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writes:So my best friend (and honestly like the best friend I've ever had) is straight up just conceited, like all he talks about is how good looking he is and always brags to me about how many girls find him attractive, and pretty much is just becoming a cynical asshole... How do I tell him that it seriously gets on my nerves and is ridiculously annoying without jeopardizing our friendship?
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (12 July 2013):
 Do you tend to shy away from girls? Do you find yourself attractive? Maybe in all his bragging, he's trying to encourage you to talk to girls more? He might be bragging to try to get the point across how wonderful it feels to to be around so many girls so you'll do the same. Just happened to think of that. He's going about it the wrong way if all it's doing is annoying you, though. Just ask him why he does it, and ask him to tone it down a bit. No need to jeopardize your friendship over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): If his behavior annoys you, i suggest for you to talk to him and tell him about it in a nice manner. Where in you could not offend him but at the same time he would understand.
It may break or make your friendship stronger.
My tip to you is to distance yourself a little from your best friend, If your friend wont stop from his annoying attitude. (because for heaven's sake you don't need to hear his drama.like his the god of all gods.)
You should also ask yourself, maybe your not being a good friend to your best friend too. Sometimes we often see the mistakes of other people without seeing your own.
Friendship is something that we should treasure, its hard to find a true friend. If admiring his own is the only things that makes him a bad friend, I think its a shallow reason to end your friendship with him.
Just a little distance and tell him the truth, what annoys you and then maybe he could change that. Then everything will go back to normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): That's what friends are for. They tell us what we don't want to hear but need to hear. They do it with love and with our best interest at heart.
First of all, he is said to be your best friend. How could you possibly jeopardize your friendship by telling him he is acting like a prime A-hole, if he is? Believe me, the people who don't like him will tell him in a skinny-minute, and will not care.
You owe it to yourself and to him, to tell a bro when to cool his jets. He is at that age when he is starting to appreciate the fact he is handsome, and girls like it.
It's going to his head, and you need to bring him back; before he becomes so stuck on himself people will start to hate him. He'll start losing friends, and girls will start to dump him when he gets a big head.
Conceited people love themselves too much. That's narcissism. They begin to treat people badly because of it.
Take a chance to tell him how you feel about how he has been acting lately. If it jeopardizes your friendship; it means he was not really as much of a friend as you thought.
If he's an A-hole anyway, you have nothing to lose.
You can only take so much; before you just shake your head, wave, and walk away anyway.
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