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writes:I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago online. Our relationship has been going well but soon I started to think he was cheating on me. Then just yesterday told him about it and the next thing you know we were in a bit of an argument. Now he has been avoiding me a bit and he doesn't talk to me the same. It seems like our relationship has just slowly been fading and I am really worried I will lose him if I don't do something now to get a realtionship back on track. Can someone please tell me what I should do? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, splendid_spiders +, writes (9 July 2007):
My guy and me very rarely have arguments, so when we first had our first one, it took a week or so to get back to normal. Unless you feel he is really unfaithful and you have proof to back it up, I'd just act as if everything was the way it was before the argument. You could try to take his mind off the argument by doing something nice for him ... or planning a night out for the two of you. Just give it some time and try to go on as you normally would. But if I were you, I wouldn't bring it up anymore unless you have proof ... and I wouldn't bring up the argument at all either. Most guys really don't like to talk too much about drama. So SHOW him you love and trust him instead of talking to him about it and he'll get over it soon. If he really loves you, he'll forgive your insecurities. Good luck :)
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reader, sunrise  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Hi, dont you just hate that? you wish you hadn't opened your mouth, but if you were having doubts you had no choice really. He may just feel let down finding out that you dont trust him or he's as guilty as sin and annoyed you've sussed him out! Either way you need to know where you now stand and exactly how he feels about the relationship.
Get in touch with him and let him know how you feel, why you had to ask and what you want from the relationship.
The only way to sort this out is to speak to each other. If it turns out you were wrong apologise and move on with out bringing it up again. Enjoy each others company have a laugh and get that trust back on track.
If it turns out your doubts were spot on move on and find someone you can trust.
Good luck hope things turn out the way you want them to x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 My guess is, the relationship was already having problems and his being away was just one sign of it. You took it to mean he was cheating and he got upset. Maybe he is, or he isn't, but in any case there are some issues to be solved here. Try talking to him and speak your mind. Mention the distance, et cetera. You should get clear answers; if you don't, well, then I think you should move on.
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