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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for over a year and she found out that I' had been watching porno from time to time .i love her so much all I truly want to do is to gain her trust and make her happy (I am no longer watching porno I have looked for ways to keep my self busy ,reading visiting church more often ,playing video games and putting my self together ..none of the above has help me to fix my relationship any suggestion ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advices ..I will take consideration of each and everyone ..last night me and her had a ugly argument and I left the house we've been talking all day long and things seems to be getting better ..Cerberus I guess you're right and I am just gonna give her time and space hopefully she'll come to some realization :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Cerberus is right, you've stopped so now all you can do is wait. She'll come around. I'm sure she'll be checking up on you while you're not there to make sure you aren't lying and continuing behind her back. But once she checks for long enough and never finds anything, she'll start to trust you again.
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (19 January 2013):
If watching porn bothers her, and you want to change that, then to stop watching it is the right choice. We make sacrifices for those we love. Just explain to her that you have stopped and that you want to do it for her and make her happy. It will take time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): It isn't unfair to ask a man to stop watching porn!! They should stop without being asked. It isn't just a bit of porn to some women, it devastated me to find my boyfriend was doing it when I thought he was only looking at me.
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (19 January 2013):
As a femail I am not sure what the problem is with you watching porn and why this would ruin your relationship?
It is perfectly normal for someone to watch porn, its not real, your not involved and well to put it simply its only a bit of porn.
It should only be a problem if the two of you have stopped having sex because all you want to do is watch porn.
I think maybe you need to speak with your girlfriend and explain that you didn't realise porn was a problem in your relationship and now that you know how opposed she is to the idea of you watching porn then you will simply stop.
Relationships always have the obvious boundries such us "you will not cheat or lie to eachother" but there are also boundries that you learn as you go along and I tend to feel that this falls into that bracket.
I personally think it is unfair for a girl to ask a man not to watch porn but I guess there are girls out there that feel strongly about it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Just wait it out OP, you've stopped watching porn so there's nothing else you can do. You've stopped doing the thing that was causing the problem, it's up to her to learn to trust you again.
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