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writes:Okay, same guy if you've read my questions before. Last night me and my boyfriend were doing things sexually, and i couldnt get him off...this has happend a couple times before and hes drunk...its been an hour or more and he still wants me to keep going and i cant, and so i stop and then he yells at me and tells me do i really have to tell you how to do this. then i was like it been an hour i cant do it anymore. i felt bad but jesus...ya know...its like 3 in the morning. and i want to sleep. then hes like fine ill get someone else to fucking do it for me. NOw that PISSED ME OFF I ushed him away from me and called him a dick and then i started crying hes like just fucking leave im sick of you blah blah blah...I sleept out on the couch all night. I dont know what to do. He's nice somtimes and a complete dick thenext, i do want to get hurt anymore but i also dont want to leave him over this. IM stuck. this is not the only thing that has happend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010):
My dear friend,
Please get rid of him. I know its tough where the matters of the heart is concern. But think about it this way, why should you want to be in a relationship so unhappy and its seems you are torturing yourself in this relationship with this jerk? He obviously have no respect for you. Everything is about him .. don't lower your standard . I am very sure you are pretty, smart and you have everything in life to live for.
I am speaking of experience .. Never ever let a man or anyone overpower you in your emotions. Never put them on a pedestal. he is not worth it. You have to try very hard to be strong , move to another town, cut all contacts with him. Pray ask God to give you strength. He will believe me. If you need support email me angelaku.95@gmail .com. We can go through this together.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Read your title to this question. There is your answer, leave him, he is abusive and all the things you listed. You know already what you should do, otherwise you wouldnt call him those things
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Leave him. You wouldn't be leaving him just over this, but over other things that he has done as well. You don't even have to tell him why you are leaving him. Just be assertive and tell him that you are leaving. If you give him reasons to your decision he will try to argue with you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Were u just giving to him, or was he returning the favor? I think he's self centered. You can do better, and this incident isn't going to be the only one. The earlier you get out the better.
The comment about showing you how to do it. Did you ask him how he knows so well? He has absolutely no respect for you, and you need to find someone who will.
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reader, confused.xxx  +, writes (16 July 2009):
it sounds to me like he is a royal prick!!!!
he doesnt deserve you and whats wrong with him it sounds like you have to do all the work?whats that about?
and yes you should leave him over it!
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (16 July 2009):
You need to get rid of him. It's going to lead to actually raping you I think. This is not even the only awful thing he's done to you either. You need to leave. I haven't read your other questions. Did they have to do with physical abuse? If this hasn't happened, it's probably going to. Why are you stuck? If you don't want to continue to get hurt, it's only logical to leave.
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reader, pebble  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 If you keep allowing him to do this to you what do you want us to say?
"Don't worry, he loves you and will change if you persevere" Is that what you want to hear?
Well sorry, reality check, it's not going to happen. It's going to get worse.
Has he hit you yet? Or threatened to? I think you see where I'm going here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I'm sure I don't need to go into any detail here - just get rid of him and find someone that shows some respect and who knows what the boundaries of acceptable behaviour are.
The word 'Moron' is missing from the title.
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reader, Mugzie69 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Dear BabyJoe:
Sorry to break it to you like this but You're dealing with one sick puppy here. Send it packing.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Sounds like you need to have a sit down.The problem isn`t your performance it`s his drinking.I can totally understand where he is coming from.Been there done that.And yes that sounds about like what my response was as well.Well I can admit I was totally in the wrong.Hopefully he will be able to do the same.(and no I didn`t really mean it when I said it.Was frustrated and angry).That relationship ended b/c of commitment / religious issues.At the least he owes you an apology.Understand that you are not in the wrong here.Its not your fault.Alcohol and sex don`t mix well.Alcohol isn`t fit for drinking in my opinion.Anyway explain to him how he hurt you.Explain how you feel and why.And if he doesn`t show you some compassion he`s not worth keeping.
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Just by reading the title I thought you should get rid of him but by reading this I definatly think you need to find someone that will treat you better. Trying to force you into things is not right, I think you need to find someone better who knows how to treat you right, I would never put up with this. Lifes too short, find someone who loves you enough to respect you and doesnt pester you for sex.
I really hope you take my advice, you deserve better.
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