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writes:I have a friend who visits me weekly and we kiss, suck each other and had sex. I find girls attractive, not guys, but i love having sex with him? Am i gay or bi? Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 You're likely bisexual, though sexuality is so fluid that it can be hard to define. For example, what if your friend is the only male you're attracted to? Does it make you bi or 'mostly straight'? It all depends on which gender you're sexually attracted to, generally speaking. A gay man may think a woman is attractive, but that doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with her. If he does he's not entirely gay, but if it's just that woman and not women in general, he's not really bi either. The bottom line is regardless of preference, most will identify as one orientation but have one or two 'exceptions'.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (14 September 2010):
 I am GAY and I find some women just drop dead gorgeous. I don't want to have sex with them... but they are beautiful none the less. My guess is... you're bisexual. At you age though, I would have thought that you would have discovered this LONG ago.
Just some things to think about: Do you lust (sexually) after other guys? Would you even consider having sex with another guy (other than your friend)? When you masturbate which sex do you fantasize about? Have you ever had sex with women?
There's nothing WRONG with being gay or bisexual or even straight. It's just who we are... and it sounds like you're comfortable enough with your friend to continue to have sexual relations with him.
However, you don't want to lead him on. You need to let him know how you feel about the situation, and that you only want to keep it physical - just having some fun - if that's all you want. That way if you, or he, meet someone (female) and you then get into a relationship with her... he doesn't get his feelings hurt or vice-versa.
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reader, CharmedCupid  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Well I agree with the both of them,seeing I myself am Bi-curious If you enjoy what you do with who you do it with and they enjoy it too,then no one is to stop you,you make sure and be happy because in the end,all that matters is what you think,I think your bi for sure,you love your male friend and at the same time,you wouldn't mind a girl ;) so I say,be proud of who you are :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 September 2010):
 My guess would be bi, but like tammye17 said, women can just be attractive, no matter what your sexual attraction. The biggest thing is to be happy. If you enjoy what you're doing and who you're with, then just live in the moment.
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reader, tammye17 +, writes (14 September 2010):
 I think its normal to find girls atractive I'am straight and i see alot of girls that to me are beautiful. Do you find them sexually atractive, will you sleep with them? what about man? if you like sleeping with this guy then you have to admit then that you do like men
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