What do women think about men, fitness and fights?
Q. So, I'm a pretty peaceful guy. I'm going to school for biochemistry (which I love), and spend most of my life in the lab or library. I study hard, get good grades and generally enjoy prefer mental work as opposed to anything physical -- except for ...
A. 9 July 2014: I wouldn't date a fighter, I hate people that fight and would rather a man who would walk away from a situation.
Don't get me wrong I want to know my man will defend me but not a man that will start a fight just because someone is talking ... (read in full...)
I gave up everything to move in with my B/f and now he says that he doesn't love me. The house I left has been rented out and my job was filled almost immediately. What do I do now?
Q. I have known my boyfriend nearly 2 years now and 2 months ago he asked me (and my dog) to move in with him. He has not lived with a woman before - he is 38 years old. I agreed and re-located, giving up my job as the commute would no longer be viable ...
A. 9 July 2014: Did you rush into this? How long had you known him for before agreeing to live with him? I personally think people shouldn'nt move in together before 18 months because you dont really know them properly and you dont truly know how you feel. If y... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband but cannot bring myself to confess and I feel so guilty all the time
Q. Hi, I got married in 2012. During the first few months of our marriage, my husband remained busy with his friends, he had very little time for me. He made love to me on rare occasions. Then, I began to hang around with my boss, like fiends. One...
A. 9 July 2014: If you loved your husband so much you wouldn't of had an affair. This wasn't a one time mistake, this happened over and over again daily. You said you resisted all his advance and then a few days later you kissed, sorry but that is not resistance. ... (read in full...)
He only put the tip in. Am I still a virgin?
Q. I don't know if I'm a virgin or not.. Help? I was with him and he kept fingering me and tryed to make it easier for him to get it in.. Well, when he tryed to put it in It definitely hurt. He told me he only got the tip.in and that's all.. But I ...
A. 9 July 2014: You are not a virgin, and you bled because he broke the hymn which is why it hurt. Sex hurts alot the first few times, its not like in the movies lol... (read in full...)
I'm a catch! Why aren't men approaching me?
Q. Hi I am 23 years old and to date I have no had my first boyfriend,my first serious relationship..I'm a hopeless romantic,I want to love,want to be loved..I don't know why men aren't approaching me tho..so here's the thing I quite homely person,and I ...
A. 27 January 2013: Its not about the car you drive, the clothes your wear or how wealthy your family are. Its about who you are, how you act and how you treat people. It could be that you are giving off a "I am better than you" or "I am a catch and you should w... (read in full...)
Where are some interesting places I can go to meet people?
Q. Where are some interesting places I can go alone to meet new people? Most of my current friends are just like the typical people around my age. They are all happy to go to a pub/club and get wasted every weekend. This isn't really my kind of t...
A. 27 January 2013: As they get older they will lose interest in the pub but for the time being you need to think about what you enjoy doing and then find a way to encorporate that into your social life. This can be things like do a night class at your local college ... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and cum if he's not even enjoying it?
Q. This is a question for the guys; is it possible for a guy to NOT want to have sex with somebody, but then go ahead and do so, and still cum, even if he's not enjoying it? My bf always says he's not into one nighters, but he told me that whilst ...
A. 27 January 2013: I know I am a girl and so probably dont know as much as the guys but thought I would make a comment from what past boyfriends have said. Basically to my knowledge even if a guy doesn't really find someone that attractive but basically want to just ... (read in full...)
Do I ask for a second date? Or wait for her to ask me?
Q. I met this girl on a dating website, we have lots in common and we have the same sense of humour. I went on a date with her last weekend and it went really well, there was no awkwardness or silences and the conversation flowed. She is absolutely ...
A. 27 January 2013: Every girl is different so it is hard to say how many date before you make a move or before you can call it a relationship. I personally wouldn't ever arrange a second date because I tend to find it puts a man off when the girl asks for a second d... (read in full...)
I love this girl and told her about my feelings. I talked of proposing and she hasn't said yes or no. What do I do?
Q. I have been talking to her since last 9 months. 16 days ago I told her everything, how I feel. While I was telling her all my feelings she was smiling in between...I felt that she already knew I was going to propose to her soon and we had a chat ...
A. 27 January 2013: You need to leave this girl alone, she is not yours to own or control and you have no right to make her feel guilty about talking to another man.
She is allowed to date other people because she does not belong to you.
You sound like you a... (read in full...)
My 19 year old stepdaughter is having an affair with a man 30 years her senior. We can't make her see reason!
Q. My 19 yr old step daughter is having an affair with a 49 yr old rep that delivers hair products to the salon where she works. Her dad knows but doesn't care and her mother and I are worried sick he is only after one thing. He takes her away for ...
A. 19 January 2013: I can see your concern however she is 19 and she can make her own decisions. Instead of "trying to make her see sense" you need to simply explain to her what your concerns are without shouting or demanding she stops seeing him and telling her to ... (read in full...)
How do I regain girlfriend's trust after watching porn?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year and she found out that I' had been watching porno from time to time .i love her so much all I truly want to do is to gain her trust and make her happy (I am no longer watching porno I have looked for ways ...
A. 19 January 2013: As a femail I am not sure what the problem is with you watching porn and why this would ruin your relationship?
It is perfectly normal for someone to watch porn, its not real, your not involved and well to put it simply its only a bit of porn.
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Birth control questions
Q. Hi, Looking for some birth control advice. I've been in a relationship with my partner for 3 and a half years and I've been on the pill for the same amount of time. It has worked brilliantly for me , even helped me to put on weight, gain a more wom...
A. 14 January 2013: Have you considered simply changing which pill you are on? I was on one for about 2 yrs and then it simply stopped agreeing with me so I changed. I took 5 different types of pill before I found one that my mind and body is compatable with. I have... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 14 January 2013: You may not like the advice given from this advice forum but at the end of the day he doesn't need to justify himself from you and the advice is simply cut all strings with him and stop looking at this womans profile. If you put up a picture of you ... (read in full...)
What to say? Can't stand fathers beliefs
Q. My father is conversative and doesn't want to know anyone else's opinion. I can't stand how he is. He thinks having children out if wedlock is "ruining The family". This makes no logical sense to me. It's not like his family is close. How canyou ...
A. 10 January 2013: I think it would help if we knew the full story because this clearly isn't everything. Putting that to one side, plannning to have children out of wedlock can ruin a family. If you cant commit to marriage why would you commit to a child? If ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 10 January 2013: Wow, I have to admit you have certainly shown your age in this. So what if he has a friend who is a girl. If she is a bit flirty then talk to your boyfriend about it in an adult manor and explain that your not comfortable and there needs to be some ... (read in full...)
I hoped splitting up with my husband would result in Bf wanting to be closer. So why is he now hesitant about us getting closer?
Q. Hello People I am married unhappily, and have been seeing this younger guy for 3 years, i am 51, he is 45. We see each other once ot twice weekly, at the beginning he said it was like a FWB relationship, as time has passed, i have got a lot close...
A. 9 January 2013: You put your time and effort into a vein attempt to turn an affair into a relationship with a man who has already told you he wants nothing more than FWB. The fact that you are now separating from your husband puts him at risk of you thinking he ... (read in full...)
I was OK to sleep with. But he said he could'nt give me what I wanted. How do I cope with this, and the fact he now has a Gf?
Q. Hi everyone. Back in September, I moved into a shared house with three other people. Two of them I didn't know before, but there had always been chemistry between me and this other person. This other person and I have been close ever since we me...
A. 9 January 2013: He told you he couldn't give you what you want and he didn't want you as a girlfriend and it sounds like you turned yourself into his Friend with benefits in the hope he would develop feelings for you. Unfortunately more often than not this nev... (read in full...)
I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.
Q. Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...
A. 9 January 2013: Firstly it does frustrate me when I hear people say I am totally in love with my GF but I cheated on her. At the end of the day if you was totally in love with her then you would never of cheated on her. Now on to the actual advice, first things f... (read in full...)
Could I be bi-sexual? Can open-minded be considered a sexuality?
Q. I've questioned what my sexuality or how to define my sexuality ever since I was a child. It's probably been about 13 to 15 years long I have questioned this. Can open-minded be considered a sexuality? I grew up keeping to myself, and really tryin...
A. 9 January 2013: I believe this is Bi-curious which simply means you like the one sex but am curious about the other sex also. You simply haven't chosen which side of the fence to sit on so to speak lol.
You may find it easier with girls because you can relate to t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: A man in a relationship should not be on dating sites! it is completely wrong and it is disrespectful to the woman he is dating. The fact that he is asking you to show him proof means he knows how to hide it. It sounds like he still likes to g... (read in full...)
Does being "up front" about wanting a FWB relationship means you are now a "decent" human being?
Q. Why is it that men (and women) think that just because, they are being "honest" about wanting a FWB type of relationship in the beginning, that they are somehow a "decent" and upstanding human being? For instance, if someone who was going to rob...
A. 9 January 2013: I think you are missing the point to your own example. The fact that the person is being upfront is their way of saying "look i dont want a relationship i just want sex if thats ok with you" so a more likely burglar scenario would be "look i am a ... (read in full...)
Does being "up front" about wanting a FWB relationship means you are now a "decent" human being?
Q. Why is it that men (and women) think that just because, they are being "honest" about wanting a FWB type of relationship in the beginning, that they are somehow a "decent" and upstanding human being? For instance, if someone who was going to rob...
A. 9 January 2013: I think you are missing the point to your own example. The fact that the person is being upfront is their way of saying "look i dont want a relationship i just want sex if thats ok with you" so a more likely burglar scenario would be "look i am a ... (read in full...)
I am devastated. Girlfriend pregnant and wants an abortion
Q. Hello everyone, My gf got pregnant, we found it out today. We were both anxious when the news came. I'm 20, she's 19, we've been together for only 2 years, but we already made our minds about the future. We never had any unprotected sex, bu...
A. 9 January 2013: You have done all the right things and there is nothing more you can do. I would like to say you have handled all of this really really well. Unfortunately though as she is the one that will have to go through all of the changes and she is the o... (read in full...)
I love this girl and told her about my feelings. I talked of proposing and she hasn't said yes or no. What do I do?
Q. I have been talking to her since last 9 months. 16 days ago I told her everything, how I feel. While I was telling her all my feelings she was smiling in between...I felt that she already knew I was going to propose to her soon and we had a chat ...
A. 9 January 2013: You dont tell her anything, I would leave her be. She has turned you down for a date and she has distanced herself a bit. It sounds like she is trying to let you down gently or simply isn't in that place at the moment. Either way shouldn't... (read in full...)
Me and my FWB were both in committed relationships but I think I love him. Why has he distanced himself from me?
Q. Hi. I was involved in FWB relationship for a year, it's someone that used to always be there for me, we enjoyed each others company and only started sleeping together after 9 months. I feel so much for him but we are both in relationships where I'...
A. 6 January 2013: You are engaged and he has a girl he adores. Basically what you are doing is already wrong yet you are upset that he has distanced himself from you when you are quite simply his bit on the side. He quite clearly doesn't adore the girl h... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend for his best mate?
Q. I've fallen for my boyfriends best mate and I don't know how to handle it. They play on the same football team locally and as I wash all the kits, we got to know each other without my boyfriend there. We have a lot in common and just clicked....
A. 6 January 2013: Cheating on someone isn't only having sex with another person. Cheating its doing something you wouldn't do if your partner knew about it. If you really loved your boyfriend and wanted to be with him then you wouldn't be behaving like this and yo... (read in full...)
I love this girl and told her about my feelings. I talked of proposing and she hasn't said yes or no. What do I do?
Q. I have been talking to her since last 9 months. 16 days ago I told her everything, how I feel. While I was telling her all my feelings she was smiling in between...I felt that she already knew I was going to propose to her soon and we had a chat ...
A. 6 January 2013: I have been in this situation before but I was on the other side of it. A friend of mine one day told me he had loved me for years and he would marry me and that he has always felt that way. I knew he liked me but from that moment it suddenly made... (read in full...)
My BF of 7.5 years, father of our son, won't propose! I want us to be married, but he says he's not ready now.
Q. I am 29 years old and live with my boyfriend, who is 31 years old and we have been together for over 7 years. Together we have a son of 3 1/2 years old. We have lived together most of our relationship. We fell in love fast and knew immediately we ...
A. 6 January 2013: This is where most women seem to go wrong these days. This man no longer has any reason to marry you. You already have a child together, you already live together and you basically live a married life already. Why does he need to marry you? I am... (read in full...)
Discovered that my husband is on dating sites and talking about his 'soon to be' ex
Q. I am in need of advice once again. I have wrote on here in the past and I guess here we go again. My husband and I have been married for almost a year. He started out good but as the months went on, he started acting different. Saying things li...
A. 2 May 2012: I once discovered my other half had been talking to girl on websites (not dating) and telling them he was single. I was furious and we nearly broke up but after talking to him I discovered he was lonely when I went home (lived with parents at the ... (read in full...)
How can people not think of pornography as cheating?
Q. I have something bothering me i've read and discussed this and people say that a boyfriend using porn is no different than him imagining someone in his head but I strongly disagree. Masturbating to porn is alot worse it is an actual picture but ...
A. 2 May 2012: I am female and i have to admit it has never bothered me that my bloke watches porn occassionally. The only time it would bother me is if it actually affected our sex life. Watching porn is not cheating, he only watches it if i am not in the mo... (read in full...)
Help me lie to my mom!
Q. i have planned an trip with my boyfriend for three days without my parents knowledge now how do i make them believe tat i am gonna go with girls .my mom is telling tat she wil come to the station to drop me but if she cums she wil know the truth tat ...
A. 2 May 2012: I get the impression you might not be as old as you say and if this is the case then you really need to respect your parent wishes. If this isn't the case and your 18 or over then is there maybe a reason why your parents wouldn't want you to go? ... (read in full...)
How do I move on, get over him, stop thinking about him?
Q. I broke up with the love of my life about a year ago. He was all good at first, but at the end of our relationship he turned into this horrific monster. I have every right to hate him. But i just cant get over him. I still love him, and im still ...
A. 2 May 2012: First things first..stop checking his emails and facebook! this is stalking and you have no right to be keeping tabs on him.
If you stop checking up on him this will also allow you to start moving on. The only reason you are missing him so much... (read in full...)
She lied to me!
Q. I am in a relationship with the person I love and wanted to be with. We have been in a relationship for a year now and decided to get married as we both are 28 years old and ready to settle down. We were honest to each other and very loving bu...
A. 2 May 2012: She has not cheated on you and she is still the same person you fell in love with. So what if she was married before, she probably didn't tell you to start with because you were new in a relationship and then she probably felt the timing was never ... (read in full...)
How would you deal with finding out about a one night stand?
Q. Guys or Gals, please share your thoughts. What if you found out a year into your relationship that your girlfriend or boyfriend had a one night stand after being drunk at a bar with another guy/girl they barely knew only a few weeks before you both ...
A. 2 May 2012: i think if you'd been on a few dates then fine but once you are at the intimate stage then this is more of betrayal on the relationship. under these circumstances I would feel awful and i dont know how/if i would get over it. I personally would... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I love her very much!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, I love her very much and I know she loves me, she is beautiful,loyal,kind, everything I could ever want, she is the only girl I have ever had sex with, whereas she has had 4 boyfriends previous and 3 ...
A. 2 May 2012: This girl sounds lovely so dont let your insecurities take over. She is with you, she loves you and she has spent three years with you.......not any of these other men. The reason is because it is YOU who she is happy with and wants to be with and ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my step father
Q. Im 18 years old and I am attracted to my step Father. He's been with my Mother for 16 years now and their relationship isnt perfect. As far as I can remember I've been attracted to him. He seems like the perfect guy for me. In my relation...
A. 29 April 2012: He isn't just a step father he is the man who has brought you up over the years, it isn't blood that makes him your father it is the way he has brought you up over the years that makes him your father. YOu are also talking about betraying your m... (read in full...)
Why do girls complain about guy's cheating, yet they do far worse to the good guys who don't
Q. I don't quite understand what is going on. I try, so very hard to maintain a relationship. I always go into it with all the hope and care I can muster. Now I'm 26 years old, and I'm single. I've been beaten, broken, crushed, decimated, maimed, and ...
A. 29 April 2012: first question I have is, do you wear your heart on your sleave a bit? and are you maybe going for the wrong type of girl? I find it very hard to eblieve that all of the girls you are dating cheat on you. This might be a daft question but was... (read in full...)
Is this violent jealous abusive boyfriend worth the trouble? What should I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year, he always accused me of cheating. I don't know why he would even have the idea, I have a full time job and I would spend my days off with him at his place, he has the key to my place and he woul...
A. 29 April 2012: Would you really like to spend the rest of your life feeling like this?
if you go back to him this man will beat you into submission and you will be a shadow of your formerself with no friends, allies and possibly end up dead if he has a temper l... (read in full...)
My ex wants to come clean about why he cheated on me,should I talk to him or let it go?
Q. my ex and I had a 4 year relationship that ended because he cheated on me. I cut off all communication after we broke up until he posted a long status on Facebook about our relationship, and how he made mistakes and his mistakes shouldn't be coun...
A. 29 April 2012: He is simply wanting to talk to you to get his own closure, the only person who will gain from this is him and he is the one who was cheating so why give him the chance to clear his conscience? It is also highly likely to turn into a "its wasn... (read in full...)
Are most Friends with Benefits relationships usually kept secret or not?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question about Friends With Benefits (fwbs) I am currently in one with a guy I really like I was just wondering if all fwbs are usually kept secret or do people tell each other they are in one? I have asked this question...
A. 29 April 2012: Try to remember that FWB's are just friends and it is never likely to be anything more and if you really like him then you are going to end up with a broken heart. You are not IN fwb's to use this term makes it sound like you are in a relationship ... (read in full...)
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