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8 September 2008: Why do we, and I say we referring to man and women always seem to grab on for the little things we have. And when I say little meaning things or people that are worth nothing. We stay with someone even thought we are not happy because we are scare ...
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He still lives with his ex. What can I do. ?
Q. Hi guys thanks for reading, I am open to all the advise you can give me. I have been dating this guy for a few weeks, but I barely get to spend time with him because he has a son. I haven't met his son yet I would like to but not till we are in a...
A. 31 May 2016: Hello there, I think there are too many red flags here. You are starting a relationship with insecurities and too much baggage. Honestly, you don't even know if he's really telling you the truth. He sounds like he is still married.
1. he lives wi... (read in full...)
Help ! I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother.
Q. Dear All, I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother. My mother is a good woman and has been a good mother. She raised 4 kids all by herself after my father fell mentally ill. She is still married to him but unhappily and bitter at ...
A. 26 May 2016: thank you all for giving me that breath of fresh air. You guy's are right. WiseOwl, Thank you!!! i needed that reminder. You are wise!!... (read in full...)
Help ! I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother.
Q. Dear All, I need help dealing with my negative bitter mother. My mother is a good woman and has been a good mother. She raised 4 kids all by herself after my father fell mentally ill. She is still married to him but unhappily and bitter at ...
A. 26 May 2016: thank you all for giving me that breath of fresh air. You guy's are right. WiseOwl, Thank you!!! i needed that reminder. You are wise!!... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling so insecure about sex?
Q. I've been in my current relationship three and a half years. I'm sure this is "it". We waited two years into our relationship to have sex. It was my first time, but not his. I don't really know why, but that makes me feel insecure. I second...
A. 14 September 2010: It sounds as if this guy is very special to you for you to trust him with your virginity. The past is the past he is with YOU now and I'am pretty sure he loves YOU. He waited all this time and that tells you alot. How old is he? if he is around your ... (read in full...)
I lied to my online love about my age
Q. I am in love with a guy who is 26 and i am 15 years old.... i met him online...he dont know my real age and now i love him alot i want to tell him everything..but i am scared that he will leave me...my intentions was not bad...i was depressed bcause ...
A. 14 September 2010: ok you are in a really complicated position. How well do you really know this man? you should really tell him the truth. you are 15, are you ready to settle down? will your parents aproved? be honest with him and see what he says. let me know what ... (read in full...)
I really don't know what is happening between us
Q. I am so confused. I am dating this guy and I dont know what is going on, he seems to really like me when we are together but when we are not i start to wonder what is really happening between us. I was in a long relationship before this and it only ...
A. 14 September 2010: I'am in your shoes right now. All i can tell you is that your past relations ship is over for a reason that you only know. Dont keep looking back in the past. what matters is that you are here in the present and there is a future waiting for you. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is crashing down around me!
Q. hey i knw this sounds silly but i feel lik my life is crashing down around me. everything seems to be going wrong, i have a job but its only part time so i have no money. i want to learn to drive but have no money to do this, so im stuck either in ...
A. 14 September 2010: I have been on your shoes believe me. now things might see n like they wont get better but they will You prob feel like you are not where you want to be but feeling bad about yourself wont help. Be active apply other jobs, have you uggested your ... (read in full...)
Why do I like having sex with him when I find girls attractive?
Q. I have a friend who visits me weekly and we kiss, suck each other and had sex. I find girls attractive, not guys, but i love having sex with him? Am i gay or bi?...
A. 14 September 2010: I think its normal to find girls atractive I'am straight and i see alot of girls that to me are beautiful. Do you find them sexually atractive, will you sleep with them? what about man? if you like sleeping with this guy then you have to admit then ... (read in full...)
He said part of him wants to be with me and part of him doesn't!
Q. Me and my bf have only been together a couple months but have already been through so much together. He tells me he loves me and I won't lose him but last night he told me that part of him wants to be with me and part of him don't. What does that ...
A. 10 September 2010: Me and my bf have only been together a couple months but have already been through so much together. He tells me he loves me and I won't lose him but last night he told me that part of him wants to be with me and part of him don't. What does that ... (read in full...)
Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.
Q. please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...
A. 30 October 2009: i wanted to make a point... he did not leave his wife for me..he left because of the arguments they had it was not working out.. he told me it was the best for them..now i did tell the young guy what i wanted in the beggining i told him i wanted a ... (read in full...)
My sister's been very disrespectful and I resent my mother for her reaction!
Q. I dont even know where to start.....I'am worried that i might be heading for unhapinness for ever. ok so this is the deal. I am 22 with alot on my shoulders, not because i have to but because i choose to. i have 2 jobs. so this sat i came home very ...
A. 27 July 2009: let me make things clear here i guess i dint...my mother raised 4 kids by her self while she took care of my sick father. my brother made his life my older sister married a man after 4 months of knowing him knowing our situation i could have gotten ... (read in full...)
Complicated family situation, I have a big weight on my shoulders, what should I do?
Q. Help, I'm overly overwhelmed with my life right know, this is the deal, I’ am 22 and I feel like I have the weight on the world on my shoulders…..1st…my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, psychofrenia, I was 13-14. Growing up I saw my mom struggle ...
A. 10 June 2009: thank you all for your answers, to holikdad: my father does receive a social security check....and he has medicaid...but since he gets his illnesse fully treated with no cost to ous, the gov only passes him a check of $300 and something ... (read in full...)
I'm overwhelmed by my family. How can I get my own life back and not worry about them?
Q. Help, iam overly overwhelmed with my life right know, this is the deal, I’ am 22 and I feel like I have the weight on the world on my shoulders…..1st…my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, psychofrenia, I was 13-14. Growing up I saw my mom struggle ...
A. 8 June 2009: also i have to take crap @ work..i work at a law firm and its so stressful and overwhelming...sometimes i go to the bathroom and cry....and the other part time its a shit hole..my life is a mess....my credit has gone down the drain paying all ... (read in full...)
We're friends... but we do have sex!
Q. After dating for 5 months, I got pregnant and miscarried. He then said he just wanted to be friends but now we are having sex again. I told him "friends" don't have sex, so don't break my heart, but said I wasn't pushing him for an answer until he ...
A. 18 February 2009: if you want this guy to respect you and your feelings dont have sex with him, let him see that u are serious about what mean and that you are not just a booty call, he should have been supportive toward you instead of an ass....if he hurts you stay ... (read in full...)
Is it asking too much that he should stop paying her stuff altogether and help me if he lives with me?
Q. My boyfriend lives with me and is recently divorced. He pays out quite a bit so I haven't asked him for money to live there. It's been 3.5 months and he hasn't chipped in for anything. He has no kids with his ex and she works full time and he ...
A. 18 February 2009: Okay, I don't get it... in the US it doesn't work like that, he's living off you and you need to confront him. The other woman is living the life and you are suporting him and her practically by supporting him so he can pay for all her things, when ... (read in full...)
I have the serious hots for her!!!
Q. I have a problem, I've been going to the same school as this girl and every day I see her and never felt anything special for her but the other day... all of a sudden my system starts freeking out around her, my palms start to sweat, I'm as hard as ...
A. 14 February 2009: this is totally normal for your age, in time u will be able to control yourself, ... (read in full...)
Breaking free from a married man
Q. I fell in love with a married man and something happened (long story) and he disappeared without telling me. I was heartbroken, cried and went into extreme depression. I was in trying to get over him and move on and then he reappeared and explained ...
A. 1 February 2009: Hello, its funny how the world is but you are probaly the same age as me,22. I am envolved with a married man 14 years older, and your situation sounds exacly like mine, he does not want emotional envolment after 3 years he is nice but not ... (read in full...)
What's with him?
Q. I’m really happy that I came across this page because I’ve been looking for someone who can help me. Well, I thought that I was over my ex boyfriend but apparently that’s not the case. It’s that I just get manage to get over the fact of why he left ...
A. 10 January 2009: Hello, i understand yor pain i went throught the same exact hing with my 4 year bf. This guy sounds as if he is playing games with you. you must be beautiful and you dont deserve this treatment. he obiously has a self esteem issue, hes confused but ... (read in full...)
How do you get over a guy???
Q. Hey, I have one slight problem I have a bf and he's just gorgeous and I broke up with him because he was just a player and couldn't be with just one girl so I said that if he's gonna continue treating me like this we have to be over, well it happe...
A. 10 January 2009: one word...TIME....GIVE YOURSELF THAT.....distance would help too... (read in full...)
Am I being petty or could I do better?
Q. Any thoughts please... I've been with my guy for about 14 months, and I'm not a money grabber, not in the slightest but I do believe in a little romance. He has only ever taken me out for one meal (the rest we split) and weve never been away for a ...
A. 10 January 2009: i really understand you, as a woman you want to feel spoiled, like a princess and hes not giving you that. ask yourself, do you love him, if you do then you will understand him but then againg if he loves you he will understand him. Women dont like ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a mess socially - how can he get through the festive season?
Q. Well, i'm dreading christmas with my family and my great boyfriend of 2 years, because he is so bad socially. i come from a large family and i am talkative, self-confident, a little loud and i can talk to anybody any place any time. i get on with ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hi there, i understand you, but you also have to understand your boyfriend...has he alwayss been like that?????Talk to your boyfriend but dont pressure him, try to be sensitive, it will suck foru 2 to break off over that, its you thats going out ... (read in full...)
Troubled and dysfunctional family...
Q. Dear Cupid, I need help, at least advice from anybody who can have a little attention to this. I have a very disfunctional family and it's really killing me, parents never been good to me specially mother who seems hated me frome the very start of ...
A. 29 November 2008: hi, I am so sorry you are hurting... it's not fair what you are going throught and I sincerely think that you don't deserve this... unfortunately your mother not giving you her love must have scared you for life and it must be up to you to overcome ... (read in full...)
My wife, age problem will lead to divorce
Q. I feel I need advice from you people to save my family. I have 3 kids with my wife after 12 years of marriage, I have to tell that during our time together we had good and bad times. Well mostly good times and I must admit that I love my wife in all ...
A. 13 November 2008: hey, i'am so sorry to hear this...iam verry young but i recently just got out of a 2 year old relationship with a married man... she is stupid to leave her family for this man, he will never leave his wife for her.. she will go from a house wife ... (read in full...)
My husband has had sexual thoughts about my little sister...
Q. hi i have been married now for five years and been with my partner for seven years. we have two lovely children. i myself made some mistakes at the very beginning of our relationship which we overcame. everything was wonderful and we were happy ...
A. 3 November 2008: hi, this may seem disturbing to you, and it might to me too. but a fantasy is a fantasy...its not going to hap[pen and it hasnt happen....i know u are hurt and thinking "why my litle sister" i bet you he doesnt even know why? him telling you is a ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 14 and in care. What do I do?
Q. I am 14 years old.I was recently put into the care system but i have just found out im pregnant. I want to keep the baby but i have no support from my family or anyone else to be hounest.the father isnt in the picture either.i also have no where to ...
A. 24 October 2008: hi, all that i could tell you is that u are a verry brave girl for wanting to keep the baby, i admire u for that. my advice is that you put yourself toguether and confront the situation. if u have no support from anyone then i suggest you tell ... (read in full...)
How could someone do in seconds what I've been trying to do for ages!??
Q. Dear cupid, I am a 17 year old male who has a serious problem affecting me. I have liked a girl for 5 years now, and slowly been trying to get her to be mine. Throughout the years it has been very dramatic and has gone up and down like a roller co...
A. 15 October 2008: All that I can tell you is that a girl is not worth going mental. The only one that can help you is yourself.. Ok it hurts I know, been there but what she is going to live her life and you are going to suffer.. you're young, live a little. Go on ... (read in full...)
I just started a relationship with a girl who's really happy about it but now that girl that I'm in love with wants me back? What do I do?
Q. I was in a relationship with this girl since January. We fell for each other and i love her so much. We recentl broke up though in August because of a bump in the road that i thought we could work through it. But I guess she didn't think we could. ...
A. 13 October 2008: ok...do whatever makes YOU happy.first u are making things worse being with someone u dont love, u'll be doing that girl a favor.. break up with her and explain to her in a nice way. second if u want to go back to ur ex knowing she's going to hurt u ... (read in full...)
I really don't like my body so I won't let my bf touch me...
Q. hi i need helpppppppppppppp!!!! i have been with my bf for 4 months now. i love him so much but theres 1 problem. i dont like my body i will never show any skin and i wont let him touch sertain areas.eg belly legs boobs n bum. i dono how i cn over ...
A. 13 October 2008: all i can tell u is to love ur self no matter what size...iam pretty sure u are fabulous at a size 14....iam a size 12 and i know i turn heads. ur self assurance is verry important. people perceive that. if he likes you like that then let him like ... (read in full...)
My ex gf mum has cancer...and I don't know what to do...
Q. My ex girl friend mum has cancer. I still love her. Want to be there 4 her. We broke up not 2 long after we found out. Because the pressure on her was too much. Even I still want her back . I want to do the right thing. She does mean a lot tome ...
A. 10 October 2008: if you truly love her then be there for her. love is patient, love is kind and endures all things. its going to be tought but hang on hard if thats what you want try to understand her feelings. ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming really depressed since my mother passed away, I feel lonely and I want to stop what I am doing wrong but there is no one to help!
Q. OK this isnt a relationship question or anything but... well my mum died 6 months ago.. and im becoming really depressed. Ive been to the doctors about it but they cant do anything because of my age (16) and ive started smoking drinking and ...
A. 9 October 2008: Hey there, iam sorry about your mon, but doing all this things is just going to make things worse. drinking, smoking whatever the case its probaly going to get worse if u keep on. if you wrote here is because u know that your having a problem so u ... (read in full...)
I engage in sex with men I don't love, because I want to feel loved but they treat me like garbage instead! What's wrong with me?
Q. iam verry clingy...i dont know whats wrong with me iam scared to be by myself, i take a lot of crap form guys...i still talk to my ex and even mess with him from time to time after he hurt me so much....stupid huh....i even have this stupid relation ...
A. 2 October 2008: and then sometimes iam fed up with life...and everything i am scared to say what iam really feeling...i was soo different before..i hate the person i have become ... (read in full...)
I engage in sex with men I don't love, because I want to feel loved but they treat me like garbage instead! What's wrong with me?
Q. iam verry clingy...i dont know whats wrong with me iam scared to be by myself, i take a lot of crap form guys...i still talk to my ex and even mess with him from time to time after he hurt me so much....stupid huh....i even have this stupid relation ...
A. 2 October 2008: i dont know why, but sometimes it might be that i never had that father figure in my life to protect me....my parents are still amrried but my dad has health issues, and he has never been quite there.....my mom worries to much with the house and ... (read in full...)
Begging for help: pregnant and very broken.
Q. I feel very desperate I need help before I completely break down. It was love at first sight. And for 2years we had never experienced such immense happiness while being with someone. We really fell in love. We had all those typical talks th...
A. 30 September 2008: Hello there, iam sorry for what u are going throught and i hurt for you, because i've been there, except that you are braver than i was. I dont even know where to start but this guy sounds very selfish, he wanted u to abort and know he's all happy ... (read in full...)
Should I marry someone with a huge butt?
Q. Should I marry someone that has a huge butt? She always complains abotu it but never does anythign about it. She eats crappy food that makes it bigger and hardly ever works out. Everythign else about her is perfect but I am embarassed by it. ...
A. 26 September 2008: LOL...iam sorry about tjis but if you met her like this and now all of a sudden ur embarres.....why? how big can itbe??????????... (read in full...)
I can't remember if he wore a condom or not, my period was very light and short, now I seem to be having pregnancy symptoms, but I can't go to the doctors on my own nor can afford a pregnancy test, help!
Q. Hi, I'm a very confused person at the moment! I would be very happy if you would reply nicely with advice and not actually insulting, because I am only 16. A very confused one at that. So, I had sex roughly on the 28th August.. I can't remembe...
A. 25 September 2008: sweety, i dont mean to scare you, but i think you are pregnant. i'm not a doctor and i might be wrong but i was pregnant and the same thing happened to me. the exact same thing. can he buy a pregnacy test, i dont know how things work over there in ... (read in full...)
My live-in partner has changed tremendously since the baby was born. He says that he hates me. I really do not know what to do.
Q. I am 35 years old and about 10 years ago I met the love of my life. We were both seeing other people at the time. He was living with his significant other. We both worked together at the same company. We could not help ourselves and ended up ...
A. 25 September 2008: wow, this has left me with no words....questin do u love him? if u love him then try to see whats really going on with him, he sounds emotional unstable. Is he like this because of the baby you guys lost or what? your partner sounds as if hes been ... (read in full...)
I keep myself in a shell when it comes to boys, give one-word answers, always believe they think something is wrong with me, etc. How can I rebuild my confidence?
Q. Ok i have a serious confidence issue.It started a few years ago.I feel that if people look at me for longer than a few secconds that they think somethings wrong with me.Or are looking at my flaws or something and i really hate that feeling.I know ...
A. 25 September 2008: your young and probaly deal with a lot of pressure as a young teenage girl....iam pretty sure your beautiful, if guys go up to you and try to talk to you. dont put yourself down, look yourself in the mirro and see you beauty. what you feel in the ... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about my girlfriend, she's just had an abortion.
Q. My girlfriend had an abortion ten days ago. When she went to the clinic she kissed me and said it wasn't going to be a big deal, but ever since then she seems really depressed. I text her and she doesn't reply. I went to her house and she says she's ...
A. 23 September 2008: hi, i know it must be really hard for u both and in past experience...because i had one 2...it really traumatises a woman....it's a pain that i can't describe and iam pretty sure your girl must be going throught hell...justbe there for her and be ... (read in full...)
How can I accept my appearance?
Q. hi their, this isnt a love or sexual question, its more about appearance.. im about 5'4 large built and a little overweight.. alot of people tell me how pretty i am, but all i see is ugly and fat, i got tormented at school when i was younger when...
A. 8 September 2008: Hey there sweety....Please dont feel like that..I'am pretty sure your not as bad as you make it seem. you must be a really pretty girl for people to say it, and yes you should care about your health and weight but dont put yourself down. I'am ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in a deep hole with my relationship with a married man. I need advice.
Q. Im sleeping with a married man who has an 8 month old son and he lives next door to me. I think i have fallen in love with him and Im really close to his wife. I know its really stupid but i 14 years old. nd before anyone says hes taking advantage ...
A. 7 August 2008: i have been there 2..in ur shoes...but sweety this man is not going to leave his baby and his wife. honestly, his taking advanage of ur young age and his a selfish idiot for tdoing that, he knows what he is doing but u dont. think about it, ur goint ... (read in full...)
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