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female
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30-35,
*lonebutstillwaiting
writes: Im 22 I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years I moved in with him at his parents house 3 years ago. And I don't have much to do with my family. Well we work at the same place but we drive buses and we dont interact at work . Well he works all the time 12 hours a day and I see him for an hour at lunch and the. About 2-3 hours after work and then we go to bed. And I know he loves me but its like he's not home all week and I am and I want to go out on the weekends and he wants to stay home or go out with his mom and me. She doesn't drive so I have I take her to pay bills and to the store ext. so I'm always around her and she gets on my nerves. And he is a complete mammas boy and I dont like it. An she knows I don't and she takes advantage of that. It's always her against me. Well for about 7 months its like he rather be hanging out with other people and me instead of just us. Or bringing his mom along and I want alone time with him. Just us, and he just don't understand that. And we plan on moving out by the end of the summer but if I want to stay home an he wants to go to his parents house on the weekend and visit that's fine but if I say I just want to stay home I have a feeling that he will get mad because he knows his mom aggravates me and he's just like why do t u like her an blah blah so it's like I do t want to break up or anything but I just wish he would have some independence. And choose me over his mom for a change. And people tell me that's her little boy. But he has to grow up sometime and she needs o let me take care of him without her being in my hair always asking questions like what r u cooking tonight or where's my son whats my son doing ? She's says it just to aggravate me but I just don't even answer her anymore! I just wish he would show me the love and affection he use to!! How do u think I can get a reconnection with him ??! :/
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reader, sneha09  +, writes (21 March 2013):
 Well no don't be so impatient,try to get along with his mother,she will say something and you may become sad.Let that happen,don't worry you will be paid off.
When she asks about his son,just say her firmly 'Let your son be' Ask her 'how was hers day?'Mind that you are not detaching them.You are just making both realize you exist with yourself,your wishes need to be fulfilled not only by your boyfriend but also by his mother.
Make your space,your place is important let them know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013): Just because our kids grow doesn't mean we cut all ties... Of course we take an interest OP in what he's doing?! Or where he's at! Or even what you making for dinner... Instead of seeing these as challenging you, or competing for your bf affection... Why not, try and give a little ... You take her to pay her bills that very kind of you... Just as it’s kind of her to have you and her son living under her roof, don't you agree? I think you need a job really, sounds like you’re at home far too much... And maybe with gaining a bit of freedom from the house, you will see his mum in a diff light .You don't have to love her ! You don't even have to like her !!! But by gee you need to learn to get along with her. She always going to be his mother... I think your own family issues have impacted upon this situation and you should try and deal with them as well. Being together as a couple is nice but maybe he fed up with you whinging about his mamma... Here your choices. Try and get along with his mother.Cut all ties and leave...Those choices are yours...
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