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writes:I am in need of advice once again. I have wrote on here in the past and I guess here we go again.My husband and I have been married for almost a year. He started out good but as the months went on, he started acting different. Saying things like I need me time. That was fine with me until I found out me time was leading to him telling other females he would like to take them out on a date. He is registered on Untrue.com which makes me absolutely ill. I am so upset at myself because for about a month he was without a job and I supported him. He has a job now because I got him a job with the company I work for. Now he telling these ladies that his soon to be ex has been living in a motel room because she refuses to live in his place. A 27 foot camper trailor( he leaves that part out. He also leaves out it has no water and no gas for the stove or to get hot water when the water is on). He does these things but still wants me to have a sex life with him. I feel like I am being used only because when he gets on these sites, it is getting him excited and I am the only one around to get him off. I cant take it anymore. I hate to go to the extreme of divorce, but I know that may be what it is going to have to lead to. Does anyone have any advice? I do love him, but I dont know if he knows what love is. How can someone say they love you and do something like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate everyone's advice. Thanks! I have not confronted him yet over this, but I will very soon!
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (3 May 2012):
Why do you love this man who treats you like dirt.
It will be hard to divorce or it will be harder to live with all this rubbish from him for any longer.
You deserve better than this. Start divorce proceedings immediately.
He will not change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): Ok my husband has done the same if not worse we've been married 3 yrs but gosh wen I found out I was so sad then I thought y he's such a jerk then I got mad and I wanted 2 get even but I didn't I just talked 2 him of course he lied tipical man imean boy it all has 2 do with maturaty but anyways I stoped having sex with my husband for about a month we fought 4 ever about this stupid dating websites but then we he ask 4 sex or kisses on me I tell him I'm good y don't u go ask a girl on ur dating websites lol and he stoped it the reaction I think idk how he treats u but I do no if he can't or won't stop it wasn't meant 2 me and u can do better !
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (3 May 2012):
I am pretty sure this guy does not love you and he is only taking advantage of you. You have spoilt him too much I fear. Confront him about his actions and make a decision from there. Make sure the decision is FOR YOU.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (2 May 2012):
I once discovered my other half had been talking to girl on websites (not dating) and telling them he was single. I was furious and we nearly broke up but after talking to him I discovered he was lonely when I went home (lived with parents at the time) and just wanting to talk to these people and found when he said he had a girlfriend they would stop talking.I was still fuming but I listened to his reasons and pointed out that if the roles were reversed how would he feel.He realises his actions now and he has sworn never to go on the sites again and never to act this way again and to be honest our relationship has gone from strength to strength and we are now getting married 4 yrs on. So what I am trying to say is I would ask your husband why he is on these sites and why he is saying what he is saying. If he says he is craving the attention then reverse the situation and ask how he would feel and hopefully he will realise how he is hurting you. On the other hand if he is just being an arrogant arse and thinks he is gods gift and has that little respect for your marriage then I would suggest moving out and finding someone loyal and who respects your feelings.
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