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I joined this site because I always love the problem pages in magazines and people say that I have good advice.
Im quite young, but I'm not inexperienced and I'm quite mature for my age. I'm good at seeing most situations from other points of view and try not to judge other people before I really get to know them.
I'm just a typical girl, I love shopping, straightners and make up ;) but I also read ALOT of books, I have read over 100 books at least and I love listening to and trying to solve peoples problems. I have also been a vegetarian for almost 7 years now. :)
I live in Scotland and have a boyfriend that I will have been with for 9 months on the 18th and he's just amazing and loves me for me :)
Like most people I've had my share of ups and downs, I've had an operation for scoliosis in february '08 and have been depressed and had some issues with my anger which I'm controlling well at the moment and I'm pretty happy with my life. :)
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I don't believe in true love so I want my friend to pop my cherry!
Q. How can I convince my friend to pop my cherry before I go off to the college? I really don't believe in "True Love", so I'm not waiting for the right man....
A. 7 August 2009: You shouldnt have to 'convince' anyone to have sex with you, they should want to willingly. Why cant you wait until you get a boyfriend and have sex with them? I just dont understand why you want to 'get rid' of your virginity? Can you te... (read in full...)
We have decided to lose our virginity to each other....but I'm scared and uncomfortable with my body
Q. Hey... Well ive been dating this guy for around 3 almost 4 years and like latley hes been like beenig wayyyy to much of a sweetheart :) and i love it! :] We are both 18 and agree that we are ready to loose are virginitys to each other... It will soo...
A. 22 July 2009: Dont worry, I get called way too skinny aswell.. but my boyfriend still loves my body. If he didnt love you for you, why would he be with you?
I think you should put that incident in the past and move on to the future.
Also I didnt bleed when... (read in full...)
Why am I a secret when I'm carrying his child?
Q. My boyfriend and i zak have been off an on for almost 8 months. Well, ous relationship has been full of alot of good things and there has been many heart breaking moments. We just found out that we're having a baby and i told my parents and they're ...
A. 22 July 2009: Only he knows why he kept you a secret, I'm afraid none of us can really tell you for sure.
The only reason I could think of would be he was embaressed of you? Otherwise I can't understand why he would make your relationship and baby a secret? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 22 July 2009: It sounds like this guy is using you, if he really loved you he wouldn't threaten to leave you just because you wouldn't do something to him.
You shouldn't have been pressured into to doing anything in the first place. It sounds to me like hes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cums too early, help?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend can't have sex with me for over 5 minutes without orgasming. We do have amazing sex (during that 5 minute period) don't get me wrong, its just its not exactly a very long time for me. I don't know what to do. I know for a fact ...
A. 22 July 2009: I have this problem with my boyfriend too.
Try not to have too much foreplay beforehand, you could also try 'delay' condoms? They're supposed to delay the guy from orgasming. Also you could get him to stop for a few minutes when hes close to orga... (read in full...)
My parents want me to have a baby so they can look after it!
Q. im a 17 year old girl living in the UK! recently, my parents have been a little immature and stupid i think to be honest. my parents have been trying for another baby since i was 2, but were told for personal reasons she will find it very difficult ...
A. 22 July 2009: This sounds like your parents REALLY want a baby bad. I think your mum, because she's getting older will be thinking there will be no other chance in her life to have a baby, she wants you to have one. It sounds like she has a bit of an issue ... (read in full...)
What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity?
Q. Hiya all, I have a question about first time sex for a woman. What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity? Is it when the hymen breaks, or when the vagina stretches? Ive never really been sure? Any help would be great...
A. 22 July 2009: Hmm.. I think its the stretching, because when I lost my virginity my hymen was already broken, (I'm not sure how but I didnt bleed at all and I never have), so I think it's just because its stretching because if you think about it you've never had ... (read in full...)
What is the truth about anal sex?
Q. I want to know the truth about anal sex. does it hurt. and ive heard that you can poo, or there may be remains of poo on the condom after withdrawal, is this true???...
A. 22 July 2009: Well, from personal experience, it hurt. Alot.
I never had any problems with poo on the condom or anything, but if you got to the toilet an hour or so before hand, it may ease your mind.
A tip would be to use lots of lube because theres no natur... (read in full...)
I'm 22. She's 14 and has a crush on me. Is it legal?
Q. Hi, a girl had a crush on me and she would like to have a relationship. She's only 14 y.o. while I'm 22. I never had sex before and she's attracted to me. Would it be legal with her? Thx...
A. 21 July 2009: No I think you both need to move on and find someone nearer your age.... (read in full...)
I'm 22. She's 14 and has a crush on me. Is it legal?
Q. Hi, a girl had a crush on me and she would like to have a relationship. She's only 14 y.o. while I'm 22. I never had sex before and she's attracted to me. Would it be legal with her? Thx...
A. 17 July 2009: No it is definatly NOT legal.
You have to move on, if the police found out about it you'd be prosocuted and labelled as a paedophile.
Your better off finding someone closer your own age that is legal.
Hope you take my advice.
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Am I overreacting or were his hurtful words as bad as it seems?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months and well it has so far been great! im 17 now, but when i was 11 i was raped twice by the same guy. this horrified me, and i havnt told anyone since! apart from my boyfriend, i didnt want to be rushed into sex, ...
A. 17 July 2009: You definatly did not overreact, if he knows youve been raped then he should respect you and wait for you to tell him when your ready to do anything sexual.
Maybe he was embarressed that you turned him down but he still shouldn't have said tho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an ass, a jerk, inconsiderate and makes me cry
Q. Okay, same guy if you've read my questions before. Last night me and my boyfriend were doing things sexually, and i couldnt get him off...this has happend a couple times before and hes drunk...its been an hour or more and he still wants me to keep ...
A. 16 July 2009: Just by reading the title I thought you should get rid of him but by reading this I definatly think you need to find someone that will treat you better. Trying to force you into things is not right, I think you need to find someone better who knows ... (read in full...)
Is he really Straight?
Q. Would a straight guy ever let a gay man give him head? I have a friend that I grew up with, we have known each other for over 15 years. We don't see each other very often but every time we do I give him head. He says he likes girls. Is he rea...
A. 14 July 2009: I think you should tell him how you feel about the situation. Hopefully he will understand, but its up to you to decide whether or not to move in with him. Hope this helps :)... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be bi?
Q. Ok i'm fairly young and for the past few month i have found myself being attracted to other men including some of my closest friends it becomes embarresing when we have to get changed after sports, i find my self starring and people often call me a ...
A. 13 July 2009: Its very normal for people to develop crushes on people of the same sex in teenage years. With your body developing your hormones will be going crazy. You may or may not be bi but I doubt you can tell properly at your age. You can see if you g... (read in full...)
My mum wants to meet my boyfriend but he won't even say hi to her. I can't please everyone!
Q. I feel like im supposed to please everyone, and its impossible and its really getting me down. I am in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend, but he wont come to my house or meet my parents or even say hello to them. this would be fine (b...
A. 13 July 2009: The poor boy is probably just really scared! It feels really intimidating to meet their partners parents for the first time and he will be worrying about what they think of him and if they will like him. I think this would be the only reason I... (read in full...)
I've never had sex so why is my period late?
Q. right. i'm 1 week late for my period if my cycle was to be every 28 days. but im usually every 30 days and always on time basically since i started 3/4 years ago. i just wanted to know why i might be late. its really bugging me. and we can deffo ru...
A. 13 July 2009: Dont worry! This is completly normal your hormones still are working even if you've had your periods for a while. Sometimes stress or worry can prolong a period so try and relax and see if it comes. If not I would go to the doctors just to ... (read in full...)
First time sex. Underage but how do I come across it with my boyfriend?
Q. Im ready to have sex with my boyfriend. I know am 'underage' but I have spoken to my bf about it and we are both ready for this kind of commitment. I didnt come on here to be told am to young and i shouldnt be doing it because I KNOW this okay. ...
A. 13 July 2009: If you feel its the right choice I'm not going to stop you, I was 14 when I lost my v and I haven't regretted it. Anyway make sure you ARE safe, you should have some condoms just encase he forgets. Just by making out with him and just start touch... (read in full...)
When does puberty start?
Q. hey ppl. okay so what i really wanna know is when/what age the body starts developing/puberty, and when does penis size start to increase????...
A. 13 July 2009: Puberty in boys starts later than girls. In guys it usually starts at around 13-15 and can continue into you late teens.
Your penis size should start to increase during this time and will probably continue growing for quite some time.
Hope th... (read in full...)
Thinking about having sex for the first time and need advice!
Q. ok will im 15 and im thinking really hard about havin sex for the first time but im really scarred that its ganna hurt and im not ganna know what to do please help me...
A. 13 July 2009: Only do it if YOU want to. I was 14 when I lost my v and I don't regret it as I was in a stable relationship and I'm still in that relationship and I know that was the right decision for me at the time. Sometimes people say it hurts a lot but o... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome, should I do it to keep him happy?
Q. oh oh now my boyfriend wants a 3 some with another woman just the one off mind to see if it will help him get hard but i dont know how to go about it please help im willing for him to try this just to keep him happy thanx...
A. 13 July 2009: I wouldn't do this. He should be satisfied enough with your relationship if he really loves you and not to want to have a threesome with another woman. I would say this is bad news and stay well clear of doing it, you probably will regret it. ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure my internet boyfriend loves me?
Q. Well i am dating this guy online.... i'm 14 almost 15 and he's 19. We've been dating for 9 months now. He says he loves me.. I've seen tons of pics and him even on webcam so i know he's not lying... he seems like he's rlly in love... but how can i ...
A. 13 July 2009: This doesn't sound like a good relationship.. if he's older than you then he probably is thinking of different things than you. Please be really careful, he may say he's 19, he may look 19 but he could be older you just don't know. I would say do... (read in full...)
Jealous of another student!
Q. i was the smartest girl in class just after miss intelligent came over im alittle jealousd and all the teachers like her now even though i'm better than her in everything other than studies, what do i do? ...
A. 13 July 2009: If your better at a lot of other things than her then why does it matter? You can't be better than everyone at everything, that's what makes us all unique. But if you really want to you could study more and try and learn new talents that you... (read in full...)
I keep thinking I'll never see him again, but I can't stop liking him. What should I do?
Q. I kinda like this guy in my class. The thing is, I'm in China right now. I'm going back to America, but I dont know when. I keep telling myself that I'll nver see him agian in my life, but I can't help liking him. I keep thinking about him before I ...
A. 13 July 2009: Do you have his phone number or msn address? This would be a simple way to remain in contact with him. If you're going back to America then you probably will see him again so stop worrying, its not worth worrying over unless you know for sure... (read in full...)
I get performance anxiety when sleeping with someone for the first time. Would Viagra help? Should I try it?
Q. i get really bad performance anxiety when im with someone new for the first time. it stops me getting an ersction. ive met a girl and feel like im really falling for her. would it be a good idea to use viagra for the first time I sleep with her? I ...
A. 13 July 2009: I don't think you need viagra, I don't think viagra is for people who cant get an erection because they're nervous. Viagra also wont solve the fact you get nervous the first time, I think that's something personal you need to work on. You could... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm not attractive enough for my boyfriend. Should I be so bothered by this?
Q. Hi there. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and I love him very very much. The problem is I'm so insecure about my looks and I can't bear the thought of him looking at other women! It started when I read a message that my boyfrien...
A. 13 July 2009: Maybe what your ex did effected you and the message your boyfriend sent probably didn't help either. Everybody is gorgeous in their own way and you shouldn't think of yourself as 'ugly'.. you need to learn to accept yourself, you could be a lot w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is under the impression I have a really big penis, but I think I'm average. Will she be disappointed?
Q. Ive met a girl that I really really like. and she has also fallen for me to. She has left her boyfriend of six years for me. Anyway, this might sound very stupid but please take it seriousely as it is getting to me. She is under the impres...
A. 13 July 2009: To be honest it doesn't really matter if you are 'big' as most of the nerves in the vagina are located at the beginning of it so it honestly doesn't matter! And 6 inches is not small, its the top end of average, less than 15% of men have a penis... (read in full...)
Vomiting phobia.
Q. i am so terrified of being sick or seeing someone else sick. i have such a phobia of vomiting i cant take it anymore! out of everyone i know, im the one whos always feeling sick. helpppp! what can i do?? i need as many answers as possible. thanks....
A. 13 July 2009: I would try and think back to what could of triggered you having this phobia it might help. If its really bad I would go to the doctor and ask him to see a therapist to see if they can help you.
I know this wont help, but being sick really i... (read in full...)
Did she just use me???
Q. Hello im 14 and i have a dilemma. Well my really good freind.. lets call her christina, just broke up with her boyfriend..so she's been really down lately. and she's been hanging around e for a while, we're always together but alot more now. well ...
A. 13 July 2009: She probably just did this as a spur of the moment thing because she was feeling down about being dumped.. I know this is not a nice thing to hear, but if she has a new boyfriend, she probably doesn't feel the same way that you feel about her. ... (read in full...)
How important is it for you to see your partners face during intercourse
Q. Body language and expression tells a lot. How important is it for you to see your partners face during intercourse? Do you like seeing the expression of pleasure on partners face during sex? Is that good for you? ...
A. 13 July 2009: Personally I dont like my partner watching my face during sex I find it really off putting I cant show any sexual emotion when hes looking at me for some reason..
But I do like to see if hes enjoying it, I just hate it when he looks at me, I fe... (read in full...)
What is your experience of love?
Q. Just some general thoughts and wondering how other people see things. I'm 28 years old, had a few relationships but seemingly haven't found the 'one' yet. This makes me ask myself whether i'm too demanding of what a relationship should be. The t...
A. 12 July 2009: I'm not that old enough to be completly expirienced in relationships, but I think that to love someone you need to except all their imperfections and truely accept them as they are, only then can you truely fall for someone. I have only been i... (read in full...)
Is he really Straight?
Q. Would a straight guy ever let a gay man give him head? I have a friend that I grew up with, we have known each other for over 15 years. We don't see each other very often but every time we do I give him head. He says he likes girls. Is he rea...
A. 12 July 2009: It sounds like he could be in denial here.. If he wasn't attracted to men at all, why would he let you do that? He may not be lying about liking girls but he might be bisexual and in denial, thats what it sounds like. Hope this helps. :)... (read in full...)
He said "we can begin as good friends with no hidden agenda" what does this mean?
Q. I'm really confused. I have split with a long term partner. An old admirer has neen in touch, texting every day, bringing lunch over and flirting by hugging touching my hair etc. I felt a little overwhelmed by his attention and said I needed to ...
A. 12 July 2009: I think he means that you can be friends with no hidden motives of wanting to take it any further. Take it slowly if your not too ready to be in a relationship again and don't get pushed into anything before your ready to begin a relationship aga... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be with me 24/7..is that ok?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 6 months now, he lives with his older brother while I live at home with my parents. He is really good when it comes to calling me everyday to tell me what he's doing. He tells me that he loves me but that he also ...
A. 12 July 2009: I feel like this quite alot, its natural.
But you really need to give him space to see his friends/family. I know it can be hard to let him but you have to or your relationship won't work, trust me from personal experience, my current relation... (read in full...)
What's worse ? being a slut or being 40 years old virgin ?
Q. What is better either having sex with many people or keep virginity until you're way too old ? What do you think ?...
A. 10 July 2009: Save your v for someone special.
:)
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One of my daughters lies constantly
Q. I have two daughters who work together. one is a compulsive liar. lies about herself, family and is constantly telling everyone what the other one is up to. the problem is the lies and everyone knows she exagerates and is lying and they make fun of ...
A. 9 July 2009: You really need to speak to her about this, compulsive lying is not a good thing because she will slip up on details and as you said will laugh at her and eventually turn against her.
I think the best thing to do is sit her down and confront... (read in full...)
Can you buy a toy on-line anonymously?
Q. I'm 17, and I really want to buy some sex toys. I'm a virgin, and I'm not in a relationship, but that's because I'm kinda shy and nervous. But I still love masturbating; I've been doing it for years. The only problem is, I'm getting bored of...
A. 7 July 2009: You seem very anxious, relax. :)
Who are paypal going to tell?
It's the same as buying anything else online so if you think of it that way its ok.
Don't worry, hope you enjoy
;)... (read in full...)
I get the most stimulation by having sex doggystyle...is this strange?
Q. Is this a fetish? Or is it strange at all? I like sex of course, all types of positions and with my partner. But it seems in all my relationships, even in high school, I always got the most stimulation from doggystyle. Sometimes I couldn't even ge...
A. 7 July 2009: No I don't think this is a fetish I think it's just the position you get the most stimulation from and just because seeing a woman from behind gets you 'ready' doesn't mean its a fetish..
We all have our different turn ons... ;)
But if it is ... (read in full...)
Worried about getting braces!
Q. Sorry if this is really long and bores you but I really need some advice. I've had a lisp since I've first learned how to talk, well it isn't a lisp it's with my t's and d's and I use the roof of my mouth to say them and not the back of my teeth but ...
A. 2 July 2009: Dont worry, loads of people I know have braces, some on all their top and bottom teeth and they have no issues with being kissed and they dont make you speak that differently, no lisps on s's , Don't worry I'm sure it will be fine and will benefit ... (read in full...)
How can I take my mind off boys?
Q. heeey x Im 13 and I find myself thinking about boys alot. I really just want to be a normal girl. Im having mood swings lately but it doesn't mean i have gone off boys. Im always thinking about different boys and then i become obssessed and th...
A. 2 July 2009: Don't worry this is normal, all part of puberty same with the mood swings. Its pretty common for girls to be thinking about boys ALOT. Just try and take a step back and really think about whether you would want to be with any of the guys your ... (read in full...)
Help me please - I haven't heard from him since yesterday! I'm so worried!
Q. Hi, I am currently in a long distace relationship with a guy in florida.. We have never met, Anyway yesterday he was at the theme park .. and he sent me a message saying "hey i can't text much but i am going home very soon and i will call y...
A. 2 July 2009: Take a deep breath, relax.
Your just jumping to conclusions. I felt like this quite a few times about my boyfriend. He said he was coming over and he didn't come for ages and his phone went straight to voicemail but I found out later that he miss... (read in full...)
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