort of on-the-spot thing), which then lead to a walk in the snow, which I found to be quite romantic. But still i'm predictable? Not sure what more she wants..
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reader, NinetiesKid +, writes (31 December 2009):
NinetiesKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCaringGuy, thanks a lot, I find it difficult being the nice one all the time because i'm always the one getting hurt. Also, just for your info, we're both virgins. I'm gonna surprise her with some flowers, and I want to take her out again soon but i'm still broke from Christmas, but in time :). Thanks.
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reader, NinetiesKid +, writes (31 December 2009):
NinetiesKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRAINORFIRE, thanks for the help but she's a decent girl, she's a virgin and by choice, which I like most about her, she has respect for herself. I see where you're coming from though, i'm a nice guy and she's gonna have to get used to it if she wants a decent guy. Cheers.
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reader, Blod +, writes (31 December 2009):
 I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have you. Predictable normally means nice, decent, caring guys as the others have said. But I understand where she's coming from.
Try being more romantic. You might be a very romantic person, but being spontaneous often results in romantic situations. So anything to do with romance: presents, flowers, days out etc, would be good. What you could also try is just thinking about what you're going to do one day. If you're predictable then you'll have a routine and a plan of what's going to happen. Think about it and see if you can change or tweak that plan to make the day just a little bit different, and of course make it revolve around her.
I hope I've helped. Good Luck. X
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 December 2009):
Ah, the nice guy trap. I feel for you. No doubt you're a nice guy, but as all nice guys know, we frequently finish last. Nice guys can come across as boring sometimes, not because we are, but because we actually care. Women like spontaneity and excitement. Sadly, nobody knows what your girlfriend means but her. You could surprise her with a day out somewhere, or with a present or something. But to be honest, she's a young lady and has a lot to learn about the difference between nice guys who will treat her well, and crap guys.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 thats just your chick being a bitch Look just keep being you if shes still sleeping with you your doing something rite dont let it get to you.
OK ok maybe she wants more excitment the routine has gotten stale. so spice it up bring another chick home lets see if she can predict that, if this is bothering you must be one of the nice guy types you probably tell her you love her and give her little kisses and all that crap, its all good but stop just be a jerk for a bit.
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