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writes:I've been in my current relationship three and a half years. I'm sure this is "it". We waited two years into our relationship to have sex. It was my first time, but not his. I don't really know why, but that makes me feel insecure. I second guess myself a lot, wondering how I compare. It definitely impedes my enjoying sex as much as I could. How do I stop feeling so insecure about this? I don't even know why it bothers me but it's ruining my sex life.
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reader, sarahrose20 +, writes (14 September 2010):
you need to stop feeling this way obviously you more than compare otherwise he wouldnt have chosen you he would be with one of those other girls. also i know you dont know this but sex is different with someone you love. my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years now 3 years into our relationship he broke up with me claiming he loved me but didnt feel we were at the same level in our relationship. so i let him go and i was soo heart broken i ended up moving away. about 9 months later i moved back to discover that he still loved me and wanted me back. he broke up with his current girlfriend within 2 weeks of me being back and when i asked him the real reason why he did what he did he said i was a virgin when i got with you i wanted to see what it would be like with someone else. of course my immediate question was how do i compare? you know what he said. he said being with someone you love is way better than just having sex with someone. obviously your boyfriend loves you if he waited 2 years for you to be ready for him physically.
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reader, tammye17  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 It sounds as if this guy is very special to you for you to trust him with your virginity. The past is the past he is with YOU now and I'am pretty sure he loves YOU. He waited all this time and that tells you alot. How old is he? if he is around your age most guys have been sexually active at the time. dont judge him for that
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