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writes:So almost 2 months ago i met this guy, he got my number and we have texted everyday since. He asked me out once, then i asked him out(didnt happen because of floods) then he asked me out and we went out and had a good time. About a week and a half ago he asked me out again and we set a date for last Monday... As soon as he asked me out and i replied he started taking longer and longer to reply which i understood because he had a very busy weekend ahead of him so it didnt bother me. We always take between half hour to 2 hours to reply anyway because i like a little space and obviously dont want to seem to desperate. Well it got to the day we were supposed to catch up but his familys car got stuck ont he other side of city coz they were at a fam friends bday and the car got stuck inside the function places gates. So he said he would let me know if hes back in time to do something. Anyway i stupidly did nothing that day waiting for him so i would be ready and not flustered. So it got to 6pm and he still hadnt replied(i was going to suggest dinner so that was out of the picture) then finally at 7 he texts me back with everything that happened that day etc etc and didnt mension ANYTHING about going out and he did say he would let me know. So a little pissed that i wasted my day waiting for him to reply and let me know i went to my brothers house for dinner and said we would have to 'reschedule sorry i didnt know what was happening' and i didnt want to act like i waited for him all day. Anyway he replied with a really long msg bout how his day sucked etc(it seemed like a suck up msg to be honest) and at the end said "Sounds like another day soooorry"I replied with something i thought would cheer up his day and told him something that happened to me that was funny and kind of an inside joke. Then..... nothing...So we text everyday since meeting and he asks me out... three days later he stops replying. Its now been a week. Its driving me nuts. its made me feel so yuck and blue. I have stupidly let my guard down and come to like him a lot. It seems every boy loses interest :( but this guy... i didnt want to let go of.Is he trying to play some kind of game.. I dont get it. Its weird, because i look over our recent msgs and they actually calm me down. He never really hinted *f off* he kept asking questions and giving flirty vibes all the time.. even the last msg i got from him. Now a week later... i been waiting for him to text and im never one to do the texting but in this case do you think i need to? or keep waiting. I MEAN HE ASKED ME OUT for the third time!
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reader, Freeangel  +, writes (21 March 2011):
I've been going through a similar situation lately.
I know it's really hard when you like someone and you really think it could go somewhere and you feel different about them and if it seems to suddenly go cold it's so difficult when you don't know what's going on. Some men/boys, can be cowards sometimes. Not meaning to tar them all with the same brush but if he doesn't know what he wants then he shouldn't drag you along with his indecision. He should be honest with you. My advice is to not contact him. If he's truly worth it he will make the effort. And I'm taking my own advice in my situation too, LOL! Just keep it in mind that you are worth pursuing by any man and if he doesn't make enough effort to see you then try to move on. Get on with your own life and interests and who know what or who will pop up along the way! :o) Stay strong!
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reader, Gertie  +, writes (21 March 2011):
I've had 3 dates with a guy he asked me out the first time,I did the 2nd time an him the 3rd(last Saturday). He got sick on that date so I took him home and got him into bed..since then nothing..it doesn't take long to text and if he were really interested he would have contacted you by now. My plan on my situation is to contact him at the weekend asking for my necklace back(which he still has) and then see what happens. Its going to be hard not to contact him but I'm going to be strong! I think you need to do the same.
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reader, addz +, writes (21 March 2011):
Hey not sure if he is playing a game but sounds like he is losing interest or is not trying hard enough to meet up with you. I don't understand whats with all the texting though once you've met someone don't you feel comfortable enough to talk to them on the phone seems much more direct and personal after all he may just be sick of texting i know i get over it.
Good luck with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Don't contact him. He had to let you down on that last date and so the ball is in his court. I would take the line that if he wants to see you he'll contact you. I feel that this may be a non starter, so brace yourself that he is not going to call. Don't seem too keen as its early days and its not up to you to make the running.
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reader, sneha09  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Just don't pay much heed to this guy,he seems to be confused.If he asks next time, say you are busy without giving it a second thought.If he is concerned(I don't think he is) , he will take care of it and will ask you again.Let him know there is many things you like about life, not just him.
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