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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I can't believe anyone is saying maybe you shouldn't tell him. Just hearing that gives me deep feelings of hating the whole female gender.
It's a gender-biased travesty that a person doing this doesn't get charged with at least a serious felony and do jail time.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 geez the answer is obvious. get a paternity test asap and then tell him if its not his kid! keeping that sorta thing hidden is the lousiest thing anyone could ever do. why should he have to stick around and raise some other jerk's brat just cos u made the mistake. dont screw up his life just so you can have an easier timeits pretty obvious from the posts here that this is a male issue and that women dont actually understand the seriousness of it. you're encouraging her to hide it if the kid isn't her bf's.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 You only think but you are not 100% sure?
Or you know it is absolutely sure it is his brother's?
Whatever, this secret should remain buried in your bosom .
It won't help your cause.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Get the paternity test before you do anything.
What the hell were you doing sleeping his brother in the first place? Did I just stumble into Days of Our Lives territory?
Seriously let this be a lesson to you. DON'T FREAKING SLEEP AROUND.
1) It makes you a slut.
2) You never do know who's kid you're having.
Flynn 24
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter +, writes (24 March 2008):
What benefit is there of telling him?If the question is genuine you have already done something very silly dont follow it by doing something equally stupid
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reader, Sir Chaos  +, writes (24 March 2008):
Unbelievable! I really thought my ex girlfriend sucked for merely being a selfish self centered stuck up spoiled brat. Somewhere along the lines hes gonna find out, so I say tell him now. Its gonna destroy him and probably destroy his family, but hey, you probably dont care anyway, you got knocked up by his brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): If you want to come clean then i would tell him but be prepared for your bloke to walk off and never be seen, or be together in a relationship where he hates you for the rest of your days or is very indifferent to you. Personally i would never tell a sole and let the whole thing drop. Does his brother know that your child may be his? We can all sit back and be judgemental so i do feel for you. Remember if you do tell and have the test done and he is your husbands brothers child then how many people will this affect? How will the child feel about you when he grows up? How will he view his dad? The knock on effects are massive. Be prepared for it if you tell.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I don't think you should tell him based on an I think so. You can ask for a paternity test, tell your boyfriend you are not sure it is his and want to do a test to make sure.
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