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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, Long story last year three days before my birthday my bf broke up with me by phone... After three years. I'll admit i was not the best in a relationship i loved him to bits but was clingy. But then again he was not best boyfriend either, picked friends all time for example one of his mates wanted to get married didnt want to invite me because he did not see us lasting. Anyhow i lowered myself and went to the wedding. Anyway last year he got in contact with me again ended up getting back with each other for 3 months told none of my family who would not approve pretty much same thing happend went away skiing, friends starting acting strange. So i told him go away from me. My birthday this week he contacts me after 6 months again.Saying happy b day on voicemail and email. I do still love him but Dont know what he is playing at? He broke my heart this time last year. In both my breakups i never made contact. I e mailed him said thanks i want to be grown up but this man used and broke my heart. He emailed back again saying hope i had good nite etc.. Can someone tell me how to get over this man?
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (5 July 2007):
He comes back because you let him. Don’t let him. If he loved you, he wouldn’t have left. There are loads of other men out there, and like sunrise says, life is too short for holding on to someone who doesn’t love you. At the moment, you can’t see that, because emotions really do blind us. But believe me, given some time, you will look back and be so pleased that you made the break. Next time start as you mean to go on, no clinging. It will be so much better.
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reader, sunrise +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi, My advice would be to find another one! It doesn't seem that either of you were that committed. Seems like it was a bit of a game for him, he knew how you felt and treated you the way he did because he knew you would put up with almost anything. Clingy is not good, we all want to be loved but not suffocated. Use this as a learning curve, be more relaxed in your next relationship and have some fun. Lifes to short to try to sort out the past, look to the future and enjoy your life, you only have one x
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