A
female
age
51-59,
*ellowdaffodil
writes:For the first time in my life I found the man I wanted to marry. I am a successful attractive 38 year old female with a history of dating many nice men in the past but this one in particular stole my heart like no other. He has ended the relationship due to him feeling like I pressured him. I did in some degree in retrospect. I am heartbroken as this has never happened to me before. I have always been the one to run from committment. All my previous boyfriends knew I was not interested in committment and many of them were interested in more. It's not like a breakup when you are 25 years of age. This was the person with whom I wanted to spend my life. I have never felt this way and am terrifyingly afraid that I will never experience this again. I know there are many "others" out there but I have dated so many of them and having the feeling I had for him was unlike any other ever. Every minute in the hour of each day is filled with such sorrow. How does one overcome heartbreak such as this?
View related questions:
a break, heartbroken Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, glory22  +, writes (18 July 2007):
Hello dear,My name isGlory Mako.My hobbies are reading, music, watching of movies and playing of basketball.I was impressed when i saw your profile and will like to discuss important matter with you and as well as establish a long lasting relationship with you.With love.Miss Glory.
A
female
reader, sunrise  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hi, why is it the ones you dont really want wont leave and the ones you adore run for the hills!
I really do feel for you i'm going through much the same, but my ex is alot younger than me and after 6 months i know that i have to move on, it's been hard but i've come through and what ever your end result you will to.
The best advice i can give is to let him know exactly how you feel even if it's in a letter, try not to sound too needy, but just write it from the heart, that way you'll know that he knows exactly how you feel, you wont live regretting not tellin him and you've got nothing to lose. I sincerley hope everything works out for you.
...............................
A
male
reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 It is very, very difficult. As you very correctly said, madam, this break-up is not the same as when you're 25. This means a hell of a lot more.Generally you should avoid being pushy or needy, but, in this case, you have nothing to lose. If I were you, I would let him know how valuable he is to you and how the conviction of being with Mr. Right made you pushy. If he's your age, he should understand very well. Then, tell him that you want him back, and that you'll keep your cool if only you can be sure that he will come back (and do it, of course). If he is any smart, he will understand that a committed woman like yourself is a chance that might just not come his way a second time. Time will tell whether you two will eventually marry. But, I would try one more time.Good luck, madam.
...............................
|
