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writes:I have beening dating my current boyfriend for the past 4 years. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. We are both college students and we attend different universities. We are seperated by amost 13 states. A few months ago he told me about a fantasy of his was having a mmf threesome. He didn't think I would be up to it, but I am very openminded and I think it sounds like fun. However, he wants to have the threesome with one of his very best friends, who is a very attractive young man. I am slightly uneasy about having the threesome with a close friend because my boyfriend has always been a little bit of the jealous type because he thinks I have a wandering eye. I am worried that after the threesome he will look a lot more into mine and his friend's friendship. I also don't want to ruin their friendship by doing this. What should I do? Should I go through with the threesome?
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (27 March 2008):
I think its not good to do it with his bestfriend. It will mess up your relationship. Tell him that's how you feel about it. So maybe it should be someone he's not that close to.
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (27 March 2008):
I think its not good to do it with his bestfriend. It will mess up your relationship. Tell him that's how you feel about it. So maybe it should be someone he's not that close to.
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reader, useiwayne +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I actually just read an article about this. Don't do it! Although the fantasy is tantalizing, the reality will more likely be devastating. Seeing someone whom you love being pleasured by someone else is tough to remove from your mind once you have seen it in real life. Enjoy the fantasy with him, but not the reality.
Bottom line: the most likely outcome of this situation, should you go through it, will be the the end of your relationship with your boyfriend.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (25 March 2008):
hi
this is a very hard question to answer. the chose is yours, if you both realy love each other i would say stay away at this time. and leave it for later in life.
you will love the second guy and it will be a great turn on at the time but its later you both could have issues with it. i know we did.
be carefull and do what you want don't be pushed into it. message if you want to discuss futher. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): If you are comfortable and the trust is there bwteen all three of you. By all means hump away.
But of there is even a sliver of doubt at all, give it a miss. There a hundreds of better ways to keep things interesting without bringing in a third party.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Don't be a dumbass. Don't do this fantaasy for him or you'll lose a lot more thatn you think. If you get married, tehn if you are still open...do the fantasy for him, but as a boyfriend/girlfriend....HELL to the NO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Keep it a fantisy. My wife and a girlfriend who I had many years ago both had that fantasy many times, but both said that they would never do such a thing. My previous girlfriend said that there were just too many things to go wrong. My wife said that it was just a fleeting fantisy from time to time, but that she would never do it. I have also had fantasies about multiple men with my wife, but would never want to see that actually happen. I think that the turn-on of the fantasy would become a big turn-off in reality. I think that it actually happening has way too much danger of ruining a relationship. You may both think that it would be great now, but there will probably be bad feelings after the fact.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Nope, you shouldn't do something this drastic if you are the slightest bit uneasy with it. Keep swinging till you are older and in a very stable relationship and are 100% of the other people involved. And even then I would recommend against it if you are either person who believes in monogamy or the type who bonds easily.
It is especially a bad idea since your boyfriend has a jealous nature. He thinks you have a wandering eye? You are going be fucking his best mate. That will drive him up the wall.
A lot of guys have this fantasy for some reason and it rarely includes the following scenerio. You have sex with his mate and he has a bigger cock, lasts longer and gives you the most powerfull multi-orgasm you ever had. Read some porn, the bf's cock is ALWAYS bigger then the one of the 3rd party. Or even if it is bigger, for some reason the woman no matter how good the 3rd party is still prefers her BF.
But porn ain't real life.
Yes some women enjoy it, lets face it, you can get a continues fuck if that is your thing, one guy switching for the other but ask what it does to your relation.
Keep this till you are older and wiser. Some fantasies are meant to remain fantasies. Also ask yourselve, what man that truly loves you would want to share you? Because that is what he is saying, "go ahead mate, have a go". Is that love?
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter  +, writes (24 March 2008):
There are some fantasies that are great to enact and there are those that seem so much better in your head than in reality.At the end of the day you have to decide.... by sleeping with someone else, even if he is there at the same time, you are saying that you dont think your relationship should be exclusive. Are you happy with the idea of him sleeping with another woman whilst at college whilst you are 13 states away? If you are, then go for it, I have nothing against open relationships even if they arent for me.If you dont think that him being given the right to go sleep with who ever he wants when ever he wants is a good thing then dont agree to it. Most men have more than one fantasy and I am sure if you are this open minded you can thing of another one to satisfy that doesnt involve sharing.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (24 March 2008):
 if his fantasy is to have another male (with a female by default also present) and the male he has chosen has a close emotional connection to him and is very attractive maybe the part of the fantasy he desires is his friend (not simply generic male). clearly if he was jealous he would not invite a threat to the relationship into his bed who was very attractive, unless he was trying to engineer a strain upon the relationship or its collapse for whatever reason he may want that.
its just that if this gives him a taste for his friend he could then have the whole thing blow up and loose you (by feigning jealousy) while pursuing his friend with free reign once he is a free agent.and he will know more about how him and his friend feel when intimate because he would have experienced any connection that might happen. not that he could conciously plan all this, but it might all fall into place conveniently...
this just rings alarm bell(ends) for me, but it would cos i am a man who likes men so appreciate my bias and follow your gut
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