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writes:I've questioned what my sexuality or how to define my sexuality ever since I was a child. It's probably been about 13 to 15 years long I have questioned this. Can open-minded be considered a sexuality? I grew up keeping to myself, and really trying not to think what or who I like. Sure, I knew I like girls. I just kept my respect to them (I chose not to check them out, be nice, and just try not being interested in them). With guys, it's all a fuzzy mess. It just doesn't feel the same as my attraction to girls. A lot of it feels more of a sexual attraction, but there are times where it can just be face. Their smile, especially, and their personality as well. Sometimes, something just clicks in me when I lock eyes with some of them. It's just a strange feeling. With girls, it can be many things. Two of which I fell for, but just couldn't bear the courage to tell them how I felt. Still, it all made sense to me with these girls. I have yet to fall for a guy like I have with these past two girls in my life. So my question. Is it normal for the attraction towards males to different than my attraction to females? Could I really call myself bisexual?I know labels shouldn't matter, but I need to identify with something. To tell you the truth, I dream of finding a girl I truly love and getting to spend the rest of my life with. Even with that said, it does not eliminate what I think about males. I'm sorry for wasting time on this. I'm just getting too old to be asking about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2013): Sexuality is a continuum mate I wouldn't worry about giving yourself a label just be yourself. What ever you do don't fight your feelings though mate, don't try and change yourself. As a bisexual man myself I feel lucky that I can appreciate beautiful women and really cute guys. Its win-win ;)
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (23 January 2013):
Gay, bisexual, straight these are only terms society uses to profile someone so they know how to deal with them. Freud's theory was that everyone is born bi-sexual but most develop a preference. What most people today don't realise is sexuality is more of scale that can't be defined or categorized. Most people are not true hetero, bi or homo, they are a variation of all. Fantasizing about gay sex does not necessarily make you gay or abnormal. Look at it less as a type of sexuality, you are what you are just like eveyrone else is and you can't put a name to that. Also to answer your questions, yes you can feel a sexual attraction towards the same sex and it can be just sexual but you prefer a sexual relationship with the opposite sex. There are alot of "macho" guys who will secretely fantasize about gay sex even though they absolutly love women. Your not abnormal and neither is anyone else. Hope this helps.
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (9 January 2013):
I believe this is Bi-curious which simply means you like the one sex but am curious about the other sex also. You simply haven't chosen which side of the fence to sit on so to speak lol.
You may find it easier with girls because you can relate to them so much more but at the same time one day you might find a guy will make you smitten.
If you feel you really need a label then I believe bi-curious is the one you need however labels aren't that important.
You'll simply fall into a category one day when you fall in love and decide....this is right for me.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 January 2013):
While people may say there's gay, bisexual, transgender, and straight, there really is a lot more variation than those terms would imply.
I wouldn't worry about what you should call yourself, but you're probably bi if you need a label.
Even straight people aren't usually 100% straight. For instance, I would never be with a man in any way, shape or form, but I can look at a few men and think that there is something attractive about them. Not just that they are good looking, but they're attractive.
In your case it's a little harder to define but don't worry about it, just go with the flow and do what makes you happy.
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