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writes:I've been seeing this guy for the past six months and we have sex quite often. We've never once used protection and don't get me wrong I'm glad I'm not pregnant! But I just don't understand why that's the case. Does that mean I'm infertile or is it just luck?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I agree with the others. I'm not answering this just to start bashing you or anything, but you clearly want to get pregnant.
Maybe you say you don't want to. Maybe you even THINK you don't want to. But subconsciously you are very clearly trying to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Playing with "lady luck" might be exciting to you, but oh dear I would hate to hear from you here on this site in a few weeks or months time, saying I am pregnant and my boyfriend dropped me or is gone.
Please, in todyas life, you do not have to take the risk, go to a clinic get the pill, use a condom.
You are still so young, enjoy life, study. to have a child is not like playing with a doll, you cannot just cast it aside if you don't feel like it.
It is a huge responsibility, you like of all of us will want what is best for your child; but i doubt if you are in such a position now, financially or even emotionally; as your behaviour to have sex without procetion is proving to me that you are still very immature.
I honestly hope you will be more realistic in future.
If you are worried about your fertility, vow, when you are ready to have a child try all the necessary and then if need be, if within 12 months you are not pregnant consult your doctor for some test.
However, do not tease "lady luck", it might hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I know someone who did that for about 9 years and then all of a sudden she got pregnant twice within a year. Unfortunately, she was no longer married and had to terminate both times. Not a happy experience for her, but she learned.
Use protection if you don't want to get pregnant and I doubt you do at your age.
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reader, SJ_ninety +, writes (19 June 2008):
 I completely agree with Collaroy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Well keep having sex without contraception and you'll be sad to be pregnant and out of luck.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 It might be either way. The general consensus (for what I have read) is that a couple that haves sex at least twice a week for 12 months should get pregnant. If they don't then they need to have a check up.
It is also most often a guy thing. The good thing with it being the guy is there is more probability of a simple treatment working rather than invitro or any other costly procedures.
Good luck.. oh.. and if you don't want to get pregnant... do something about it!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2008):
 So you're wondering why you haven't gotten pregnant?
Two possibilities.
One. You haven't had the right timing yet. Wait a bit and keep trying and you might find out that you are indeed fertile.
Two. You or your partner are infertile. You could have a condition that is preventing conception. One of those possibilities is a hidden infection or sexually transmitted disease (STD) that has caused you to lose your fertility. He might have a low sperm count, in his case.
Only way to know for certain is to see your doctor.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Your extremely lucky you are not pregnant.
Now excuse me for being rude, but are you nuts?
It's time to grow up and take responsibility, you are too young to get pregnant and I guarantee your darling sweetheart will run for the hills when you do.
So take some responsibility for once and get him to put a condom on. Good grief!
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