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writes:I have a beautiful sexy wife I am so lucky. However I want to go down on her but she is very reluctant. I find this very frustrating as I want to give her a massive orgasm. She cums anyway when we have sex but it would give me such pleasure to give her such pleasure. Has anyone any advice on how best to persuade her ?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Baby steps, don't just dive between her legs, work her entire body, if she resist your lips use your fingers and concentrate on other parts of her body for oral.
If she likes it, she will slowly allow more and more but as good as oral sex sounds, few women enjoy it if the man goes straight for the clit. FOREPLAY is more then just cunninglus.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Just tell her how you feel . tell her that it would make you feel good and you know she would love it . I'm 15 and I love it when my boyfriend does that to me . It's amazing.
Just get your wife in a good mood ask her and give her time to think and answer. Don't pressure her! whatever you do don't pressure her because then you both won't be happy. Good luck !
I hope I helped you in some way ! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): I am same age bracket as you. My wife was always a bit shy about such things...so lets get to the facts. 1-does she give you oral sex? If he answer is no, that does not look good for you giving it to her.My wife has always enjoyed giving as part of normal foreplay, but getting was different. Our routine is we both have nice shower prior to sex, so cleanliness is a must. I would say say time for me to reciprocate..finally she got over her hangup, which I think is really an issue with acceptance of one's own body.Good luck...she can change, I know my wife did.
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter +, writes (23 March 2008):
If she really doesnt want it then you shouldnt force her... after all even if she did give in then she is unlikely to have the "massive orgasm" that you are wanting to give her if she is uncomfortable with it.Have you actually asked her why she doesnt want you kissing there? There are many possible reasons from being concerned that she smells/ tastes bad/ looks wrong, not wanting to kiss you whilst you still have her taste on your mouth, that she doesnt know what she is supposed to do whilst you are down there and fears you will think you are kissing a dead fish to moral objects. Many of them can be overcome in time - the post shower for smell, oral as the last part of a session so there is no mouth to mouth kissing after etc - but others cannot be and you shouldnt go beyond her comfort zone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): She could be afraid she might be a bit whiffy down there. Offer it immediately she gets out of the bath or shower. If it's still a 'no go' I think you may have to give up on the idea for the time being in the hope that she may come round to it. But like the others have said, it will be counter-productive trying to bully her into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Lots of foreplay, slimulate her useing your fingers or whatever, you will tell when she is near orgasm, then just go down on her, gently to start with just tickle her clit with your tongue, when she sees haw good her orgasm is this way she will want it all the while....good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): I am a 42 year old woman and I don't like my husand doing this to me either. He used to try and force me into this and I hated him for it. It's not that I'm a prude I just don't like the feeling. I can orgasm quite cheerfully with normal sex but I don't like the feeling from oral sex, this has been the same with all the men I have been with in my life. Surely the most important thing is to give her pleasure in a way she would like it not what you want to do to her however much you feel she should/ would ejoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): She may feel it is dirty, and is against her religion?My wife is similar (when we had sex). I just assumed she was prudish or something.She needs to be able to talk about it, if not, pushing it upon her will backfire. You wanting to give her the ultimate orgasm may also make her feel pressured to perform and now is avoiding it.
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