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writes:ok will im 15 and im thinking really hard about havin sex for the first time but im really scarred that its ganna hurt and im not ganna know what to do please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Hey darling,
i was just searching th web about sex for the first time and came across you question,
and im pretty much in the same boat as you
but im 14 not 15 ,
i have boyfriend we just got back together after a break-up
we have done everything but sex
finger,hand,head,lick out
we have talked about sex but im still unsure that im ready
but the main thing im worried about is how much it will hurt coz im pretty tight and his pretty thick
and i deffs dont want to regrt it.
so the thing i have to say is just talk about it to he person you wanta do it with,DONT be drunnk coz my friend has made a back mistake, by doing that !!
well anyways goodluck
p.s its been a while since you asked this
tell me how it went if you ended having sex
xx
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reader, carnes +, writes (16 July 2009):
carnes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank so much it was alot of help for me and im hopeful that i will get some more advice in the futur thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): hey girlie...
well i'm sort of on the same boat... but i'm 22 and yes still a virgin and contemplating the idea of having sex w/ my bf who is also 22 and a virgin...mmm i do think that you're too young and should maybe consider waiting a bit longer, but i do also believe that the decision of when to start having sex is very personal and different for everyone. The one thing that i really wish you'd look into is protection. Please be ready w/ protection no matter what. I've read that latex male condems are the best choice when choosing a male condom (4 out of 1000 possibility of breakage) compared to the polyurethane condom (4 out of 100 possibiliy of breakage). There are also female condoms but they're not nearly as effective. I found this website helpful: http://www.avert.org/condom.htm
I hope that this helps, good luck girlie
Elle
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reader, Brittbritt09 +, writes (15 July 2009):
well I'm 15 too and I had sex for the first time when I was 14 it hurt bad and Still does unless I do it on a daily basis its really nothing great to me tho I would advise you to just wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): All this is really great advise! I was planning on staying celabut but I fell mad in love with my bf who Im still with and honestly I do not at all regret it! Danii n dale is right tho It hurt me like hell the first time I did but it gradually feels better. Oooo and dont forget protection or birth control. Dont worry and good luck. xxx
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Only do it if YOU want to.I was 14 when I lost my v and I don't regret it as I was in a stable relationship and I'm still in that relationship and I know that was the right decision for me at the time.Sometimes people say it hurts a lot but other people say that it doesn't hurt at all it all depends on the person.With me it really hurt a lot but it gradually gets better. If it hurts a lot you don't have to continue doing it.I would only do it if your 100% sure and if your in a stable relationship, your less likely to regret it.Remember there's no rush to do it. Wait until your with the right person and you feel ready.Hope this helps and hope you make a decision that your happy with.:)
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reader, Danii-N-Dale +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Heyyah Sweetie
Really think About this ,, i mean do u really want this or is it because mabey you feel presured or want to be like every1 else
Im 14 and have lost my V and i regret it although it was with my boyfriend i still think i should of waited.
And it does hurt for the 1st 2 3 times ,, But some girls are finee and it doesnt hurt at all.
Message me if you need to no anything sugar
Good Luck
All My Love
-Danielle xx
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reader, Helples +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Think about this carefully. It will mean a lot more to do it with a guy you truly love. My friend had sex just to lose his virginity to a girl whose really loose around the school. He didn't like it much. It would have meant more to do it with someone you love, after all, it is "making love."
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): alot of people on here will tell you you're too young etc and give you a massive lecture, but i'll just answer your question.
You need to be 100% sure before you have sex, once you've lost your virginity you cannot get it back. I lost mine over 2 weeks ago (i'm 17) and it was the painfullest thing ever, because i was not relaxed enough and probably fooled myself into thinking i was ready when i wasn't.
A word of advice: use contraception ALWAYS! i'm experiencing a pregnancy scare because he didnt use a condom last time we had sex, and i'm very worried that i am infact pregnant because i'm showing many of the symptoms. Also, if you want to make it a more enjoyable experience use lubricant. I have not tried it, but i am planning on doing so next time because if you're dry in there and don't produce enough fluids then its going to be very painful. You may also bleed your first time, so if you do... don't worry about it, it is completely normal.
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