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writes:i was the smartest girl in class just after miss intelligent came over im alittle jealousd and all the teachers like her now even though i'm better than her in everything other than studies, what do i do?
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reader, Share Bear  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Urghh! I hate this attitude!
I had a friend in school that held similar views in this and her attitude eventually drove me away. And yes- everything revolved around her.
Between one test and the next, despite actually going up in 90-something percent mark, this friend went from being the top of the class to being a close second. Of course, her own personal achievement meant nothing to her; she just wanted to do Better than everyone else.
In effect, she wanted other people to do worse in order to make HER happy! Imagine explaining THAT to the other girl's parents! She would genuinely have agreed to lower her own grade provided the person above her's grade was also lowered enough to be below hers! The actually mark itself didn't matter to her so much as the desire to be at the 'top'.
Of course there are milestones to tick if you want to develop in certain careers- but you are no more likely to get an A just because 'so-and-so' only gets a B. And see how far that attitude would get you in your job interview if you admitted as much to the interview panel!
Until you learn to educate yourself for self-development and for the interest of what you're actually learning about- rather than just to out-do other people, then your efforts will remain fruitless and quite unrewarding in any meaningful sense.
Whatever is the point in reading to the next page just because 'so-and-so' is still on the page before- unless you actually care about what's written there?? I suspect that there are certain intellectuals that would close their books to you on principle!
Learning just so as to compete with other people is as offensive and shallow as dating solely as not to be alone.
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Don't think of this new girl as someone who stole your smartest student status. Turn this jealously into motivation to be back on top once again. Its easy to be on top when no one challenges you but when you have no challenge and stay on top, some people take advantage of that and it bites them in the behind later. There will always be someone better than you, you just have to accept it sometimes and let it go before it spoils your character. By all means work harder to get back on top but if you don't make sure it doesn't let you down. Concentrate on yourself and don't let about anybody else get in the way. The smartest students don't always become the most successful either. I have experienced it, im going to share a short story with you:
I was never the smartest person in class. I always had to work hard especially in math. In middle school I was in basic skills math classes and considered one of the 'dumb' students. Everyone knew it and I would get teased especially by this one girl who was considered the smartest in our school. High school I got better at math, but earned mostly C's in it. I was mediocre, but it was genuine and I worked hard. Nobody considered me smart and that one girl really enjoyed getting on my nerves about how dumb she thought I was. She always told me she never had to work at it and it was always so easy. College acceptances came, she bragged how she got into Harvard and I was accepted to The University of Central Florida-- a state uni. Obviously not as elite as Harvard but I was content to continue my education and shoot for my dream to be a doctor. Many people doubted me. My first year adviser, seeing the C's I got in math encouraged me to think about something else, not premed as I supposedly could not handle the difficult courses. Well I went premed anyway and followed my dream. I ended up surprising everybody, getting into the college of medicine program with a 3.8 GPA, became a TA in organic chemistry and engaging in neuroscience research with one of my profs. I am hoping to get a Ph.D in neuroscience along with my medical degree. No one ever thought I could do it. I just didn't let anyone get in my way and put me down and worked my butt off. And that one girl who made it into Harvard ended up failing out. Supposedly she got caught up in the wrong crowd and partied and ended up doing poorly. Who would have thought? I know it sounds cliche but this is real and it shows that in the long run being the smartest girl in class won't mean a thing.
Keep working hard!!!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Good incentive to get you working even harder and pushing yourself even further. Now you don't have to slide by as the smartest gal, now you have to work for it. And when you begin to see your scores improve and your grammar, spelling and English coming together, victory will be even sweeter. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): Maybe she has the likeable factor
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (13 July 2009):
 If your better at a lot of other things than her then why does it matter? You can't be better than everyone at everything, that's what makes us all unique.But if you really want to you could study more and try and learn new talents that you can show off so you feel better about yourself. Hope this helps.
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reader, Cale03 +, writes (13 July 2009):
 compition has pushed man to excel... you can strive harder at studies or you can just know that no ones best at everything theres always someone better then you out there i know is not that big a help but not much you can do
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