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writes:Well i am dating this guy online.... i'm 14 almost 15 and he's 19. We've been dating for 9 months now. He says he loves me.. I've seen tons of pics and him even on webcam so i know he's not lying... he seems like he's rlly in love... but how can i be sure of that? we r going to see each other soon but when i meet him i'm gonna be with friends just in case Reply to this Question
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reader, ogxtina +, writes (21 July 2009):
If he says he loves you, and spent 9 months of your precious time talking to each other, then it means something. Don't doubt your relationship with a guy if you guys have been talking for such a long time, but, you always have to be careful!
You shouldn't doubt your online boyfriend unless there's something that makes you doubt. And if you're doubting like you are right now, that's not a very healthy relationship.
And if he's 19 and you're barely 15, that's a huge problem, and your parents will not allow that, at least majority of the parents won't. Meet up with him, get to know him, then talk to your parents about it, unless you're scared to. But letting your parents know about your online boyfriend will keep your safer.
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reader, goaliceclueless  +, writes (13 July 2009):
I've had this problem myself - well not with the age gap thing but the online dating thing. the truth is you can never be sure what he says is true, he says he loves you but hes a 19 year old guy and most 19 year old guys are after one thing. i know people always say that 'he's different' but i can assure you, all guys want it! but he could be a half decent guy, you never know, im not too sure about the meeting up thing because of the age difference but its good that your taking a friend. and like someone said before make sure its in a public place and you have told an adult where you are. i do hope he is a decent guy for you and please let me know how you got on :) xx
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (13 July 2009):
 This doesn't sound like a good relationship.. if he's older than you then he probably is thinking of different things than you. Please be really careful, he may say he's 19, he may look 19 but he could be older you just don't know.I would say don't meet him because of the 4 or 5 year age gap, at your age you should be enjoying your freedom and not worrying about seriously dating anyone, especially a 19 year old. But you probably wont take my advice so please meet somewhere very public and take your friends with you. Remember to tell an adult where your going in case there's trouble.Hope its all ok.x
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (13 July 2009):
 The fact is that the person on the other end of the computer can be anyone. Internet relationships are always dicey. But what Id like to know is what a 19 year old (of legal age) is doing with a 14 year old, internet or not.
Please be very very careful, and if you do meet this man, please have someone with you. And yes, you can't be sure of anything. People can be very decieving online, webcam or not.
If you were older by a few years Id be less concerned than I am. Please be very careful.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 July 2009):
 sweety you can never be sure if he loves you, he could just be playing you because you're young.
i guess you'll just have to meet up with him and see how things pan out with eachother.
but good on you taking friends with you incase he is some psycho guy.
you'll just have to wait and see if he is genuine when you guys meet up :)
hope this helps and good luck be careful!
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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