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writes:Hi,Loads of crazy things have been happening to me recently taking me back to the time that I was with my 1st love many many years ago. I had a lot of problems back then, but all is well for me now.Then completely outta the blue she tracked me down via Friends Reunited and then Facebook..even though she married!! I sensed something was not right in her life and that she was gonna contact me for some reason before it happened. (I have not had any contact with her since we split)I met her and I saw this intense saddness/loniness/regret/emptyness in her. She sorta confirmed this in our many conversations since then and shes harping back to the time we were an item. I mean people do things for a reason unless they are ill or have suffered a trauma.As she's married I dont wanna get into an affair or anything like that, just want to help her. I feel that she's reaching out for me...It seems to be a cry for help.Question is..does anyone else have experiences of "divine intervention" (if it is DI) and what did you do/handle it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): leave divine intervention alone. when you intervere in someones else marriage you become part of the problem as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I like the first reply.
Definitely not divine intervention but our human ability to see connections in a cobweb of little things. Has anyone ever seen the Divine intervene in our affairs? Any miracles make the news lately? Asteroid was headed straight for NY when suddenly it veered away.
While I realize you are not asking about having an affair by listening to her problems keep your distance should she make any moves on you while her judgment is clouded by her distress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi people...NOOOOO you have me all wrong.
I AM NOT looking for an affair with her.
I sensed that she needs my help, and I want to help her as an friend,nothing else.. I couldnt do anything immoral... I feel her pain.
It would be "pay back" for when she came to my aid all those yrs ago when I need help and didnt have any one to turn too...I see the same pain in her eyes as i saw all those yrs ago when she told me of some personal things that upset her, but that look/pain in her seems much deeper now.
I sense that she wants to tell me... in person when we meet after her hols.
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reader, spiderweb  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I agree with the previous comment: This has nothing to do with Divine Intervention. We all know the marriage vows: What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. If I had a dollar for every person who claimed that their lover was a "soul mate" and "mean to be" and even yes, divine intervention, I would be millionaire. Fact is people who are engaged in an affair (or about to start an affair with a married person) always kid themselves and look for some higher reason, instead of looking at the truth which is much less flattering and lowly, i.e. sleazy cheating. If she has problems in her marriage, they are not for you to sort out. If she's sad and lonely, don't make it your problem. Stay away. She has cheating on her mind otherwise why would she seek you out and then give you the impression that you can help her and be a saviour? Her agenda is questionable, at the very least!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe DI is not that she tracked me down...but the fact that we were both thinging about each other @ the time (she told me so) and all the incidents that have happened to me ...the only common denominator being Her/the time we were together
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Hi,
Lot of people are getting in touch on Facebook and other Social Networking sites.Many people look for their exe's.
So Personally,this is not a DI.
Help her though.U never know waht future holds for you.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): I'm not sure if this is divine intervention really, although yes, I do believe in things like that. It just seems to me that this lady is unhappy in her marriage and has reached out to someone familiar and comforting, someone she used to know and have a connection with - you.
Whether there is anything spiritual at work here or not, I think it is important to try and stay grounded about it, otherwise the situation could become messy. How do you feel about her reaching out to you? Are you hoping there could be a chance between you two? Or are you okay with just being friends? As you already pointed out yourself, she is married. So whether she is happy or not, she is really off-limits in that way. I can understand her reaching out to you for help, and you obviously care and would like to help her. But I think that you need to be careful and try not to get too involved in her situation. Because otherwise, things could simply end up getting trickier, and that would not be helping anyone at all.
I guess it is okay to try and be there for her as a friend. But ultimately, only she can sort out her situation. If she is having problems in her marriage, then she and her partner need to work on that. If you got involved in the situation, it could make things more complicated, and could also be confusing for you. So I would say to just be wary, and maybe try and avoid getting too embroiled in the situation.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I get them all the time and can be scary sometimes. I just have to think of a friend and the phone will ring or I get an email from them soon after, usually the same day.
Maybe we are just given choices in life, if we choose to follow them is up to us.
There’s a reason why she tracked you down and I admire you for not wanting to start an affair. Just be there to listen to her, it may be a cry for help as you say or she may now realize she made a mistake and wants you back.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry I forgot to add :-
She helped me back then...is this "Divine Invervention" asking me to help her now..even though she may not ask for help. Your comments would be grately appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): It's not divine intervention, its human intervention.
She's not happy in her relationship so she contacted an ex with whom she was happy (as many women do). She may well have tried to contact other old boyfriends or friends before she contacted you...
The fact that you can tell that she was very sad/lonely etc also makes you human... we are known for being able to read emotions...
As for what you should do, just be there for her, help her but don't embark on an affair.
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