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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi Everyone, I'm just curious to know If anyone can help me. I have social issues. I'm a reserved person, not so much shy, but I find it extremely hard to communicate with people even when I really want to ? When I'm interested in a guy and he's talking to me, I cannot converse with him. I just laugh, smile, say oh, and okay every once in a while, but I want to be that girl who can just talk back without a problem. There are very few people I can talk to like its nothing, conversation just flows so easy but for the other 95%, I just don't know how. I'm starting college soon, and I'm so afraid of being alone and not being able to show people the real me.
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (24 July 2013):
 First off, it's normal to get tongue tied when you're trying to talk someone you're really attracted to. Everyone deals with that at some point or another. I recommend practicing on guys you're only moderately attracted to. I'm not saying lead them on, just practice by having a conversation with them.
You mentioned you have a few people you can talk to. So if you don't feel right about doing my first suggestion, you could try picturing one of those people you're completely comfortable with in your head while talking to guys you're interested in. Pretend you're talking to them instead. You can also try doing that with people you'd like to be friends with. Then once you've gotten past the "getting to know you" phase with the new people, you will also be able to talk to them like it's nothing.
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