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Archived questions from: December, 2011 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Is it normal to love one child more than your other?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - This might be a very "rough" question.. But, let's say you have 2 children. Would it be normal to love one more then the other? Or, let's say you were put in a situation where only one of your children would live, and you had to choose which one ...

Is it okay to glance at a woman's breasts if she is not showing cleavage?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4694 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - Hi, hopefully this question is appropriate and it doesn't offend anybody. Is it okay to glance at a woman's breasts if she is not showing cleavage? Suppose for the purpose of this question that the guy is at a social gathering like a party or...

My fiance doesn't want to disown the child that he is said to have fathered with this dubious woman, for fear of hurting the child!! What do I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Could anyone who has been through this help. My fiance has a child. It appears that no one in the world believes the child is his. The mother became pregnant within a month of them getting together. It has now surfaced that she was sleeping with ...

Could we ever go back to being bestfriends after I admitted my feelings for her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - So a while ago my best friend asked me if I had feelings for her, I said I did. She had her suspicions because she thought I cared too much and came out and asked, and I answered truthfully. Before hand I knew she didn't like me that way because ...

My BF's teenage child is coming to live with us - But I don't think I'm ready for that!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I am 28 yrs old and have been dating a guy who is 43 for nearly 4 yrs now. He was married before and has one kid who is 16 now, he is divorced about 13yrs. My problem is the ex took his kid out of state over a yr ago and just a couple of weeks ago ...

I think he's 'the one' - But am I ready for that???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I dont really believe in the idea of soulmates or "the one" in the sense that its my destiny or fate, but I do believe that certain people click together more so than others. And I'm pretty sure I've found that. The problem is that neither of us ...

Does Male Pride get in the way of having a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Do you think a mans pride (being mr tough and never showing his emotions, always being mr. tough guy) can stand in the way of him having a relationship? Does that affect the way he feels or lets himself feel about a woman?? ...

He's my ex. I still love him. Why does he keep me as his FWB? How do I heal myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hello, I will make this brief. I am a 23 year old female, who just got out of a relationship with a 22 year old male. We'll call him K. He and I had a lot happen between us that was mainly my doing, I was not ready for a relationship since I had ...

Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection l...

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend will not tell his parents. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Dear cupid. Im 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. my bf of 2 years. still has not told his parents and I dont know what to do. I gave him option to leave if he wanted and he decided to stay but is still making no effort. His parents need to know ...

To swing or not to swing that is the question.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - my question might appear strange to some people but i would appreciate any advice. Years ago i was invited to go to a swingers party. I was sacred and a bit nervous so never went. Since then i have come out of a long relationship and am wondering ...

I want to move out. Without him coming too. But how do I tell my BF this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hi everyone here my problem my boyfriend and i been together for 4 years since we been together he hasn't worked. But i work 40 hours a week. we said from the start we.want to move in together but i'm thinking of moving into a studio alone for a wh...

My friend made a move on me. I pushed him away. How can I still be friends but still be clear that his move on me was not ok?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - My best friend made a move on me a while back and i sort of freaked out at the time and pushed him away. I regret my actions at the time but he did sort of scare me. We have been friends for years but since that incident he avoids me. I still want ...

Should I tell My Mother that my Uncle withheld money he owes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - Last year i did not do so well saving for Christmas. Everybody got something from me but it was not much. I decided to make the effort to save for this year and my Uncle offer to help. I gave him £2 every week for the whole year but when i asked for ...

I don't understand how the gym manager knows my name and address

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I joined a local gym a few months ago and generally work out there a couple times a week. Today one of the managers came up while I was changing my shoes and made some comment about how I was really getting it this week. (I had been there the ...

What really hurts a guy aside from breakups?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - This question is mainly directed to Men but feel free anyone to answer every little helps :) After a friend got dumped we went to her house to comfort her. She said she wanted to hurt her ex emotionally. I told her not to stoop to his level but my...

How do you know if you love someone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - How do you know if you love someone?...

How do I not look like a fool in front of new co-wokers?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - Hi everyone, Just a question regarding work-related relationships (sort of?). Anyways, I recently started working at a prestigious investment firm in an entry-level position (before this, I've never worked in an office, just mostly blue-coll...

I'm skinny and eat unhealthily. What should I do? And guys, do you naturally prefer more well-rounded girls?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - Hey, I saw a similar question earlier and it got me thinking. I'm gonna be really blunt, I'm veery skinny. I weight around 100 lbs, I'm 5'9" and I'm 14. I eat rather unhealthily, I get my twiggyness from my mother. Also, I have many MANY other frie...

I think I made the wrong choice to go to New Zeland over wales. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

27 December 2011 (F) - Hey. This isn't a relationship question but I'd like some other opinions because I'm getting way too wrapped up in my worries. I'm a geography student and this year I have the opportunity to go 'abroad' as part of my course. My choices are Wales or...

Has this happened to you before? (Wrong number texts)

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

27 December 2011 (F) - So today, I got a text message from a number I didn't recognize. Now, I dont memorize numbers anymore, so I asked who this was and explained all my contacts had been deleted upon switching cell phones. They responded hurt that I would forget the...

I'm really confused. Do I stay with my BF or go to this other guy? And how will it affects the kids?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Need advice please. I have been with the father of my kids for six years now. We have had our up and downs. We have even split up a few times and got back together within days. About 1 1/2 years ago I started my job unknowing at the time that this...

How do I make this older guy stop following me around? He doesn't know me, but I know who he is. He creeps me out.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Hi erm well theres this guys who older like in his the 30's or late 20's not really sure how old he is but really hes been following me around when ever he see's me and just stares like seriously its kinda staring to creep me out i don't ...

His Mom tells lies about me. We have a baby girl. Should I wait until he wants to come back to me? Or contact him first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, his mom and sister. He was drunk and was arguing with my mom and me....he was saying all kinds of things to us and well my mom was screaming things back so it turned out to be a huge fight! We ended up ...

My Bf thought I was a virgin, because I lied. But someone sent a pix to him disproving that. How do I fix this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Please don't judge me, I know what I did was wrong. But when I meet my current boyfriend I couldn't believe having found such a lovely guy. Having been used by guys in the past, my previous relationship were just sex. No love at all. But this guy ...

How do I explain my love for my new Bf to my family? I am afraid they will not accept him due to his military background

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Hi Everyone, Things in my life were difficult for a few years. Over the last year, life took a turn for the better and I'm so much happier now. I have got a better job, moved into a home of my own with my kids and built up a circle of friend...

How do I get over longing for a horse of my own?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - I realize that this is going to come across as feeling sorry for myself, and am thankful for what I DO have, but I can't help my heart's desires and I can't stop loving something that I love. I'm 32 years old, and I felt this way as a child but t...

I prefer to be alone! I don't want to be loved by anybody...right?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 December 2011 (M) - Merry Christmas! Hope everybody is having fun. My question stems from my wish to not be loved. I'm 22 and in my senior year at a university. I've never been in a relationship or had any sexual relations before, I don't interact very well with my ...

My coworker who I'm interested in, called me "buddy" while texting. What could this mean? Are we in the friend zone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - I have not been single for a while. I was in a three year relationship in which in the end I ended up really hurt. I've been single for a couple months and it has been tough. But knowing guys still take an interest in me feels pretty good. I am not ...

I wish I was beautiful and that guys gave me attention, but sadly I'm not like that

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - I'm ugly, and that means guys pass me by, ignore me, don't approach me, or when they do it's obviously a momentary thing just 'cause they're desperate for sex (believe me, I can tell, I've learned to tell!). My friends are really pretty, and they ...

Everyone is telling me to walk away. Should I wait as he asked, until his health improves?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4719 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - I am going through a hard time at the moment with my feelings towards someone special and I don't know what to do for the best. I'm so wrapped up in the situation I can't seem to make sense of it all. To start from the beginning, I have only bee...

Baby due 9 Jan. Which guy possibly fathered my child? Mr early April / MidApril or Mr27 April?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - I need serious opinions!! Now i know this is a "medical" deal, but to be quite blunt, talking to my doctor is like talking to a robot. I am pregnant, due january 9th, but, i had sex with someone around the beginning/middle of april, then someone ...

How do you learn to let go of the past completely so I can be fulfilled in my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - I'm having a hard time forgiving myself for things that have happened in the past year, and it's starting to hold me back. With the new year coming up I'm hoping for some suggestions so I can let this all go. At the start of 2011 I was living with ...

The Magic called Love!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4708 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - Love...what a small word for something so immense. In love, our hearts defy our minds. Perhaps that is our flaw: trying to control something that is so tumultous. It is impossible to control who we fall in love with. Our hearts, for whatever reason, ...

Does race really matter to you?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

24 December 2011 (?) - Hi guys. I hope you all are enjoying your holiday vacations and I hope you all have a merry christmas Um, I suppose I'm having some trouble coping with the things that are being revealed to me as I grow up. So, I guess you could say that I have ...

I cant understand why this man chose to comment on my virginity!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - Yesterday I was at the book store and I ran into a man who's in my class. We've only exchanged pleasantries, nothing more. Yet he seemed it he was very rude to me, making a very inappropriate comment about me. We had been talking and he said he h...

Find a Motivation and succeed against the biggest health issues. My Story

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - At the begining of the year i was in pieces, i cannot even describe how i felt this time last year and i am sure only people who have ever been through something similar to what i have been through can imagine how bad it felt. It was Decemebe...

How do I get through possibly the worst Christmas ever? Just broke up and he will not return my calls

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - I dont know where to start..i just spent the last two months with the most wonderful boy. We broke up on thursday. When i first met him he had a girlfriend but split with her. They have a child together. I knew he was very down the last week and ...

I don't want to ruin Christmas for him, but should I be worried about the two of them??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - i need you to help me in my relationship I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 3 months, but now i think he is cheating on me. My boyfriend and I are in a LDR, i know about the girl he has been in contact with at the same time. she is outsi...

Shall I try online dating again? Why do I never seen to get anyhwere with men?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - I'm worried something is wrong with me. Maybe I'm projecting negativity that repels men. Please help. I'm In my late 20s but everyone upon meeting me thinks I'm 19 to about 22. I'm a little over 5 feet, quite thin but curvy, long thick wavy hair...

Is my verbally abusive Bf cheating? Should I leave him? How do I stand up for myself better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - my boyfriend and I recently had twins a boy and girl and I feel my boy friend doesnt love me no more ! I DO everything for him I cook, clean, give him sex when he wants it , i take care of the twins i told him 'if you want to help me with the twin...

Can an online relationship with a pen-pal guy in prison and me a virgin in UK work?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - I have a prison pen pal, and have been writing for a few months. There is definite connection but last night he asked if we can be in a relationship. I'm in the UK and he is in the US. I am kind of a 'loser' out here in real life. I am 34, still a ...

Should I meet some one I don't want to meet just to please my boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - I dont really know how do put this but here goes. my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we have a pretty solid relaionship we get on so well and we always have a laugh and joke. but recently (as in the last week) I have bee...

My Mum doesn't want to see me Christmas day.Does anyone else thinks she is being cruel?. Should I phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - I'm really hurt. I was supposed to be going to my mum's house tomorrow and stay until Christmas Day. I rang her tonight and she told me that she doesn't want to be bothered seeing me at all for Christmas now as she is tired and she just wants to ...

Evolution V.S. Religion & a Close-Minded Chistian Boyfriend

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - As someone who was raised as a catholic Chistian, I never thought too much about what my faith meant to me. I Began dating a very Chistian boy (a mix of Baptist and conservative) I whent to catholic school so I knew and understood quite a bit of the ...

Confident and Carefree People, How do you do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

23 December 2011 (M) - By all of the people I know I am considered to be a really funny guy and really talkative person who is very confident. Which around people I know I am but when meeting new people despite usually trying to be talkative I let nerves get the better of ...

I feel people are killing me with their judgment, advice please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - I'm really frustrated, how come people do believe in the power of prayer, or manifesting things from the universe, or many other miracles, any supernatural events, but they refuse 100%, of the possibility of curse? If there are blessings , there ...

He loves being with me but isn't in love with me. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I got pregnant within the first month of being with him. During the pregnancy things were going good between me and him. After the baby was born we started getting distant from each ...

The woman I'm interested in has just lost her husband, I know she is in mourning but I don't want to lose her to anyone else! How do I handle this situation?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

22 December 2011 (M) - I fell in love with a woman at work but she was in a relationship and got married two years ago. Over the past 4 years I have not mentioned my feelings to her but it is fairly obvious that we are atracted to each other. 6 weeks ago her husband ...

When you reach a certain age and want kids would you "settle" for a reasonable partner but it lacks that certain 'spark'?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

22 December 2011 (M) - A question for the ladies out there. When you reach a certain age and want kids do or would you "settle" for a reasonable partner that potentially would be a good father/provider but doesn't provide the excitement or spark or where there isn't quite ...