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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid.My mother seems to hate me, she spends no time with me anymore, doesnt speak to me unless its about anything practical (I.e looking after my younger sister or the washing), regulary has periods of not speaking to me at all. It all started when she met her new boyfriend, they argue a lot and she used to come and talk to me about it, which I didnt mind at all, but then it got to the point where he was all she talked about, and every conversation i tried to have with her ended up about him. I regulary get their arguments taken out on me be it by not talking to me, or screaming at me, and have to take the wrap for it.I dont know what to do anymore, its making me very unhappy living in a house where Im only noticed when it suits and where all I seem to be is a burden despite me trying my best to be otherwise (helping out as much as I possibly can).Anon
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): Hi I am the poster. I have tried talking to her before but she doesnt listen. I think your right about the moving out though. I think the space would do us both good. Thanks for your comment, it helped me think a bit more clearly
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reader, sunrise +, writes (10 June 2007):
 Hi, Does your mum know that you feel this way? if not i suggest you pick a time where you both can sit down and talk undisturbed. You dont want to fall out with her over her problems with her partner, tell her exactly how it has made you feel and that you feel a little rejected as a daughter.
It may help all concerned if you moved to a place of your own then you wouldn't have to live and breath your mums situation, but she could visit you and you her, the pressure would then be lifted as you would know that even if she told you her problems over a cuppa you could probably manage to listen and be sympathetic as you would know she would soon be leaving and you could get on with your life. Either way she needs to know how unhappy the whole situation has made you. I dont think for one minute she hates you, she's just so wrapped up in her own life and doesn't realise that you still need her, so please tell her soon. Hope everything works out good for you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): Hi =],
Give your mum a wake up call, get her alone without her boyfriend and tell her that you don't appreciate being noticed when she can be bothered. If she retaliates just calmly say to her that it would be nicer to have chats about more things with her, if this fails to work bring up something big in YOUR life tell her you need to speak to her about whatever it is.
I hope this helps! =]x
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