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writes:i need help,im 14 and i think i made my girlfriend pregnant who is also 14. im really scared, i dont really know if she is or if she isn't. if she is, i dont know what i would do and how we would tell our parents. can someone please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): your best bet especially of yalls ages tell your parents asap both of you togather not one at a time yall did it togather yall stick it out togather ... tell them that yall have a problem and you want to show that you are responsible enough to responsibility for your actions ya uyoull catch hell for a while but in the end it will pay off but you have to make that decision its either face the music now and have help from the people who love you or have every one mad and against you when you really neeed it think about it and you will choose what ever you think is best good luck sincerly scared but willing
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reader, LovesJamie  +, writes (8 September 2008):
Hello. I'm fourteen and a girl. I have thiought I was pregnant before and my boyfriend didn't cum inside me. We have not even had sex, but there are many ways I could have been. He could of cummed on his finger and touched me.
This could of happened to you and your girlfriend. Although you have had sex without protection and just pulling out isn't a way of preventing it.
If I was you I would be terrified of telling my parents too. Ask your girlfriend to take a test first and make sure for certain, if you are embarrassed about buying a test then you can go to a family planning clinic. I'm sure you have one near you ( Also a good place to get free condoms ).
If she is then you should sit down and talk about it calmly. Talk about what you should do and what would be best for both of you. Then you can make a choice together on how and when you will tell your parents. I'm not saying you have to tell your parents because my friend got an abortion and didn't tell her parents and that worked for her. Although telling your parents would be best because when they calmed down they would be able to give you advice and help you to make the right choice.
Good luck, write back and tell me how you got on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Sweetheart I can understand you're stressing out. It must be bad for her too.
You say you came in her mouth. I take it this was when you pulled out? Pulling out is not, by any means, the best form of protection from sex. Something called pre-cum can get a girl pregnant, and you may not even notice this pre-cum. So get some condoms honey!! They're not expensive, and if you're 'man' enough to have sex, then surely you can wander in to a chemist and buy condoms!!
So yes, she could be pregnant. It's best to take a pregnancy test 4 - 6 WEEKS after sex, so its a waiting game from now on. If she has her period, she's not pregnant. If she DOESN'T have her period, then chances are she's pregnant.
If you need any help, message me, I'm here for you. Don't let anyone give you all this crap about being too young - you ARE too young, but did you ask for anyones opinion? No, you asked for help. And I see you're getting upset and worried here, so don't feel alone. I'm here if you need me, good luck :]
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reader, lovinit +, writes (23 March 2008):
dude, you are safe! keep reading though...you could get a test just in case but im sure when she swallows it gets digested and helps her get great skin!there is a chance you came without knowing you did because you have pre sperm that comes out while having sex that could getthe girl pregnant but its a low risk. as long as you pull out before the big one then you are pretty much safe. does she have morning sickness? if so then she is pregnant and get some pregnancy pills.i wish at 14 yrs old i could have thought about getting someone pregnant.don't tell your parents sh*t! tell them and you can could your sex life to be over.if you really need to tell someone, tell your dad because dads take it easier than mom's.if you need some condoms ill gladly send you some lol. i know that going into a store is a horrible experience and going to the clinic at 14 to get some free ones is too obvious.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (22 March 2008):
 YES! she very well could be Pregnant!
GO and buy a pregnancy test NOW.
Secondly.
If you think you are..Man enough to start having sex at 14. then you are also Man enough to tell, not only your parents but also Her parents as well.
deciding to have sex is No joke. and you are FAR to young.and far too stupid. look at the situation you're in your gf is quite possibly Pregnant!!
If you are going to have sex again Wear a condom NO MATTER WHAT. or you will having to exp[lain to your parents and hers... and her dear old daddy about what you did to his daughter and why you didn't use protection.
Grow up. buy a pregnancy test, Tell you parents and hers. Be a Man and do it and buy some Damned Rubbers.
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reader, Vertigo  +, writes (22 March 2008):
Hey again
Since you did not ejaculate inside her, chances are low of getting her pregnant. But in some circumstances, emission of semen does occur even before ejaculation. So don't take chances with the 'withdrawal' method. Use condoms, they're way safer.
As for the signs of pregnancy, the most obvious is a missed period. If that has happened, go get a pregnancy kit (easily available with the pharmacist or departmental stores) and have her take the test.
And don't panic. I'm guessing you wouldn't have gotten her preggy, but if its a skipped period, like I said before, take the test.
Good Luck
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter +, writes (22 March 2008):
Personally wouldnt tell parents until you know for certain even if they do know you are sexually active. If she is then you will have to tell them. If she isnt then learn the lesson well.
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reader, Vertigo +, writes (22 March 2008):
Hi.
I know it's a scary situation. But it'd help if she could take a pregnancy test. However, it depends on for how long she's missed her period for the test to come out right. If she's late, then it could be a lot of other reasons. But if she has skipped a few periods, get a test asap.
As for telling your parents, there's no way around it. They would have the right to know that you're sexually active and would also be able to guide you to doing the right thing under such circumstances. But first, be there for your girl(she must be scared, too) and find out what's happening for real, instead of worrying in suspense.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is the writer of the question.
i forgot to add more things to this
how can we tell if shes pregnant??
and when i came, i went in her mouth and she swallowed
do you think i came in her vagina without me even knowing??
i really need help people this is the first time i have been in this kind of situation HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
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reader, MahNamesShirley +, writes (22 March 2008):
look, there is really no need to stress.
I think you should sit down with your girlfriend and discuss this problem like adults.
IF she is pregnant, decide whether you want to keep it or get it aborted.
Either way, i think you should tell someone, just so then you have someone to chat to.
Good luck and all,
Shirley
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Ok calm down. First thing you need to do is determin if she actually is pregnant. Go buy a test, or go to a clinic. They are free and confidential. If she is you basically have 3 options, Abortion, adoption or keep it. Just choose which ever would suit you best, I know its not an easy decision.
Regarding telling your parents, well just sit them down and tell them straight out. Im sure they will be angery, shocked and disbelieveing at first, but once they accept it im sure they will give you and your gf a lot oh help and support. Good luck and take care xx
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reader, Emmy-Lou +, writes (22 March 2008):
 She needs to do a pregnancy test first before you do anything else.
Has she missed her period? If not then your fine. If she has, get to the chemist asap!
If you have to tell your parents, I'm not going to tell you that it will be easy. But then again I think they will appreciate the honesty.
Don't tell them both at once, tell your Mum and let her calmly explain it to your Dad.
There are always options such as abortion.
But please do not worry, your not the first 14 year old that would have got someone pregnant.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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