My ex bf is messing with my head but I can't let go! Help!
Q. i broke up with my ex tim* 4 months ago (we were together for a year and a half and completely in love) because this is our senior year and i felt like i missed out on having fun with my own friends and i felt like i was in a committed relationship ...
A. 22 January 2010: Ahh... just one of the many classic cases of "first loves gone wrong". Honey, I've so been there; I'm still sort of there. I can't honestly say that because of your age, you feel no such thing as love because when I was 16-18, I was completely in it ... (read in full...)
Is highschool fun?
Q. Im going into highschool after Summer, and I was wondering is it fun? And will guys take interest in me, finally? Thanks. P.S. - Anything else you can tell me about fun things to do in Highschool or if you had fun or anything would be great. ...
A. 22 January 2010: In my own past experience with high school, it really depends on what kind of people you, your friends, future love interests, and your teachers are/will be. If you love life and make the most of it in high school and your friends share the same ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex and yet am repulsed by it
Q. I've never heard of anybody who has this problem. I am a man in my late 20's, who like most other men is desperate to have sex, yet at the same time I'm repulsed by it. The reason why is because I despise the human race, I view all emotions as ...
A. 12 June 2009: "I've only had sex once a few years back and I hated it because it made me feel weak like a human."
Guess what? You ARE a human and no matter how hard it is accept this, you do show affection by, well, hating the human race... and apparent... (read in full...)
How can I make my fiance and my dad get along?
Q. Hi, I've been having problems with my fiance. I'm 19 and he's 24. We've been engaged for a few weeks now but my parents don't know this. I love him dearly yet he hates my dad; he despises my dad's morals and wishes my dad could act more like a real ...
A. 12 June 2009: Get rid of the boyfriend. Plain and simple. He's virtually ruining your life. Find someone worthy of your love and affection, someone who will get along with your family; it's obviously not your current guy.... (read in full...)
He cheats and lies and stays at her house all the time... how can I get him to be nicer?
Q. Last summer my 22 yr old fiance cheated on me with a 28 yr old whore i say that because she screwed him on a couch with a 4 yr old watching. my fiance and i have a 2 yr old and 5 days after i found out he was cheating i found out i was pregnant ...
A. 7 June 2009: This situation sounds a little like mine. However, there were no children involved and we were not married, but we were together for two years and then some slut just had to come and distract my now ex. He cheated on me several times with this ... (read in full...)
Will anyone else be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits?
Q. Is there anyone else out there that would adapt and/or be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits? Im not a party person, I dont drink or smoke. Now that Im out of high school life seems a whole lot more boring. Im home alot and go ...
A. 8 May 2009: I agree with Sodee and pretty much everyone else who's answered, lol. I personally find it endearing that you don't drink or party but I am wondering: Why did you break up with your last girlfriend? Was it reason on her end of the spectrum because ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a break up after a long time and felt like this?
Q. Hi, just wanted a little moan again. I'm so fed up of feeling sad, and worrying about things. I split with my bf five months ago, and although I don't want him back, I miss being in a relationship. He's moved on fast, which he's entitled to do, but ...
A. 13 April 2009: I'm only assuming this is a "first love" deal considering your posted age and how long you say you and and your ex were together: The first love/break-up is the worst and hardest to get over. And honey, I went through the exact same thing that ... (read in full...)
What would you do if your bf had 4 women spend the night?
Q. What would you do if your boyfriend had four females spend the night? I had recently gotten back together with my ex after a two no contact period. He had cheated on me in our relationship before and we broke up. Fast forward two years, we got back...
A. 13 April 2009: It's pretty obvious he will not change his cheating ways. He also seems like the kind of guy that wants his cake and eat it, too. I suggest you stop killing yourself over it and get over his pathetic ass. You don't need him. He sure as hell doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm sick, single and sick of it!
Q. Hi. I'm miserable right now. The problem is that nothing seems to satisfy me at the moment. I can watch any amount of comedy, play any number of games, see any number of my friends, and yet nothing is able to make me feel truly happy. I haven't been ...
A. 2 April 2009: Oh man, sounds like me. I suggest you take up some vitamins, start eating healthily and exercising, and hang out with friends. Perhaps take up a hobby or two (mine are writing, running, listening to music, and taking small road-trips by myself). I ... (read in full...)
She used to be a HE!
Q. I really don't know what to do here. I've been with my girlfriend for one year. It's been going great and she's perfect, or so I thought. We met at work. I'd always had an attraction to her and I was overjoyed when I found out that she liked me as ...
A. 31 March 2009: It's understandable that you feel weird about it, but you say you loved her before all of this. Honestly, you should not give up on her. You loved her since the beginning and that should not change even after hearing about something this big. If you ... (read in full...)
1 of 2 guys could be the daddy
Q. Ok im 15 years old im goin to be 16 in november. My boyfriend is 24 whom will be 25 in october. Come to find out im pregnant. The thing is, is that im not so sure who the father is...It can be one out of two people.... my boyfriend that i have been ...
A. 26 March 2009: Um, first of all, what are you doing with a 24 year old boyfriend? He can get into some trouble if the authorities or even your parents find out about his age. That's statutory rape and it does not matter worth a damn if you try and convince ... (read in full...)
Did the military take this man's heart away?
Q. I've had a lover now for almost 7 months. I knew he wasn't boyfriend material for me Because we live in two different worlds. He's divorced father of 3 in the military and I am single..college educated well traveled. Not only that.. He ca...
A. 20 March 2009: Become a lesbian, lol.
But seriously though, even women who are quite smart tend to unconsciously "dumb themselves down" to show a more affectionate side. But that's women and even the most tight-assed and "hard-core" ones show their emotiona... (read in full...)
Baby names...
Q. My bf and I were talking about baby names we want something unique and different but still cute. What do you think of the following names? BOYS: Flynn Owen (Owen is my bfs dad) Sloan Owen Makai (Ma-Ki) Owen Girls: Makenna Joy Arizona Jo...
A. 15 March 2009: Personally, I quite like the names Flynn Owen and Makenna Joy. But ultimately, I wish you good luck in your choice! =]... (read in full...)
She's a couple days late, but we are so scared. What are the chances?
Q. I live in the US. My GF of 17 months might be pregnant, we had intercourse 7 days ago today. she is worried cause her period was suppose to happen and it hasnt yet. I did use a condom with spermicidial lube..but after i came, i kept going. and i ...
A. 14 March 2009: First of all, it's impossible to know if a girl/woman is pregnant within a seven-day span. Secondly, a girl's menstrual cycle usually fluctuates in the days she starts, the pain of the cramps, even the amount of flow she gets for the first few years ... (read in full...)
What do you think would've happened if I'd gone through with it?
Q. I just got into a relationship with this guy named Josh. He's so sweet, and I really like him. We'd just gotten together on March 10th. (just a few days ago) Tonight I went over to his house for the first time. We played with his dog for a while...
A. 14 March 2009: I applaud you for holding back and I applaud him for being patient and understanding enough to accept your answer because he could've easily been a prick and pressured you into it resulting in you possibly getting pregnant. And that might make him ... (read in full...)
No confidence! Don't know how to meet people?
Q. Hi folks, I am stuck in a bit of a rut. My belief in my ability to find a relationship. I used to believe the main issue was being overweight. But I realise whilst it might be a factor, it isn't the single thing that prevents me from finding so...
A. 14 March 2009: Wow, you sound like the perfect guy to me, minus the confidence lacking, but that doesn't really matter so much... to me anyway. ANYWAYS! You should look into getting a job on the university campus. Most colleges want a nice GPA and a pretty cle... (read in full...)
My guy threatens and accuses me of cheating!
Q. I am losing my mind. My boyfriend accuses me of cheating on him on a daily basis. This has been happening for the past 9 months or so and I am really at a loss for what I can do at this point. The first few months I was patient and reassuring and ...
A. 13 March 2009: That is verbal abuse, honey. Those are emotional scars waiting to happen and those take forever to heal! I would know, I dated a verbally abusive guy for two years and it's only been three months since our break-up and I can still feel those words ... (read in full...)
Attraction to history professor
Q. I'm very much attracted to my history professor, I don't believe he's married b/c he doesn't wear a ring on his finger, not sure if he has children or not, but I find myself interested in him more than what he is teaching (dont get me wrong I like ...
A. 7 March 2009: When I was junior in high school, I had a "crush" on my U.S. History teacher. Then again, people thought that was the case because he was the "strange" teacher and I was apparently the "strange" girl who had only a few friends. But I thought this ... (read in full...)
Why is my mum acting this way?
Q. It's not really a relationship question but any help would be great! I've been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and I've never had such a deep relationship or been this close to anyone before. We see each other about every other day and on ...
A. 6 March 2009: I want to take a guess at the "theory" that she may just want to keep her last baby as, well, a baby. Parents (including my own) are almost always terrified of the fact that their kids are actually growing up and getting boyfriends and girlfriends ... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me and yet then he says he's "stuck with me"
Q. im 20 years old and pregnant. ive been with my boyfriend for going on 3 yrs...in the beginning, the relationship was really good, dont get me wrong it still is...but things have changed......he's really insulting when he talks about my mom, and my ...
A. 6 March 2009: Sounds like this guy has a lot of growing up to do. He's controlling, manipulative, abusive and to be quite honest, I'd say YOU are the one stuck with HIM considering the baby. But seriously though, there really are mature and highly respectful men ... (read in full...)
Why do girls go back to abusive relationships?
Q. why do girls go back to bad realationships, being it unhealthy or abusive? a friend asked me why im in a abusive realationship and i didnt no what to say. so please help me with what to say...
A. 2 March 2009: First off, are you, in fact, in an abusive relationship? This could mean he physically hurts you (whether on purpose or accident) or he calls you bad names or tells you you are not worth it and blah blah blah. I was in an abusive relationship for ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin but she rejected me, how can we stay friends?
Q. Hello. Guys . This is about me and my cousin. She is 15 . Im 19. Things are like, this started 2 years back. This cousin of mine and me is too close. More than just cousins. We used to talk for hours, we used to hold hands, she used to rest on ...
A. 15 February 2009: Considering you're cousins, that's probably the reason she said no. Otherwise, I'm quite sure she would've said yes. In any case, you should get out more and gradually get yourself into the habit of meeting girls who do not have any relation to you. ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him, he had a girfriend, they broke up, but she wants him back, he 's undecided, what now for me?
Q. I messed up this time and I hate myself for it! I'm 15 years old and i have had sex before with others but this time it was different, i'm not a whore but i had sex with this guy that i dont really even know. he snuck over at like 2 in the morning ...
A. 15 February 2009: Sounds like the guy's a player. I suggest you start rearing yourself away. Especially since you had sex with him while he was with another girl. I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but seriously, shame on you when it comes to that. But DEFINITELY ... (read in full...)
How do you resist other girls when in a relationship?
Q. How do you resist other girls, Been going out with my existing girlfriend for about 5 months now... And there is about 3-4 girls who are all over me when I see them and I keep getting closer to accepting one of those invitations. They know I have a ...
A. 15 February 2009: Wow, you sound a lot like my ex; only he DID cheat. But if those girls aren't smart and nice enough to back off because you DO have a girlfriend, then that's their problem, not yours. Your problem is that you consend to the flirting and because you ... (read in full...)
Husband cheated when we were still dating, and he did this because I cheated on him.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend (fling, got pregnant, had an abortion), and I did this because I thought our relationship was over. It wasn't over, and we got back together. He found out and he'd hurt me every time he remembers what I did. After a few ...
A. 11 January 2009: If he cheated on you as well and still made you feel like crap about you cheating on him for years afterward, the guy is obviously not a very good one. But if you dont' think you could hangle being without him, you should have a serious talk about ... (read in full...)
I'm only 13 and nervous about having sex - I don't want babies!
Q. i think im ready to have sex, but i dnt kno yet because babys cuz along wit it, but my boyfriend is waiting on me. so wat should i do im only 13?...
A. 16 November 2008: You are way too young to be having sex! And if the guy is pressuring you, get rid of him. Now. That's really all I can say.... (read in full...)
I can't ask her to be my gf because she's skinny and I'm fat.
Q. I have a crush on this girl, but I don't know if I can ask her to be my girlfriend. I can't tell my mom and dad, because they would just say "my baby is in love." I try to ask her out on Fridays, but I'm just too nervous. I mean she's skinny and I'm ...
A. 16 November 2008: Parents never really "help", do they? lol Even though being a bit bigger compared to other guys has something to do with how a girl chooses a guy (especially at your age), if she's at all classy, she will be with you because of how amazing you are. ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. Are women put off dating skinny guys? Is the build and muscles of a man overly important for a woman?...
A. 4 August 2008: Haha, no. As society sees it (and basic health issues), a fit man is supposed to be with a fit woman (or man, depending on how you look at it) and it's drilled into our heads from a young age that being "fit" is the ideal way to go. And although ... (read in full...)
I need makeup tips to start the 8th grade!
Q. I really want to start wearing makeup. Like eyeshadow, mascara, eyeliner and lipgloss. I'm pretty sure my mom will approve because I'M GOING INTO 8TH GRADE!! ***I REALLY need LOTS of tips and advice!!!!*** PLEASE AND THANK YOU!!!!! xoxo...
A. 2 July 2008: Try natural/neutral colors. That's about all I can give you, hon. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Vaginal hygiene - Am I going about it right?
Q. I wash my vagina with a scrubie poof thing and soap. Is this bad? Like, is it the same as douching?...
A. 20 June 2008: Every woman's vagina is different: look, feel, smell, sensitivity, even taste. It all depends on what you prefer and what your vagina can handle. What I've read about in health books, however, is that it cleans itself. Just the natural process, I ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to give us a chance? His ex is obsessed and deluded and has just had a baby - that might be his.
Q. I got talking to this guy online, and we quickly started getting on really well. He got attached to me and wanted me to visit - we'd already planned a joint birthday party - so I did. The first few days were great. He said he was the happiest...
A. 19 June 2008: Wow, it's just like on TV, lol. Anyway, this woman seems like the kind that would screw anyone over who becomes even the slightest bit close to her ex. I highly suggest/recommend one of those blood tests to see if the kid is even his. If not, you've ... (read in full...)
Am I infertile or is it just luck?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past six months and we have sex quite often. We've never once used protection and don't get me wrong I'm glad I'm not pregnant! But I just don't understand why that's the case. Does that mean I'm infertile or is i...
A. 19 June 2008: I completely agree with Collaroy!... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to deal with hearing the news about my abusive ex and his new girlfriend!
Q. My ex bf would sexually abuse me all the time and sometimes emotionally abuse me. While we were going out, his best friend would talk to me often and say things that portrayed him as being a guy who sleeps around alot and just generally not a good ...
A. 19 June 2008: Oh my god, I am going through almost the exact same thing right now. All you can really do is lose contact with ex-bf and his best friend. It's going to be hard (it's been hard for me), but eventually you will meet someone sooo much better (I have). ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to stay in this relationship after I found out about his attempt at cheating!
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and half years. But im starting to think am i paranoid. To cut a long story short we have a bit of an up/down relationship but what ever happens we battle through. Reasently i have be come supicious o...
A. 19 June 2008: I think you should have a talk with him and be as open and non-judgmental and understanding as possible (at first) and if he still doesn't open up about cheating and genuinely apologizes, end it. It isn't worth your grief and you can find someone ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will hurt me if I tell him I cheated on him!
Q. I'm scared by bf will hurt me if I tell him I cheated on him. He knows something's wrong as he's pretty perceptive to my emotions and he keeps asking me what's wrong, I feel so guilty I have to tell him I slept with a guy from work. But he can get ...
A. 18 June 2008: Oh my god, hon, you have to get out of that relationship! I was in a similar one not too long ago and I got out by ending complete contact with him (let me tell you, that is really hard to do) and turning to my friends and family. It's destructive ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my divorcing friend that I love her?
Q. i need some help and i dont know who to turn to, so maybe y'all can help me. About 5 months ago i met the most incredible woman. We started talking and we just clicked. We both admitted we had feelings for each other but she is married. I told her ...
A. 18 June 2008: I think you should keep as much contact with her as possible. For now, be there for her when she needs advice and comforting. I'm sure that's how you are already, but make sure not to "smother" her. Start "painting the town red" with her and ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who's obviously not worth your time?
Q. How can I get over a guy who dumped me because he couldn't handle my past and mistreated me because of this? Because I lied about it, just because I didn't want to disclose it. He judged me hardly on it, and was mean when the subject came up. We ...
A. 18 June 2008: Someone quite close to me is going through a similar situation right now; the only difference is that he's constantly harrassing her, texting her threatening messages and what not. If it ever gets to a point to where he's screwing with you mentally, ... (read in full...)
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