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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are having sex, he has trouble maintaining his erection. The other day, he went soft while I was on top. So I decided to give him oral, and he had no problem getting hard again and then reaching climax. This has been a problem pretty often. But I have a feeling it's not because of me...I can't think of anything that I could be doing wrong, turning him off, etc. So why is this happening to him? Is he worried about pleasing me? I don't understand.Even though it's not my fault, it does kind of make me feel bad. I know for a fact that I'll never be the one to initiate sex, because if he can't get hard it is going to make me feel like i'm being rejected. I also have a high sex drive...I can't deal with only having sex once a week, if that. How do I talk to him about this without ruining everything or making him feel bad, which will probably just make things worse? Also, any ideas on why this happens to him?
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (26 July 2013):
 It could be he's worried or stressed out that he's not pleasing you, but I'm leaning more towards what person12345 says. It seems more like a case of too much masturbation, and/or porn. At his age, keeping his erection shouldn't be a problem. Even if he's not using porn, masturbating too much can cause this to happen. Ask him about it. I suspect he won't want to admit it to you, especially if he's using porn, because a lot of women get upset over porn, so guys lie/hide it. But hopefully you saying something will make him realize he needs to cut back. He might not even be aware that over masturbating can cause this, so you saying something should help.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 July 2013):
 Given your age I wonder how often he uses porn and/or masturbates? That seems to be a growing cause of impotence in young men, and the fact that increasing the stimulation helped hints at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2013): The next time it happens i would talk to him away from the bedroom see if he is stressed or worried about anything it could be any number of things causing it he might be tired stressed may not be feeling well just talk to him and be sensitive to what he says good luck
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