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writes:I have a boyfriend going through a hard time in his professional life - has been for the last two years - it is affecting our relationship too much - he takes his disappointment anger etc out on me - to the point where I feel he is not realising how much he is treating me with disrespect - if I tell him it makes him feel worse as he not aware of how he behaves with me and then I feel I am becoming a negative too and I hate to feel that way but I have to say what I feel - I am trying to be as supportive as possible - I am getting all the negatives and as much as I try and put the positive side there seems to be no progress - he is just getting more unhappy. I know he loves and cares about me a lot and I love him too. All I want is for him to feel happy but I cant see an end to this - things just seem to get worse - we were so happy and I felt I could make a difference when he was down but I dont feel I am helping now - I am just there to listen - he doesnt listen to me - only when he asks me a question he listens to my answer. He is does not mean to be selfish - he helps me a lot in different ways but his problems are consuming our happiness and I dont know how to change or improve this situation. I feel we are spiralling downwards and I cant stop it. I used to be able to help but not any more and it makes me wonder where we are headed - he is so consumed by his problems I worry that I will become so unhappy and he wouldnt be able to make an effort to save our relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, sunrise +, writes (10 June 2007):
 Hi, i think you are being as supportive as you can be but i think he may need a bit of professional help to overcome his stress but you may find it hard convincing him that he has that much of a problem, however please try for both your sakes. You both appear to need each other so anything that may help you both back on track must be worth a try. Good luck to you both, stress can lead to physical illness so please convince him to seek help by offering to go with him.
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