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writes:Am curious about some thing. I've been told men are never truly satisfied with who they got at home, and are forever fantasizing about being with other women. What I wonder is do they ever fantasize about women who are less attractive than their Partner? Or is it only women who are equally attractive or better looking? Reply to this Question
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole  +, writes (7 July 2013):
 I imagine they do. I'm married, but sometimes fantasize about men who probably wouldn't be considered attractive by every woman. I'm not that attracted to conventionally handsome men, but I know a lot of women who are. It's all about personal preference.
There are also many types of beauty. What one person finds attractive, another might think is a dog. You might see a girl who you find fat or ugly and assume you're "safe" from your partner fantasizing about her. But for all you know, he might not see what you see. He might think she's beautiful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013): Yes we do. There's a lot more than just looks that attracts us to women. Confidence, how she carries herself, how she interacts with other people, intelligence, etc. Believe it or not for me a woman with a great sense of humour who I don't find physically attractive will be sexy in my mind.
"I've been told men are never truly satisfied with who they got at home" That's bullshit, told to you by some bitter person who thinks all men are dogs.
I'm 100% satisfied with my fiancée, just because I imagine other realities and have an active imagination doesn't mean I'm not 100% happy with her. She too likes to fantasize about other guys, whether that's an actor or another.
Everyone fantasizes OP, everyone day dreams it doesn't mean we're not happy. I used to fantasize about being a rock star, do you think I hate my life just because I never became one?
OP only idiots stay with a person they're not completely satisfied with and I'm not talking about minor annoyances, nobody's perfect. If someone is not enough for you then go find someone who is. That's not a male thing, women fantasize just as much and fantasy doesn't mean we're not completely satisfied. It just means we like to step outside of our lives and imagine what it would be like to sleep with certain women or drive certain cars or play a concert in front of 50,000 people.
OP try not to be one of those women who thinks men should never ever find anyone else attractive except you. Don't be one of those women that think it's somehow a reflection on you. It's not. You too will find men other than the guy you're with attractive, you too will fantasize about them in either a sexual or intimately romantic way. It doesn't mean a thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013): Women do the same, so the question would also be for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013): It's not necessarily about the looks.It's about something that the wife is not but the other woman is (or seems to be). For example, a man who has a nagging/whining wife may fantasize about another woman he knows who nags less, even if she doesn't look as good as the wife. Or a man with a clingy wife fantasizes about another woman who is more independent, again even she is not as pretty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013): I agree with Illithid as this question applies to both genders. I fantasize, often I fantasize about people who I think could fill a gap, for example if my boyfriend is a serious guy I may briefly imagine myself with someone more fun and spontaneous. Sometimes it is purely physical and I fantasize about a guy who is young and sexy. Would I act on it? No. I love my boyfriend, nobody compares to him. Nobody can hold me the way he holds me. Nobody can argue with me like he does. Or laugh with me the way we laugh together. It's the little quirks we have as a couple that makes it more special than any fantasy. A fantasy is just a fantasy. It's not real. But it's natural to fantasize, it's human nature and it serves a bigger purpose than you realize. Dreaming and fantasizing enables growth of character and maturity. It prevents you from being complacent, stagnant and "brain dead." Always dreaming/fantasizing of something bigger and better but having the maturity to apply it to the truly important things that matter in your life is golden. It's a part of survival.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (7 July 2013):
 Depends on what you mean by "attractive" I suppose. Physical looks are only one thing. Sure, men love to look, but we still have interest in women who (we think) would fill gaps. Maybe a guy's with a supermodel, but he lusts for that down-to-earth girl who can head out the door without an hour getting dressed. Maybe a guy's got a playful, funny, impulsive girl and he finds himself longing for someone a little more responsible. Hell, I've thought once or twice about a more sexually adventurous girl I know even though she's not really my type in any way, just the thought of someone who's more sexually open. It's not even about the girl, just that role she theoretically could fill.
So in short, yes. But that doesn't mean they aren't satisfied! It's just daydreaming here or there. I also fantasize about being a superhero. Doesn't mean I want to deal with the logistics of actually being one or that I dislike my real life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013): Beauty is in the eye's of the beholder... ugly or not, if they think someone is attractive, then most likely yes, they will fantasize.
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