My ex was rotten to me so why do I only remember the good times?
Q. So it's been three months since my ex dumped me. He's quick-tempered and abusive and never respected me while we're with his friends. We had no contact after we broke up. But every month he would call or write me messages and asked me to call him ...
A. 1 August 2013: "Because people have a need to be accepted, so when we're mistreated by our loved ones, instead of leaving them to find happiness somewhere else, we stay with them and crave every bit of positive attention they give us." I couldn't have sa... (read in full...)
How can I believe that he isn't cheating when he's using porn and having phone sex?
Q. Me and my fiance are together now for almost 8 years we have 2 boys together as far as I know him he is watching porn and keep on denying it, I cought him 4 times already having phonesex with other woman, he keeps on saying he will never cheat on me ...
A. 1 August 2013: Sorry, I have to disagree with the poster who said he's not a cheater. A lot of people, both men and women would consider phone sex cheating. Why? Because you're INTERACTING with another person sexually, even if it's not in person. Why is that ... (read in full...)
How much does fat matter during sex?
Q. So! I'm going to fool around with a really good guy friend this Friday, problem is he is super skinny and I've got about 30lbs on this guy. We are of the same height. I always wear baggy clothes (I have an eating disorder and I've always been ...
A. 1 August 2013: You answered your own question when you said he seems to like girls who are fit. So it's certainly possible he'll be put off by your extra weight. If you're willing to take that chance, go ahead and mess around with him. If not, then wait until you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are in love but I am a lesbian and she says she is bisexual and I wasn't her first choice. I don't know if we can fix this.
Q. I am gay and my girlfriend says she is a bisexual - she says she ignored it for fear, don't accept it, even fell in love with her best friend once, but lied to herself -, but today we were talking about it, about her exes (all boys)and I said "I am ...
A. 1 August 2013: Just because you weren't her first choice doesn't mean she would trade you in if her first choice were to become available. To me, her saying "it wasn't the first, but the best", means she feels you were the best choice regardless of what her first ... (read in full...)
My face is attractive but I'm quite flabby and I'm worried girls would be put off
Q. My question is the type usually asked by females, who are generally more unsecure about their bodies. Looking on the internet, it seems from the blogs discussing the male body part that females find attractive, it seems that the great majority o...
A. 1 August 2013: Ask yourself would you be put off by a woman with a flabby body? Even if she has a beautiful face? Just to be clear, I'm not asking whether or not you would date a woman like that. I'm asking would you be as attracted to her as a woman who is thin? ... (read in full...)
Need Advice to get my best male friend back!!
Q. I need help, I'm confused and hurt! I'm a 29 year old female with two kids that just now file for a divorce, before our divorce I always call my childhood friend (married man now) for advice cause he's always good at that, he's the type of friend y...
A. 29 July 2013: The other people on this thread seem to think the OP is being selfish. I would agree, except for the fact her best friend was a CHILDHOOD friend. It's not like she just met him, or has only been friends with him a few years. She's known him most if ... (read in full...)
I met a guy on Facebook, we spoke and he seemed really interested, now he seems to have gone cold
Q. I met a guy in Facebook two weeks ago. I sent him a friend request and he accepted me. he sent me a message after he accepted my request." Hello I just want to say hi you are beautiful" and I responded to him saying hi and we kept chatting. after we ...
A. 29 July 2013: Facebook is so impersonal. You're going to have to meet him in person if you hope for him to develop feelings for you. Saying you miss him might be freaking him out a little. How can you really miss someone you've never met? He might be worried ... (read in full...)
My new girlfriend is very attractive and it makes me feel insecure
Q. Hi I'm a 24 year old guy seeing a girl of the same age. I fairly recently got out of a 3 year relationship which didn't work and am now seeing this new girl. This is going to sound like a strange issue but here goes... She is really good look...
A. 29 July 2013: It's best if you just enjoy the relationship and not question yourself about why she is with you. The answer is because she wants to be.
Just about all women are insecure about their looks. So she probably feels what you feel a lot of the time... (read in full...)
What is nervous porn?
Q. Hi I'm in a six month relationship with a great guywho I recently saw has masses of nervous porn deleted from his pc in his recycle bin. He's 45 and I'm just wondering what this is? I haven't restored these files. Im worried because I have a teen ...
A. 29 July 2013: "Im the OP. I talked to him and he blew up saying I made him feel like a pervert and he likes lots of different porn. I feel worse than ever :'(" Don't take responsibility for his feelings. It's likely he already felt like a pervert for the ... (read in full...)
Need Advice to get my best male friend back!!
Q. I need help, I'm confused and hurt! I'm a 29 year old female with two kids that just now file for a divorce, before our divorce I always call my childhood friend (married man now) for advice cause he's always good at that, he's the type of friend y...
A. 27 July 2013: You did nothing wrong. It's not your fault your friend has a jealous, paranoid wife. I've had something similar happen to me as well. I became friends with a guy I met at a temp job, and everything was great til he got back together with one of his ... (read in full...)
I lost my best friend because I didn't want to date her. Now she has shut me out of her life and it really hurts
Q. Hi everyone. My best friend has had feelings for me for a long time, we both knew it but we decided to not worry about the future when I would fall in love with someone else and "just enjoy today". She knew I didn't feel the same and said she wa...
A. 27 July 2013: Yes, you handled it right. You did the best thing you could for her by not leading her on. She may be hurting right now which is why she blew up at you and blocked you. She would be hurting so much worse if you had led her on, though. Just keep that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to sports news and it's driving me insane
Q. Help. My bf is addicted to sports news. When he wakes up in the morning he has to watch and read sports news on tv, he listens to more than 5 radio stations consecutively just to hear sports news which is more or less repeatitive anyway. During the ...
A. 26 July 2013: Moderation is the key here, and he definitely needs to cut back if it's interrupting his sleep. Too much of anything is bad for you. You need to spell it out for him, apparently. Maybe he doesn't even realize how much time he spends on sports.... (read in full...)
We break up, make up and then he wants to break up again
Q. Ok my bf of about a year and I have been going thru things. First off he really tried to break up with me ON our 1 year anniversary OVER THE PHONE I could not help but cry and plead for him (which I know was all based on instant emotions). We ...
A. 26 July 2013: Make up/break up relationships don't work, period. Clinging to this guy will only prevent you from finding a guy who truly wants to be with you. Block this one on any social sites so you won't be tempted to check up on him, as this will only make it ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have trouble keeping his erection?
Q. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are having sex, he has trouble maintaining his erection. The other day, he went soft while I was on top. So I decided to give him oral, and he had no problem getting hard again and then reaching climax. This has ...
A. 26 July 2013: It could be he's worried or stressed out that he's not pleasing you, but I'm leaning more towards what person12345 says. It seems more like a case of too much masturbation, and/or porn. At his age, keeping his erection shouldn't be a problem. Even ... (read in full...)
I cheated with my ex. How do I make it up to my b/f?
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend yesterday with one of my ex. I love my current boyfriend and i couldn't get away with it. I know it sounds bitchy and i know cheating is voluntary and all that shit, but i truely feel guilty and regretted. I wanna make up ...
A. 26 July 2013: The sooner you tell him, the better. There is always a chance he'll forgive you. However, don't expect it to be one of those things where you apologize and everything is instantly okay. Cheating is very hurtful, and it takes a long time for the ... (read in full...)
I think about sex too much with younger good looking men
Q. I have been divorced for some years now and I have never thought about sex so much. Last year I had major surgery and I think that played a part in how I feel now. When I joined a dating site I got guys telling me how sexy I am and I even had phone ...
A. 26 July 2013: I admit this can be a lot of fun. I used to do it back when I was teenager. It's for the most part anonymous, as long as you don't give out any personal information, such as your real name, address, or phone number. (I think you took it a little too ... (read in full...)
My landlord wants to date me and is buying and fixing things in the apartment. It's scaring me, what do I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I've recently moved to a new city. I was pretty upset the first time I met my landlord, as my flatmates decided that me being the new girl, they could play a cruel trick. So he helped me out and sorted the situation. Compl...
A. 24 July 2013: Compliment him, flatter him even, but in the end tell him you feel it's inappropriate to get involved since he's your landlord. He should understand. After all, if you got together and then broke up, think of how much more awkward it would be than ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me for not having sex with him
Q. I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex ...
A. 24 July 2013: He would have broken up with you anyway. The fact he gave you the ultimatum shows that's all he cared about, and even more so when he said "no problem", when you chose breaking up. It shows he wasn't hurt at all by your decision which to me proves ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to open myself up to others and become more social?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm just curious to know If anyone can help me. I have social issues. I'm a reserved person, not so much shy, but I find it extremely hard to communicate with people even when I really want to ? When I'm interested in a guy and he'...
A. 24 July 2013: First off, it's normal to get tongue tied when you're trying to talk someone you're really attracted to. Everyone deals with that at some point or another. I recommend practicing on guys you're only moderately attracted to. I'm not saying lead them ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate or inappropriate for your sister to live with your soon-to-be ex husband?
Q. Appropriate or inappropriate? My husband and I were having problems. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and requested to live in the house, I said no and gave her other options. My husband and I were on the verge of separation, I didn't think it ...
A. 24 July 2013: For now, it's inappropriate since you're technically still married. However, once the divorce is final, you no longer have any say in what your ex husband decides to do. If he and your sister start something, just be glad you're out of the picture. ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend masturbate to his ex girlfriends facebook pictures?
Q. Is it possible that my boyfriend masturbates to his ex girlfriends facebook page? He used to watch a bit of porn everyday. I didn't mind this but he said that he did it out of boredom (he works mornings and evenings and has a lot of hours off during ...
A. 16 July 2013: No, you shouldn't worry. It doesn't sound like it's even a remote possibility. You said he doesn't even look through her pictures. You also said she has no sexy pictures up. The only time I've ever heard of a guy masturbating over facebook pictures ... (read in full...)
I always cheat on my wife, how can I stop this bad behavior?
Q. dear cupid I am a male aged 35, I am married with 2 kids with my wife, and I has another dougther with my Ex, of which we parted ways 12 years back. I married my wife 9 years back. Here is my problem. I has never be faithful in my marriage, I ...
A. 13 July 2013: I'm sorry, but it sounds to me like you're just one of those people who was never meant to settle down. Monogamy is not meant for everyone, you know. It depends on the individual. Some people have no trouble at all committing to one person ... (read in full...)
My best friend is slowly becoming someone I can't stand to be around...
Q. So my best friend (and honestly like the best friend I've ever had) is straight up just conceited, like all he talks about is how good looking he is and always brags to me about how many girls find him attractive, and pretty much is just becoming a ...
A. 12 July 2013: Do you tend to shy away from girls? Do you find yourself attractive? Maybe in all his bragging, he's trying to encourage you to talk to girls more? He might be bragging to try to get the point across how wonderful it feels to to be around so many ... (read in full...)
For the men who use porn, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating?
Q. I'm not sure if this has been asked before but here goes those men who use porn when they have a girlfriend, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating? Surely you find them the most attractive so what's it all about, we need this ...
A. 12 July 2013: My guess is because many of them don't find it that exciting to fantasize about what they already have in real life. But keep in mind just because a man is fantasizing doesn't mean he wants it to come true. I think it's the same with women. They can ... (read in full...)
Why are the people I work with so nasty?
Q. Why are the people I work with so nasty? I'm so upset:(? I've gotten a new job 2 months ago and I love my job but the people I work with are just pure nasty and bitchy. They are all friends and one big group and they've just left me...
A. 11 July 2013: Don't take it personally, I'm sure the reason they're acting this way actually has nothing to do with you. Usually, the reason behind this kind of behavior is jealousy. Just keep that in mind. Don't argue with them anymore, it only motivates them to ... (read in full...)
He's too hairy for me! How do I tell him without hurting his feelings?
Q. dear cupid, i had just went on a first date with this guy hes really sweet and really funny we get along great. he says hes very uncomfortable with his body, i told him he has a great body type and he asks me " are you sure?" and i said yes we start ...
A. 11 July 2013: Tell him you like his body type, the only thing is you prefer less body hair. I don't think it would hurt his feelings that much, even if he is insecure about his body, because you have no problem with his body itself. It's just the hair you don't ... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for thinking that the cosmetic surgery took something away?
Q. There's this girl that I used to date, she was so beautiful and now she's had a nose job. Nothing drastic, she just got rid of the bump on her nose to have it straightened and had the tip raised a bit. It looks really good, if I didn't know her ...
A. 10 July 2013: You admitted you thought she looked better after the nose job, and that you wouldn't have known if you'd met her after the fact. The only reason you dislike it is because you know it's not her real look. Think about this: How many other beautiful ... (read in full...)
She is the only one who turns me on -- is this a problem?
Q. Hi I'm not too sure if this is a problem or not. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years. We had a 2 month break at one stage. To the point, my girlfriend is the only girl that turns me on... It's strange,, I look at a pretty...
A. 9 July 2013: Hell no, you don't need help! Who cares if it's not "normal"? Sure some other men might tell you you're "weird", but deep down they are probably jealous! I also think a lot of women would be happier if there were more men out there like you. If you ... (read in full...)
She keeps bringing up my ex-girlfriends!
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for just under a year now. We have a really great relationship. We laugh, have fun together and a great sex life. I find her really attractive too, I love her and I can see myself spending my life with her. ...
A. 9 July 2013: If you asked her to never bring it up again, and she agreed, then all you can do now is wait and see if she'll stick to her word. I have a feeling she won't. She sounds like a real piece of work, and nothing you can possibly say to her will sto... (read in full...)
Swinging gone terribly wrong, am I stupid for staying?
Q. I am a 41 year old married woman for 16 years. I got my husband into swinging then I began an longtime affair for over 10 years. I do not want to swing anymore. I just recently stopped my affair within the last year, my husband is still a swinger ...
A. 9 July 2013: No, I don't think you're stupid. Your self esteem is in the toilet and why wouldn't it be? In general, I think swinging is a bad idea because it causes too much jealousy, and there's always the possibility that one of the people involved in the ... (read in full...)
Why do they keep talking about her to me?
Q. Why does my ex-girlfriend family keep bringing this girl up in conversations whenever I see them? If I talk to the mother or father it’s always "have you seen her" or they try to tell me the things she’s doing which I don’t care about. The aunt who ...
A. 9 July 2013: While your ex may not have been able to see it, her parents think you're a good person which is probably why they still talk to you. They bringing her up to you whenever possible to see what your reaction will be, to see if you still care about her ... (read in full...)
How old were you when you kissed someone?
Q. just asking, how old where you when you kissed somebody or anybody?????...
A. 9 July 2013: I was 15... (read in full...)
Me, the socially anxious goof accidentally sends friend request… do I contact him and explain?
Q. So this is probably going to sound like the dorkiest thing ever, but I need some help. I started college last fall and it was a real struggle for me to leave home and adjust. There were a lot of things that went wrong my first few weeks at school ...
A. 9 July 2013: I think you're worrying too much. What's wrong with sending a friend request? It's not like you haven't met him in person. Hell, if sending a friend request to someone you haven't seen in awhile is "creepy", then I'm certainly in trouble. I always ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely that won’t be taking things any further?
Q. So I went on a date with his guy and I don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to peruse a relationship with him. We met in a bar exchanged numbers and he asked me out on a date. We meet up and everything is fine but about an hour into the date, he...
A. 8 July 2013: Keep this in mind if you're worried about coming off as rude: It's more rude to say nothing, and leave him wondering than it is to just tell him how you feel.
Tell him you're not interested because he came on too strong on the first date. Le... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?
Q. hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...
A. 8 July 2013: Yes, it matters. A lot. Yes, the inside counts too obviously. But, over time you'll notice it's pretty sexually frustrating to be in an exclusive relationship with someone you're not attracted to. Also, think about if the tables were turned and you ... (read in full...)
Do men ever fantasize about someone who is less attractive than their partner?
Q. Am curious about some thing. I've been told men are never truly satisfied with who they got at home, and are forever fantasizing about being with other women. What I wonder is do they ever fantasize about women who are less attractive than ...
A. 7 July 2013: I imagine they do. I'm married, but sometimes fantasize about men who probably wouldn't be considered attractive by every woman. I'm not that attracted to conventionally handsome men, but I know a lot of women who are. It's all about personal ... (read in full...)
After first time sex that I thought we both enjoyed, the next morning he tells me my behind smells!
Q. Ok so I started seeing this guy and we dig each other. The other night we had sex for the first time and everything was going well.... we had amazing sexual chemistry and couldn't keep out hands off each other. Throughout the night he kept telling ...
A. 7 July 2013: Is he from a country where people wash their butts after they go to the bathroom? If so, he would be able to sense an odor whereas other guys you've been with might not. If they were all American, and he wasn't, that would make sense.
Anoth... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a strange issue with food?
Q. This is probably a rather weird question, but I was at a BBQ with my girlfriend, and the food was being served to us. Someone handed her a plate, and it had a small amount of corn on it. She freaked out, refused to look at it, and asked me to remove ...
A. 3 July 2013: Maybe she had a really bad experience with corn?
I ask because my husband's aunt who to this day won't eat anything that is blue. For example, when she gets a bag of m&ms she picks out all the blue ones, and either throws them away or gives th... (read in full...)
How do I explain when comments about other women are out of line?
Q. Gonna get straight to the point. I'm bisexual, I've never actually dated a girl, fooled around in college a little more than i probably shouldve. fast forward some years, and now its me and my fiance, he and I. We have the sort of relationship that ...
A. 2 July 2013: Maybe say, "I have a lot of fun with you pointing out the hotties to each other, but sometimes I feel you take it too far. It's one thing to acknowledge and appreciate beauty when you see it, but it's another to share every detail of thoughts about ... (read in full...)
I like my male friend but he just told me he wanted to go visit another girl.
Q. I'm starting to have romantic feelings for one of my guy friends and recently he mentioned in one of our conversations that he would really like to travel to see this other mutual friend (a girl) that lives in a different state. Lately we have bee...
A. 2 July 2013: It's hard to say, but if he only mentioned he wanted to visit her and nothing else, I wouldn't read too much into it. Since the other girl is a mutual friend, it could be he just wants to visit her because it's been a long time since he last saw ... (read in full...)
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