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writes:Hello im 14 and i have a dilemma. Well my really good freind.. lets call her christina, just broke up with her boyfriend..so she's been really down lately. and she's been hanging around e for a while, we're always together but alot more now. well anyways a few days ago we were together in my basement and we were just talking and i was trying to console her.she was next to me on the couch, she was crying so she lay her head on my lap. i joked around about how her face so close on my lap might get me too excited..i got her laughing, but then all of a sudden she kisses me. we continue to make out, cause the thing is i've always had a crush on her. i really enjoyed it, epecially when she stuck her hand down my pants. so iwas feeling pretty confident that we could starta relationship. but 2 days later i hear she already has a new boyfriend. I was crushed and didnt feel liek tlking to her at all. i've ignoring her and havent answering her texts cause i feel so hurt. DiD she just use me?? As a rebound? bootycall?w/e What should i do?......i've never felt so crushed in my life, and i've liked her for a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): yea she used u as a rebound. but if you really like her like you say, then i say talk to her about how u feel man
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): Sorry, anon. A bad feeling over a good experience...that then fell flat. This goes with life, young friend. Shake it off. You may be played as a second fiddle more than once in your life. It happens to all of us. Chalk it up. If she ever comes around looking for a shoulder to cry on again, just say it is not available. You seem like a smart kid. Just learn some basic facts. You can be a girl's friend but never with one you have a crush on. Avoid that. You can also have a crush on a girl that has no interest in you, but will want to be your 'friend'. Be careful of these situations. Girls are not too savvy about guys in many ways, but, believe me, they know who has a crush on them or not. And some are not above using you. So, what more advice can I give you? Not much, really. 13 to 16 is the pits, sometimes. I know. You could not pay me enough to go through it again. But there are good times to be had if you can focus on the fact that, "this too shall pass away" and you will be a young "stud duck" before you know it, driver's license and all. Concentrate now on school, activities, and learning all you can. And remember, girls are endless. They will always be there, and you will find one who thinks you are pretty special soon enough. Best wishes, Tom
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reader, goodcharlotte4life +, writes (13 July 2009):
 on my opinion i think she was just teasing you which is not right at all...maybe she is just confused but still it was very wrong for her to do that. If she hurt you that much then i would not have anything to do with her because you will never know when she will hurt you again...trust me i have been in this situation but i'm a girl so its the other way around for me. i continued to keep getting hurt from the same guy for over a year because i would always forgive him. hope everything works out for you... (:
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Rebound yes. She was feeling down, you comforted her and she made a move on you through mixed emotions. Although the girls moved on within days? Doesn't sound like a classy bird to me, i wouldn't worry about it too much.
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (13 July 2009):
 She probably just did this as a spur of the moment thing because she was feeling down about being dumped.. I know this is not a nice thing to hear, but if she has a new boyfriend, she probably doesn't feel the same way that you feel about her.She probably doesn't even know you feel this way about her and I'm sure if she doesnt she wont realise how much she is hurting you.You could try asking her about what happened between you two and see what she says.Hope everything works out ok. :)
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