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writes:So this is probably going to sound like the dorkiest thing ever, but I need some help.I started college last fall and it was a real struggle for me to leave home and adjust. There were a lot of things that went wrong my first few weeks at school and one of them was this guy. He was super nice but after knowing me for just a day or two, he asked me for my number. I grew up being really sheltered and naive and that seemed really forward to me. So, I kind of fibbed and told him I didn't have a phone (it wasn't completely untrue - my phone had broken and I was using my dad's phone until I got my new one in). Later, I realized he had probably seen me in class on my phone and I was so so so embarrassed. And being the socially anxious goof that I am, I avoided him like crazy. He was kind of cold towards me at first but by the end of the semester he was trying to talk to me and be nice again. So, anyway, second semester I saw him around campus some and he was always friendly. Then I read something he published in the newspaper and it was good. Really good. And I felt even more dumb for not just giving him my number. WELL, the other day he appeared in my "suggested friends" on Facebook and I was just going to go peek at his page and I accidentally clicked the "send friend request" button when I was trying to look at his cover photo!! Keep in mind we haven't talked in at least two or three months and even then it was just a brief conversation. My question is, now that he probably already thinks I'm a big ole creep, would it be too weird if I sent him a quick message saying I really enjoyed his article in the paper? I still feel really bad about kind of lying to him and I feel like this might kind of make up for it but I don't want to be ridiculously creepy. Any suggestions??
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (9 July 2013):
 I think you're worrying too much. What's wrong with sending a friend request? It's not like you haven't met him in person. Hell, if sending a friend request to someone you haven't seen in awhile is "creepy", then I'm certainly in trouble. I always thought that was the idea of facebook, to reconnect with people, and stay in contact with those you otherwise wouldn't bother with.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (9 July 2013):
Not that it is creepy but it seems a bit too much all at once to send a request AS WELL as a message. If you rly didn't mean to send the request (I think you did mean to send it) you can always go back to his profile and cancel the request.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 July 2013):
 I would just ignore it til he does something. Either he will ignore your request, or he will accept. IF he accept then tell him "congrats" on the article (or whatever it is you wanted to say about that).
Go from there. It's JUST Facebook - it's NOT a big deal.
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