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writes:Hey everyonei have a kinda tough question i guess. one of my best mates has a rather large partner. the other night they had a row about her size. she is a uk size 30. he said to her that he was concerned about the size she was gettin to and that it really was getting out of hand. her response was that a size 30 is a normal size!! im a larger girl myself (size 20) so i know that a size 30 is an awfully big size. and the average size in the uk is a 14. how do u go about telling her for her own sake that it is a bit silly to let it get out of hand. surely she will be puttin her body through a huge amount of strain and will be causing herself health risks!can u please tell ur views on this? if a uk size 30 is normal or way too big! i agree with him about his concerns and would like to get some other views aswell!thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, sunrise +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Size 30 is definitely way too big for anyone,i know a lot of large people are happy etc etc but thier heart isn't, nor their lungs, kidneys, or joints.
It is a really delicate situation for all concerned, no one wants to offend your friend or hurt her feelings, she may well have tried to lose weight with no support, she has to know it's not a normal size. there is no easy way to discuss the subject with her but you could tell her you're really worried about her health and that you would hate to lose her, find some facts about how the excess weight puts a strain on her vital organs include your own health fears in this, look on the net, offer to support her by going on a diet and fitness programme with her, suggest you do it for charity and get all your mates involved and make it fun. Give her loads of praise, thats if she agrees. For her sake dont ignore it. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Indirectly, you can start an exercise program for yourself and invite her to join you. Directly, you can talk about yourself and how you feel you should lose some weight and get healthy, etc, and then tell her afterwards, and see what she thinks.
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