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writes:I have two daughters who work together. one is a compulsive liar. lies about herself, family and is constantly telling everyone what the other one is up to. the problem is the lies and everyone knows she exagerates and is lying and they make fun of her behind her back. she tells stories that never happened. i dont know why she needs to do this. not even her boss trusts her anymore. my daughter wants to confront her for her own sake but it will start a problem at work. the lies have to stop but I dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): you need to talk to her. don't make a huge deal out of it but it does seem like she might be so insecure and needs professional help. approach it cautiously because obviously if you start telling her shes a liar and needs therapy she might not respond too well. she'll probably be embarrassed but maybe relieved too
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 You really need to speak to her about this, compulsive lying is not a good thing because she will slip up on details and as you said will laugh at her and eventually turn against her.
I think the best thing to do is sit her down and confront her about this and why shes doing this and even though it seems harsh explain that her lying all the time is making people not like her and turning people away from her.
She may even need to seek help if shes addicted to lying about everything in her life..
Maybe she feels insecure about herself and the only way to make herself feel good is by lying about her life?
Talk to her. Try and get other family and friends to talk to her about this.
Maybe you can brake through to her and she will release lying is just going to make noone believe you, even when your not lying.
Hope this helps & good luck :)
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (9 July 2009):
maybe she has to lie about her life lying can be very addictive its like once she knew that she could get away with doing something she shouldnt be doing maybe she thort:
Ohh lets see if i can fool eny other fools out there?
i suppose its like stealing maybe she gets a thrill out of it.
or maybe shes lying to make herself look better than others or to make out her lifes brilliant when really all she does is sit at home watching telly..maybe she doesnt get out much...???
and i would try and have a chat with her or the next time your present and she tells a lie say:
No..why are you saying that for,you know thats not what happend.
try to do it infront of as much people as you can untill she realizes that she cannot fool enybody enymore and everybody knows shes lying and with a bit of luck she wont see the point in lying cos nobody belives her..get my drift?
good luck ,karma x
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