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*ndy00
writes:Hi. I'm miserable right now. The problem is that nothing seems to satisfy me at the moment. I can watch any amount of comedy, play any number of games, see any number of my friends, and yet nothing is able to make me feel truly happy. I haven't been well recently. I've been run down with a number of viruses over the past few months, and even now I am not completely over whatever it is I have. Symptoms include migraine and block sinuses. I think what's worst of all is that I have gotten myself into the mindset that I will never know true happiness until I find somebody to love. I've had a few girlfriends in my life, but only one of which you could call a serious relationship. I haven't had a relationship for months now, and I feel like I'm terrible with women.Maybe it's just because I've not been well, but this is quickly becoming the worst time of my life. I'm not well, I'm stressed out, I'm single and I hate it. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, real1on  +, writes (2 April 2009):
ur crazy single life is the best life u can live, ist of all u need to get happy with urself b4 any female cums in ur life, because ur a mess rite now. make urself happy like buy new things, change ur style, shit do things u never did, then that changes u, next u let love find u, n stop looking all over for it
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reader, melnjy  +, writes (2 April 2009):
I think that you should not depend on a guy to make you happy.It is my believe that you complete yourself-that you make up a whole. You must make yourself happy, not rely on someone else to give you happiness.Beacuse if rely on another for happiness, you must be prepared to lose that happiness when you lose that person.By giving another person the power to make you happy,you are also giving him the power to make you miserable.Remember, what he can give,he can take away.
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reader, SJ_ninety +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Oh man, sounds like me. I suggest you take up some vitamins, start eating healthily and exercising, and hang out with friends. Perhaps take up a hobby or two (mine are writing, running, listening to music, and taking small road-trips by myself). I didn't do any of that for the first couple of months after my ex and I broke up and I severely regret it. I am currently how you are: alone and sick of it.
I've tried a couple of times to talk to different men, but nothing seems to work; I, too, have convinced myself I'm terrible at "the game". But who the hell needs the game anyway, you know? It just sets you up for disappointment.
It does suck to be single when you see all of your friends having fun with their significant others but attempt to be happy and eventually it will work. It has for me. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but getting yourself out there helps tremendously and when the ladies see you out having fun, you look fun, and they will eventually want to have fun with you. Make sense? Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): First of all start walking everyday get some fresh air go out. Sun light and fresh air really help. I have been depressed since I was nine years old I know what it is like to feel like you can not be happy until you find true love or just somebody to love you. I think you can be truly happy just by your self. I know how hard it is to feel that way. It has only been in the last few months that I have realized what it takes for me to be happy. For me it is doing the things I care about talking to my family on the phone exersizing, I was overweight and now I am slimming down alot and looking good and that makes me feel so much better. Buy a couple of new outfits to impress the ladies good shoes something to boost your self-esteem. Try different things until you find what makes you happy you will find your true love if you remain confident and don't go looking for her you will find each other that is how it always works I promise. The woman you love is out there and she loves you too but neither one of you know it yet.
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