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writes:So a while ago my best friend asked me if I had feelings for her, I said I did. She had her suspicions because she thought I cared too much and came out and asked, and I answered truthfully. Before hand I knew she didn't like me that way because when someone thought we were a couple she was quick to say eww, no he's my best friend. Also, she told me that she only saw us as friends after i told her I had feelings for her. I decided not to tell her and went on helping her through things like family troubles, boyfriend troubles, ect. She used to tell me everything, talk to me all the time and doesn't anymore, it's at that awkward stage afterward. We run in the same circle of friends and she tries to avoid me as much as possible too, like when i'm not there i see her talking and everything then when I come in and she gets all quiet. I want to be there for her still and everything, to be her best friend like before. I want to be there and care, but i feel like i'm not allowed to and I don't know why. My questions are: Why do I feel like i'm not allowed to care?How long does the awkwardness usually last?After the awkwardness subsides, do you think that we could probably go back to being best friends like we were earlier?(tried to ask her this one but she avoiding me so yea)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): It shouldn't last long.. I too had feelings for my best friend .. And yes it was weird at first, but since being best friends since the third grade we were so use to being around it each everyday, the awkwardness didn't last long..and finally told him when we were in high school, I told him how I felt but also I told him that I would rather have him as a friend.. Because our friendship means more to me than anything and I wouldn't want to lose him.. And we've been best friends for 20 years..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): Unfortunately it never goes back to the way it was before. She doesn't want to feel like she is leading you on, maybe eventually she may be ready to be friends again, maybe not, only time will tell. But it will never be the same again. Sorry to have to say it but it is true.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (30 December 2011):
 Tell her you want to talk to her. Tell her she is still your best friend no matter what. She's avoiding you because she feels feelings are now involved. Tell her and show her you can handle your feelings because you didn't just start feeling like this yesterday its been this way for a while, but you handled yourself anyways. You may also want to tell her that its a phase you re going through and it will pass soon enough. As a best friend I'll say test the waters first before revealing feelings. If its not mutual, it can be odd.
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reader, bitch please +, writes (30 December 2011):
 Thats adorable first of all, and you should care! The awkwardness sholdnt last long, tell her you like her but dont push anything just stay friends, I bet she does like you but is just shy bc you were such good friends.. ive had that happen before (:
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