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writes:Help. My bf is addicted to sports news. When he wakes up in the morning he has to watch and read sports news on tv, he listens to more than 5 radio stations consecutively just to hear sports news which is more or less repeatitive anyway. During the day he's constantly browsing sports pages on the internet. He even wakes up in the middle of the night checking the latest sports updates. It's so bloody annoying! I asked him one time if sports news is more important to him than me. He said ofcourse not and i saw a difference literally just for 2days! I'm so fed up with this i really don't know what to do.
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole  +, writes (26 July 2013):
 Moderation is the key here, and he definitely needs to cut back if it's interrupting his sleep. Too much of anything is bad for you. You need to spell it out for him, apparently. Maybe he doesn't even realize how much time he spends on sports.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 July 2013):
 Tell him to tone it down while he's with you. That you want more of his attention to be on you (or anything else!) and not sports. When he's on his own he can go crazy and watch sports all day, but when with you he needs to tone it down. Then define how much of this you will be comfortable with. For example, maybe you are okay with him checking the news/radio once every hour (don't know how often he does it to begin with). Or maybe you are okay with him checking the news once in the evening, but he can sit and check it for 30 minutes, or maybe even an hour? Or maybe you are okay with one hour a day, and he can distribute the hour into smaller periods of 5-10 minutes through-out the day?
Telling him to only check the sports two times every time he's around you will be easy to do though, rather than take the time on how much time he spends on this. Make a compromise. You aren't asking him to stop, you're asking him to find a middle point between what he's doing now, and what you would prefer (that he stop completely). Compromise on something, so that he can check what he wants to check, while you're not bothered by it.
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reader, Caftin  +, writes (26 July 2013):
 It sounds like he may have an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Don't take my word for it obviously, I'm no doctor.But if it's as bad as all that, then no amount of "talks" will get him to change permanently. You could give him ultimatums and what not, but that runs the risk of just a few days extra good behaviour before he's back to his old tricks again :/You may see this as an extreme option but please don't, because I think maybe you could both benefit from couples counseling, because she/he will make him confront his extreme habits and help you both with your relationship.I did this with my own relationship because my boyfriend was completely obsessed with gaming to the point where I fell down the last few stairs in our home and twisted my ankle, he came 10minutes later... ¬_¬Nowadays, we're a lot healthier, he's not as absorbed in his games anymore, but we have an understanding and the counselor really does help :) Hope this helped you and that everything works out for you!
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