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*endyroo2
writes:oh my goodness i just want to scream i am so unhappy,cant stand my kids my husband bothers me to no end i have thought of everything from having an affair leaving and never looking back,then the guilt hits so i stay,i am 40 and husband is 55 he has health issues as do i but i dont let it get me down i want to live and he wants to sleep 24/7 cant remember last time we had S E X its so sad i dont know what to do please some advice.I have no one close to me to vent to, so thank you for letting me do it
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (24 August 2010):
You make your life! sound like a joke. maybe you should just go have an affair! that's the easy way out.
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reader, wendyroo2 +, writes (24 August 2010):
wendyroo2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks its a tough one to figure out maybe i should just have an affair lol
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reader, TalonZurfluh  +, writes (23 August 2010):
if i were you, id leave him and find the right person for you. if your not happy, your not happy. the age difference definatly weighs down how much you enjoy life, because theres only so much you can do. 40 is still pretty young. im sure he will understand eventually, or, he could change his life style to fit your needs. if he really loved you, im sure he would. everyone wants there relationship to work out, so talk to him about it
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reader, spiderweb  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 You have my sympathy - life is really getting you down and you're fed up. Good idea to vent. Feel free. That's what we're here for :) You're in a rut right now with sick sex-less hub and kids at a difficult stage. You need some fun! (And not the kind that involves other men and sex out of the marriage - that's just trouble!) How about planning things to do as a family, and/or with you and your husband alone. Take up a hobby, join a group, take walks in the country together, find picnic spots in places of natural beauty, start a book club, a cooking club, a restaurant club, find new friends, just try and get away once a week from the house and the everyday grind. At some point, things will gradually change and get better - that's life. At the moment, everything is getting on your nerves but force yourself to claw out of the deep rut, even though it can be an effort. Good luck honey - and feel free to vent - we can take it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): To you I am still probably a kid but when my relationship was in a rut I got romantic. As for your kids if there teens it just a phase. If there are boys they will fight and girls will fight but they probiliy won't hit each other. (if fighting is the problem) just remember that there your kids and that no matter what they will always love you and u have to get through it's one of the test all parents go throught you are not alone. If there kids I can't help you. As for the sex part go get a nice hotel get a way from the kids for a while get some nice lingerie and have a good time with your husband...
I hoped this helped.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (23 August 2010):
It sounds like your letting it get to you! to say you cant stand your kids that's not good! but i know how you feel been there done that too! but i always loved my children.
even on there or my bad days! what i found to help me back then was a routine in my life and being organized and one day out of the week i did a total me day and no'one else. i really enjoyed walking the more i did it the better i felt and was handling things so much better!! it is so mentally and phyiscally good for you try it when you feel things are closing in on you go for a walk and just motate by yourself.
it may sound silly but you wont know until you try it.
vent,vent,vent.
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