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writes:Hi,I'm a very confused person at the moment! I would be very happy if you would reply nicely with advice and not actually insulting, because I am only 16. A very confused one at that.So, I had sex roughly on the 28th August.. I can't remember if he wore a condom or not. I knew he had one, but I did say if he didn't wear it I'd go get emergency contraception.. but he said he'd wear it. And I don't know if he did or not! And then, when we had finished, he walked off like he didn't want to tell me something, like the condom had split or something. So a week later, I had my period. I had been worrying if I'd have gotten pregnant, as it had struck my mind if anything had happened. I was happy, I had my period. Thing was, it was very light and short, which is very unlike me. I didn't pay very much attention to that.2 weeks later, I get very bad stomach pains, period like cramps, back ache and extremely bad nausea (I had the day off because of my nausea the other day!). I asked someone what it could be, and they told me I could be pregnant! So I looked up symptoms on the internet, and found I have almost every symptom. It's very distressing, especially when I found out that you can still have periods, even if they are very light. So now I'm back to square one, but with very bad pains in my lower stomach and back. I honestly don't know if I'm pregnant or not. And I can't walk to my doctors on my own (and I haven't told many people), and I don't have enough money for a pregnancy test. Also, as a seperate note, someone said my body could be acting a pregnancy.. but I'm not so sure anymore.Also, is it true that your muscles kind of build up around that area if you're pregnant? And is it weird that when I do around 20 sit ups, that after those, it feels like my lower stomach is being pulled?Thank you for reading! I hope I can receive some advice soon.
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reader, mashftw  +, writes (17 September 2011):
If you had your period after you had unprotected sex you're not pregnant. No matter how light or unusual it was. Pregnancy blood spots usually don't start that early. If you're over worrying about being pregnant then you can sometimes trick yourself into having pregnancy symptoms. Just relax and go to the doctor if you continue to worry. Just be more careful next time and if you plan to stay sexually active go on the pill or another form of contraception. Using emergency contraception all the time can make you immune to it so don't use it too much. And also it can stuff up your period. Hope that helped...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Is there no one you can tell? Like a boyfriend or something that could mabey help you out and possibly buy you a pregnancy test?
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reader, OddOne +, writes (25 September 2008):
OddOne is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't remember. But the thing is, he had one. And I told him he didn't have to wear it, but as long as he told me first and then I could go get emergency the next day. But he said he'd wear it.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 September 2008):
 I'm glad that my speculation on drink or drugs was incorrect. But I really have to ask, I'm not trying to be mean, how can you not know if he wore a condom?
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reader, OddOne +, writes (25 September 2008):
OddOne is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone.. I will take this all into one big decision.. as for maybe being under drugs or alcohol.. no it wasn't that. I don't touch either of them.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 September 2008):
Hi, I really can't tell you if you're pregnant or not, you need to have a pregnancy test done and probably it's not a bad idea to see a doctor. Here's some information which should get you the help you need.
"The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support. In case of an emergency there is a pill you can take as long as you hurry and get to a doctor within 72 hours.
"Childline is a UK charity that can provide support on the telephone for all kinds of problems that children and teenagers face, so please give them a call. ChildLine on 0800 1111. www.childline.org.uk"
I took this from DiovanLestat's profile, thank you, Diovan, for keeping this information handy.
The description of your sexual encounter tells me that you had no control over the situation. Were you incapacitated for any reason, like alcohol? His behavior was appalling, I have to say, have you spoken with him since to find out what happened? Please do take care not to lose control by drinking too much or doing drugs; this may be very serious to your future health and fertility. Lecture over.
Good luck, and take care.
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reader, OddOne +, writes (25 September 2008):
OddOne is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know if I'm meant to reply to my repliers here, but nudge me in the right direction if I'm wrong!
@Temmye17;; Thanks though.. it is a bit scary though. I still think I'm like 12! Doesn't feel like it should happen to me.. But there was one thing I actually forgot to add.
I don't talk to the guy anymore. He started to ignore me after 4 days after asking if I was okay for those days.. so I got so annoyed and blocked and deleted him from any of my internet contacts to him.
@LazyGuy;; Thank you. Maybe I should try that out. I think I should. My closest friends keep telling me, but I'm pretty much scared and feeling very stupid.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 September 2008):
 You can go to the doctor on your own, under the british system you should have insurance but even so, there are clinics especially for these cases.
http://www.brook.org.uk/
Is just one of many places to offer free tests, check your local area for the closest family planning clinic or something similar.
So rather then worry and delay, take action and get yourself tested now so you know wether you are really pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): Are you still at school or college? If so, then see if you can speak to a school nurse about it. They have to respect your confidentiality and won't tell your parents. Why can you not walk to your doctors'? If you can't, then in most towns there are NHS walk-in centres where you will be able to speak to a doctor or nurse without an appointment, and they should be able to sort out a pregnancy test for free. They also run drop-in sexual health clinics. Also think about contacting or going to a family-planning centre. But don't delay; it's better to find out sooner rather than later either way.
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reader, tammye17 +, writes (25 September 2008):
 sweety, i dont mean to scare you, but i think you are pregnant. i'm not a doctor and i might be wrong but i was pregnant and the same thing happened to me. the exact same thing. can he buy a pregnacy test, i dont know how things work over there in your country but maybe theres a clinic that doew free pregancy test. last resort i recomend speaking to ur parents about this.
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