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writes:What would you do if your boyfriend had four females spend the night?I had recently gotten back together with my ex after a two no contact period. He had cheated on me in our relationship before and we broke up. Fast forward two years, we got back together and everything was great. However about a month and a half after we started together again, he told me four female friends of his were going to come to visit, and they were all going to sleep in his room, while he slept on the couch. I did not buy that at all, and we broke up. I never met those girls and he made sure to keep me from them. He kept acting like really suspicious and his phone was ringing non stop. I am once again a mess over this idiot!!!!Please let me know what you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): A cheater does not usually change their ways and continue what they do as long as you let him. He is quite pathetic and you did the right thing by breaking up with him. I would have done the same thing. He made sure you never met any of them, is quite suspicious and your instincts are usually quite accurate. You don't need him, and don't ever look back because you do not need a man who cannot respect you. He is trying to have the best of both worlds and you clearly not letting him have his way. If it didn't work the first time, it won't usually work a second time either. If he loved you or cared for you that much, he wouldn't do this to you. Words mean absolutely nothing if his actions don't even match up to them. More importantly, just cut off all communication with him. You are a woman who deserves better and he is just trying to hold onto you as long as he can. This relationship is done and there should not be another chance, because as you can see he hasn't changed one bit. You broke up with him once, and this should be final. Move on with your life, and leave him as he is. Perhaps he will try to get you back or not, but don't make yourself available for him. You deserve better then this, and a better man will come along who will treat you with respect.
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reader, growing up +, writes (13 April 2009):
you deserve better... the relationship has lost its trust years before,, and a month and half is not enough to provide that he is trust worthy.. so in your heart he is not.. TRUST IS GREATER THEN LOVE..if there is no trust in love you will suffer.. cut your losses and if you do decide o give him another chance go slow and have him prove to you that he can be trusted. in my opinion move on.
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reader, SJ_ninety +, writes (13 April 2009):
 It's pretty obvious he will not change his cheating ways. He also seems like the kind of guy that wants his cake and eat it, too. I suggest you stop killing yourself over it and get over his pathetic ass. You don't need him. He sure as hell doesn't deserve an amazing woman like yourself. Find a man that will actually be a man (i.e.: respectful of you and treats you like a queen). Good luck!
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