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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm worried something is wrong with me. Maybe I'm projecting negativity that repels men. Please help. I'm In my late 20s but everyone upon meeting me thinks I'm 19 to about 22. I'm a little over 5 feet, quite thin but curvy, long thick wavy hair, great job with high pay, well educated, funny, got my dream car and buying a home soon since I'm not married and now not wasting money on rent. Despite these so called pros, guys rarely ask me out. I tried online dating and it was a disaster. One guy said I'm was very dramatic just because I asked him to wear a condom! He stopped calling. The other I met stopped calling after we had sex once. We dated for a month before having sex. I dont know if I should try online dating again or what. None of my friends know any single guys. I don't expect every guy to meet to have the same salary or level of education as me. So, I'm not picky in that regard. I'm feeling frustrated, lonely, bored. I just want to hang out with a nice, interesting guy and see if it turns into something more. Should I try another online dating site? I have tried many of the sites. Are there any good suggestions before trying again? I noticed some men would contact me, text a lot and never suggest actually meeting up. That sucked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2011): i am not trying to discourage you. go for it if you want but remember if someone is such a good catch, they wouldnt have to rely on these dating sites. if a man cannot get a woman and a woman cant get a man, at least you have a fall back. go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2011): Online dating is becoming common among REAL career individuals. Try looking that up, if you can. As a career woman myself, one does not have time to socialize much. Therefore online sites become a viable and logical option. My advice is to avoid the free sites because I am certain some of the men are prowlers. Most creeps won't bother to spend 40 bucks a month on eharmony or match. Maybe they can't afford it haha. They only have enough for a couple of cheap drinks. Disregard the thoughtless comments. It is not a desperate road. I agree with Bernard. Go to the nearest metropolis and hit the art scene, shows, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): I do think you are concentrating on material things too much - looks, income etc - and sex. If that comes across on sites then you will attract men wanting sex. And one month is no time at all. Take time to get to know someone.It is difficult in general to find the right person but my advice is to find men you can meet naturally, say by finding something you are interested in to join. Say you like salsa dancing, join a class, or something like that. Having something in common helps things to develop naturally. Think about your personality rather than looks etc. Personality is more important in the long run.I hope this helps. I tried dating sites but they seemed to be full of men who couldn't commit, or didn't want to. I have heard that some people are lucky, in fact one of my friends is in a happy relationship with someone she met on a dating site. If you continue with this option, ask around people what your personality traits are and play down the looks - they can see your photo. And think carefully when they answer, and don't be too keen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Dating sites are for the dreamers of the world. It is sad really. I am so grateful life has not led me down that desperate road. I dont reccomend becoming openly desperate. Men will exploit that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Men prowl dating sites for sex. They know the women on them are vulnerable and desperate. The easiest ones to drop their pants are the ones getting over a recent break up. As a prowler, I advise you to look elsewhere if you want a serious relationship. I have had more pussy off those sites than a lost cats sanctuary.
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