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writes:i think im ready to have sex, but i dnt kno yet because babys cuz along wit it, but my boyfriend is waiting on me. so wat should i do im only 13? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): PLEASE PLEASE don't do it!!
I'm just 18, and I didn't lose my virginity until i was 17. Seriously, the maturity you gain in those 3 or 4 years makes so much difference. Not only that but it's physically damaging to your body - there are scientific reasons why the age limit is 16.
If your boyfriend is pressuring you either tell him 'no' and mean it and if he's worth his salt he'll accept that. If he doesn't, leave the relationship.
PLEASE don't do it. For your sake. Besides, if you're not sure, then you're NOT ready. You have to be so sure. 100% positive that it is what you want. And it has to be with someone who respects you.
Please don't do it
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reader, Steph.1406  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Dont have sex at that age.I had sex at 13 with my boyfriend at the time and i thought i was in love with him,but you will regret it, you will split up and you will feel a right knob, no offence, by the way you have wrote the question i can tell u arnt ready.x
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reader, Nicole.x +, writes (16 November 2008):
 People may feel that you are far too young for sex at your present age but if you love this boy and you are very mature then perhaps your not too young at all, however if you are only going to have sex because your boyfriend wants you too then stop. Don't ever do anything that you do not feel confortable with, if you want to go through with sex however make sure you use a condom to prevent STI's and Pregnancy.
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reader, hlb01 +, writes (16 November 2008):
if the only reason, you want to do is cos your boyfriend wants to then don't! but if you want to then go ahead i had sex for my first time when i was 13! just make sure you use a condom.x
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reader, Sandman +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Well - outside of the fact that you're only 13, if you don't want babies then don't have sex. It's pretty simple.
With sex, there is ALWAYS the chance of pregnancy. EVERY form of birth control has a failure rate. The failure rate may be small, but there is still a chance.
So until YOU are ready to care for a child in case you get pregnant, I would suggest you wait until you're married.
Hope this helps.
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reader, *plac* +, writes (16 November 2008):
 I believe that you should have sex only if you feel ready, but truly ready. Don't let others affect your choices, consider YOUR feelings. Also be sure that the person you want to have sex with cares about you and is willing to wait or go slow until you are ready.
If you do decide to have sex make sure you use protection. I would suggest condoms, you can avoid any unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmited diseases.
Don't let anyone push you into something you don't feel ready for honey.
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reader, hopelessly_lost +, writes (16 November 2008):
 your 13,sex shouldnt be part of a relationship. im not a holy person at all and i had sex before i was married. now that im about to be married and i found that special someone i honestly regret not waiting, so if you really can please hold off. but if your going to do it talk to your parents about sex first, you dont have to tell them you want to have it but your curious about it. suggest birth control. but ALWAYS use a condom. pregnancy is only 1 thing you have to worry about, you also need to think about AIDS,STDS,INFECTIONS,HERPES,CRABS,CLAMIDIA...AND ALOT MORE DIESESES. im not trying to scare you at all but hunnie die is in the word diesese for a reason. use caution while exploring your sexuality.if your not ready for sex theres also foreplay.i would like for you to go to this site. gurl.comi used it alot when i was a young girl, it has alot of information you need about everything about being a teenage girl.
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reader, LittleHelper16 +, writes (16 November 2008):
 ok heres the deal
I wanted to have sex at 13 too. I had this guy trying to get me to do it all the time , making me feel good and want to do it but I didn't . It was one of the hardest tings I had to do but I did it because I wanted my first time to be special with someone I loved . do you love this guy? truely ?
I'm 16 now and If I wanted to there are atleast 5 guys that have asked me to hqve sex this year and a few others that wouldn't say no if I wanted to .But like I said it's supposed to be special. and really with the guy you decide to one day marry.
not only could a baby come out of this, have you thought about the STD's they aren't pretty. and they pretty much NEVER go away your going to have to live with that the rest of your life if you get one,
and another thing , I've heard some girls say they regret it , that they did it too young, it's always going to be with you, no matter what you do, can you live with that?
and what if you did get pregnant ??? nothing is ever for sure , this guy could say he loves you and tell you that he'll be there but you don't know that, and he could have every intention to stay with you noe but when the baby comes he could just as easily change his mind . and then whats going to happen ???
I think you are too young, you shouldn't let him pressure you either if thats what he is doing. there are plenty of other guys that won't you might have to look hard but it's worth the effort
if you really must go thru with it then get on the pill and use a condom, don't you dare not use either or your just asking for a child.
I hope this helped and I wish you the best
be careful out there
and remember you don't have to do anyhting just cuz he's your boyfriend it's your body not his.
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Girl, let me first say if your boyfriend is waiting on you for an answer, he's an a**. I'm fourteen years old. If any boy ever told me he was waiting for an answer I'd know write then he's only interested in my body. He's not worthy to hold your jacket let alone your body in his hands. Plus, if you did end up pregnant, who's be pregnant? YOU. He'll still be able to walk around, go out, mess with someone else, and hold his head up high. Everybody will be looking in your face as the "13-14," year old girl whose pregnant. Take it from another girl, don't do it. You tell him " IF YO MAMA LOVES YOU,SHE'LL DO IT!" Don't you let that boy pop you then drop you!
And condoms whatever, they break. So if you still think after reading my good sense I'm sharing with you you want to have sex, get some birth control pills. But really, have some respect for yourself. If a boy respects you, he wouldn't ask you to do it. He's just another dude, one of the thousands you'll meet in you hopefully long life, assuming he doesn't have, AIDS, HIV, Herpes he's willing to spread to you for 30 seconds to 3 minutes of pleasure at your expenses. You better leave him were he's at... AND RUN!
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reader, SJ_ninety +, writes (16 November 2008):
 You are way too young to be having sex! And if the guy is pressuring you, get rid of him. Now. That's really all I can say.
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