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| | *houldKnowBetter's profile:I am not the oldest person here, I have not been through the most life experiences but what I am is coldly logical. People value my opinion as I can see it as it is and have no issues saying it.
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My husband wants a divorce and for us to go back to dating each other....
Q. This is long...I have been married to my second husband for 3 years. Together a total of 5 years. He has never been married before. I have two teenagers from my previous marriage, they were 7 and 9 when we got together. About 4 months ago, I mo...
A. 24 March 2008: To be honest I think you have been in the wrong with him. You cannot take a new person into your home, especially a wife/ husband, with your kids and then undermine his authority with them especially when your criticism is that he is being too ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks my son is his, but it might be his brothers! Should I tell him?
Q. i think my son isnt my boyfriend's, i think its his brothers the thing is we have planned our life together and he really loves him do you think i should tell him or just let things be the way they are ...
A. 24 March 2008: What benefit is there of telling him? If the question is genuine you have already done something very silly dont follow it by doing something equally stupid... (read in full...)
I feel asexual, is there something wrong with me? There was this incident with my step-dad....
Q. I'm 18 and have no sex drive. Is there something wrong with me?? When i was 9 I was molested by my step-dad, and i remember his finger penetrated me and it hurt sooooo much!!! I still remember it like nothing. But it caused me no psychological ...
A. 24 March 2008: There is no such thing as average, look at the statistics, is the average person male or female? Blonde or Brunette? Wears glasses or not? Very quickly you find that the average person represents less than 1% of the population.
You have been abu... (read in full...)
He left, he said he loved me but was not in love with me...I don't know what to do!
Q. my partner of 12 years and father of my 2 children has left me 3 weeks ago he said he loved me but was not in love with me and i don't know what to do or how to move on as i still love him...
A. 24 March 2008: Ok, so you agree that you still love each other but he is no longer in love with you. Are you still in love with him as I note it is something you dont mention?
Relationships can get stale over time, you can fall into a pattern and repetiti... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend move in with me?
Q. my boyfriend and i fight all the time but i am so in love with him. we plan on getting married and moving in together. he wants to move in in january but i want to move in at the end of summer how do i get him to change his mind to move in with me ...
A. 24 March 2008: Why does he want to wait 12 months and why do you want to wait 6 months? Given you want to spend the next 60 years together what is the difference of 6 months? What sort of relationship is based on each other making the otherside doing somet... (read in full...)
She wants to take it slowly so what's the next step for me?
Q. Here's the full story: I met a girl at a party a few weeks back, we spent practically the whole night talking, but my timing was wrong when i asked for a kiss and it didnt happen. We then spent a long time talking a week later at another party an...
A. 24 March 2008: It is early days, you have been forward and she has forgiven you by giving in to what you wanted at a later date which could have been very hard for her if she has been messed about. Ultimately the ball is in your court even if your choice is t... (read in full...)
Older guys messages freaked me out,why did I feel a little thrill too?
Q. Okay, I kinda have no clue what to do right now. I'm 17 and have a myspace profile and just recently a guy I added to my friends has contacted me and said he wanted to add me to messenger or get my number. But he's 26 and I got freaked out by other ...
A. 24 March 2008: The illicit is exciting.... many people get kicks from things not because they are actually exciting but because they shouldnt be exciting. Being naughty can be fun. It can also be unpleasant and not as much fun in reality as it is in your head/ on ... (read in full...)
My internet buddy has asked me for sex what should I say?
Q. Hi.I like this guy i havent seen for a long time, i've only seen him on the internet lately, he is really good looking ,i know him in person aswell, and he saw some new photos of me as I am now and he asked me if I wanted to have sex !.How should I ...
A. 24 March 2008: If you are both in your twenties you are old enough to know all the possible consequences of a one night stand. Should you sleep with him? No one can tell you, you may have a great time and both carry on your own lives with no issues. You may ... (read in full...)
Should I say yes to a threesome with boyfriend and his mate?
Q. I have beening dating my current boyfriend for the past 4 years. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. We are both college students and we attend different universities. We are seperated by amost 13 states. A few months ago he told me ...
A. 24 March 2008: There are some fantasies that are great to enact and there are those that seem so much better in your head than in reality. At the end of the day you have to decide.... by sleeping with someone else, even if he is there at the same time, you a... (read in full...)
How can I be funny for her wiithout feeling stupid?
Q. hi I know girls like a kind and funny guy how can i be funny with out looking stupid ? i like this girl and i think she likes me to, i would like to ask her out, but i think she would say no because we dont know each other very well how ca...
A. 24 March 2008: It sounds like you are trying to be something you arent... that isnt to say you arent funny but that you intend to force the situation. There are those in life that are good looking, and I am not one of them.... there are those that are good at... (read in full...)
He still wears his ex's gift!
Q. I've been in and out of a relationship with my daughter's dad. He's been wearing this silver necklace for quite sometime but never thought nothing of it. However, I finally asked him today, out of curiousity, where'd he got it from. He got it as ...
A. 24 March 2008: Do you like something more because it came from an expensive shop rather than a cheap shop or do you like it because you like it and price means nothing? Who gave him something should make no difference unless he is wearing it because of who g... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to lay my cards on the table and tell him to contribute??
Q. I have been in a relationship with a younger man now for three years and I am beginning to feel that I am being taken for granted but as it has gone on for so long dont know how to deal with the matter. We get on very well together and the age gap ...
A. 24 March 2008: You dont say how much younger and you dont say earnings... there are plenty who work in the city making very poor money. Obviously you are not happy with the current situation but I agree with the previous person in that I suspect there is more go... (read in full...)
If I have sex with my girlfriend will it feel different from mastrubation?
Q. Does a man get the same physical sensations from sexual intercourse as when he masturbates? I ask because my girlfriend wants to start having sex but I'm only used to getting an orgasm on my own doing it my way....
A. 24 March 2008: Is it better? Physically, no it isnt... you know exactly what feels good and how to achieve your goal. With another person involved there is a new dimension of their pleasure.... at best you try to satisfy each other rather than yourself but the... (read in full...)
After 23 years married I'm too scared to leave him!
Q. I have been married for 23 years and we have two children aged 17 and 18. Our marriage has always had its ups and downs and we made the commitment to stay together to provide a secure home for the children. I find that I am increasingly miserable ...
A. 23 March 2008: The problem with being a parent is that you forget you have a life outside of your kids. I am all for parental responsibility but at the same time your mood will reflect on your kids and they are stronger than you think. I have known too many that ... (read in full...)
We both want to go further but how do we go about it?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now and have yet to do anything past making out. We both want to go further, but everytime I attempt to take the next step, she just gets really awkward and starts poking me. I try to be really c...
A. 23 March 2008: It does sound as if only one side wants it to go further at this point. Only you can answer if waiting is an option or not however a relationship you are considering abandoning because you cant get your end away doesnt sound that strong. If yo... (read in full...)
Why do they lose their respect for me when I'm such a caring GF?
Q. I dont know where Im goin wrong with guys and I need some advice. Every relationship I have had, whether long-term or short-term, it always ends because they lose their respect for me and walk all over me. I dont know why this happens because I am a ...
A. 23 March 2008: Off I go on a limb again.... there are those that want someone they can walk all over, there are those that want someone to walk all over them. It takes all sorts and neither is right or wrong. The majority are somewhere in between where a balance ... (read in full...)
Did any of you think about sex so much at 15?...
Q. I'm 15 and I think about sex a lot .... is that bad ? did any of you think about it at this age ??? please tell me your thoughts thanks :) [Added] this is kinda weird to ask but I'm going to try to ask the best way I can . when I'm masturba...
A. 23 March 2008: yes, it is normal to think about sex a lot. Everyone has their own sex drive levels and some are never very high and others are high all the time from puberty to their grave. I echo what has said before about being sensible. The thing with sex (... (read in full...)
My new GF is making me choose between her and my son from a previous relation because she views my ex as a threat. Is there a middle ground?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for over a year now...we have had a fairly rocky relationship (mainly due to the fact i have a 2 year old son by another woman). It was fine to start with but as time has passed i have tried to keep my...
A. 23 March 2008: Whilst she may have "left her family" they are adults and knew the risks when they imposed their rules. I am sure it is hard on her but it is both their and her adult choice. You had a kid, they basically didnt have a choice on if to be born o... (read in full...)
Why can't he ejaculate from oral sex?
Q. My bf says I'm great at giving oral, and he responds really well, so why can't he ejaculate? We were each others firsts, so its not like his ex's 'trained' him into different techniques. I usually give him oral for about 10minutes, but just can't s...
A. 23 March 2008: How long does he last for non-oral sex? The other option is to actually get him close to climax with your hand first and then finish him off with your mouth... many arent that much of a fan of giving extended oral sex and so if you want it to b... (read in full...)
Age of consent?
Q. I've always wondered this . It's very unclear to me . Is is illegal to have sex at age 15? please let me know thanks in advance ...
A. 23 March 2008: It depends on where you are in the world at the time. In many places you will be considered a minor and therefore not legal able to give consent and so even if you say yes it would be statutory rape in the same way that if someone is too drunk or ... (read in full...)
15 and taking erotic pictures for my BF - is that bad?
Q. I'm 15 and I take pornagraphic pictures of myself for my boyfriend(16) and he loves them . I'm glad he likes them but somtimes I feel like it's worng for me to do it . Could you give me your opinion. I don't mind taking the pictures and I love ...
A. 23 March 2008: Never understood the law (UK) you can have sex at 16 but cannot watch others or even yourself having sex until 18??
The problem with it outside of the law is that probability says you will not be with this person for the rest of your life... ... (read in full...)
How do guys really feel about small boobs ?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and I have small boobs and I wanna know why guys like big ones so much ? are small boobs bad ?Does it really matter to guys ? I need some guys to be honest here. it doesn't matter how old you are but I need answers!!!! i...
A. 23 March 2008: It is down to personal preferences, some like big, some like small.
Just dont go for the false advertising of a wonder bra :)... (read in full...)
Do men ever go for a girl with personality over looks??
Q. I'm not ugly, i have been told i am pretty and i have a unique personality but my problem is there is always someone who is hotter!!!! I know men should really go for personalities but ,most of the ones in thier 20s go for pure hotness and i dont s...
A. 23 March 2008: The question equally applies to women as it does to men.
Being pragmatic if you are talking the bar or club scene then there is going to have to be something that attracts a person over to you to break the ice, it can be good looks but it can also... (read in full...)
I met him online... how do I break the news to my Mum?
Q. Hi, I have recently met a very lovely guy on a dating site- we have seen each other via web camera, and have met a couple of times. I'm not sure how to break it to my mum, however. She is convinced that everyone on the internet is harmful, and whil...
A. 23 March 2008: I would imagine that your mother would have more issues with the age difference given you are 18 and still at home than where you found him. Surely it is better to meet him in person and see how things work out before having to have a difficult... (read in full...)
It would give me such pleasure to give her pleasure by oral sex but she's reluctant! How to persuade my wife??
Q. I have a beautiful sexy wife I am so lucky. However I want to go down on her but she is very reluctant. I find this very frustrating as I want to give her a massive orgasm. She cums anyway when we have sex but it would give me such pleasure to give ...
A. 23 March 2008: If she really doesnt want it then you shouldnt force her... after all even if she did give in then she is unlikely to have the "massive orgasm" that you are wanting to give her if she is uncomfortable with it. Have you actually asked her why sh... (read in full...)
My new GF is making me choose between her and my son from a previous relation because she views my ex as a threat. Is there a middle ground?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for over a year now...we have had a fairly rocky relationship (mainly due to the fact i have a 2 year old son by another woman). It was fine to start with but as time has passed i have tried to keep my...
A. 23 March 2008: I can understand the threat that an ex can be however she should never put you in a place to have to chose between her and your son... anyone with any level of sense of right and wrong and respect for you would know that your son is the only ... (read in full...)
Can doing it "Doggie Style" be dangerous?
Q. my boyfriend and I love having sex doggy style. but afterwards it feels like there is air in my abdominal area. is that dangerous?...
A. 23 March 2008: Have you seen the size of a baby? I doubt your partner is using anything that sized but that is what you are designed to be able to take. As ever, if you are concerned then see a doctor but it doesn't sound as if anything is wrong... (read in full...)
What is happening here? I feel my husband is no longer in love with me!
Q. Hello, I would like if you all could just give me some advice.Next month will make it 16yrs of marriage.My husband is a good provider and I know that he cares for me but I am not sure that he is inlove with me.We have 2 kids by the way. one 14 and ...
A. 23 March 2008: I think that you are talking about the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. 16 years is a long time and it sounds as if there are other pressures are there if you are unwell, unable to work etc. It is very easy to fal... (read in full...)
My first long distance relationship, how do I know he means it when he says he loves me?
Q. hi im a 16 year old girl, i recently got in a relationship but my boyfriend and i are having a far distence relationship and this is my first far distance relationship, the thing is that i dont know if he is serious about us,when i ask if he loves ...
A. 23 March 2008: You can tell in exactly the same way as you can tell with someone that is sitting opposite you telling you that they love you. Long distance relationships are hard work and I am not convinced that at 16 they are really the best but some 16 year... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love someone you've never meet in person ?
Q. I have the most amazing boyfriend. He's a year older then me . I'm 15 and he's 16. He says he loves me and I love him so much . The only problem is that we don't go to the same school. I met him through a friend and I've never seen him in person . ...
A. 23 March 2008: Absolutely agree with the others on that it certainly isnt wrong. I personally would add a word of caution though, people can be different online to in the real world. I am not saying that he is "faking" or that he is actually a 50 year old perv... (read in full...)
I feel that she is not done with me, and I know I'm not done loving her! What now?
Q. Well here's what's going on now. My girlfreind recently borke up with me and it hurts very much. however, i feel that she is not done with me, and i know i'm not done loving her. The thing is that she has been abused her whole life, by family ...
A. 23 March 2008: The basis of any good relationship is friendship and its key elements (respect, trust, communication). As such, if you want the relationship to continue in the future then you should remain her best friend but not to over crowd her or put pressure ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have to "fake" a relationship with her, so what do I do?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend. I don't know if she loves me. My best friend said that he'd break up with her for me, but i turned him down, because i thought he shouldn't have too. I then thought that maybe he just didn't love her ...
A. 23 March 2008: Your mate offered to break up with her and your not sure if he loves her that much?
I am sorry, your mate obviously doesnt care about her in the slightest and the way you are talking it makes her sound like a commodity and not a person.
If you ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he acts like I'm not worth the effort!
Q. How do you determine if you're being used? I moved in with my b/f 3 yrs. ago and made it clear that I would pitch into the funds for things like groceries and entertainment etc. I pay my own personal bills, he pays his. He came out of a bad ...
A. 23 March 2008: Is money, and the arguments that it causes the only issues in the relationship or are things more deep seated and cash is really only the easy thing to pick on? I dont think there is any way that someone here can judge what is happening given ... (read in full...)
Am I so in love that I expect too much? Am I "unreasonable" here?
Q. I paid for concert tickets for my b/f and me to see a band we like. On the night of the event, I showered, did my hair and make-up, picked out a sexy top and wore my best skinny jeans. My b/f rolled out of bed after a nap, and put on whatever ...
A. 23 March 2008: Ok, didnt notice your age initially, what sort of concert was it?
To be honest the not getting dressed up for a gig (assuming rock/ pop type band rather than opera/ classical music etc) would not have been the greatest concern. If I am going to... (read in full...)
I met a guy over the internet and we messed around in person, what now? It seems like I'm the pursuer!
Q. i met this guy over the internet.i had seen him around before and we were aquainted but never really hung out,until one night we were both bored and he came over and we watched movies.well he started kissing me and i ended up giving him a blow job ...
A. 23 March 2008: Personally dont agree with the comment of him having had his fun on the basis you seem to suggest that he was like this before the sex as well. Some blokes are quiet, many people are different on the internet to how they are in real life and I ... (read in full...)
The Truth about Pubic Hair?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and ...
A. 23 March 2008: To further my own answer.... it is also what you want, it is your body after all.
Some women feel more hygienic hairless, others feel it is unnatural for a guy to like a woman with no pubes due to the whole prepubescent thing.
Of cause, sho... (read in full...)
If you know that a relationship is not going to last then why do you bother?
Q. If you know that a relationship is not going to last then why do you bother? I've been with my boyfriend for 6 mths, he's 22, so 4yrs older than me. We come from different racial backgrounds. My parents do not agree with my relationship but...
A. 23 March 2008: Guys and gals are not as different as people make out when you look underneath the surface. Guys have feelings just the same as women, of cause it isnt macho to admit it and they rarely talk about them to their mates but that doesnt mean they dont ... (read in full...)
When do you know "it's over"?!
Q. I love my fiance... at least I believe I do, when things are great, they are great, but ever since we got engaged and moved in together, theres A LOT less sex and since I have started school and we dont spend that much time together during the week ...
A. 23 March 2008: To be honest if you have to ask the question of if you love someone or not then you certainly dont love them enough (yet) to commit the rest of your life to them.
I am a strong believer in people living together before marriage. Its easy to have ... (read in full...)
Is my alcoholic husband cheating?
Q. My husband has his own cleaning business and he's an alcoholic. We have a girl that works for us and she is also an alcoholic/drug person. She will miss like 14 days of work at a time but my husband won't get rid of her. Is he cheating?...
A. 22 March 2008: Just because he wont get rid of her doesnt mean that he is having an affair with her, if they are both admitted alcoholics perhaps he just sympathises with her condition?
Are there other reasons you think they are having an affair? Have you aske... (read in full...)
I'm scared my GF could be pregnant at 14, how to tell our parents?
Q. i need help,im 14 and i think i made my girlfriend pregnant who is also 14. im really scared, i dont really know if she is or if she isn't. if she is, i dont know what i would do and how we would tell our parents. can someone please help me!!!...
A. 22 March 2008: Personally wouldnt tell parents until you know for certain even if they do know you are sexually active. If she is then you will have to tell them. If she isnt then learn the lesson well.... (read in full...)
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