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| Latest articles: How do I get a girlfriend?
This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 April 2012: Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
The reason why so many relationships fail
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30 January 2012: I've come to realize recently that there are so many relationships that fail, so many guys and girls that break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend, and so many broken hearts. You may say it's because of the increased population, but I say it's b...
"how do I attract boys?"
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23 January 2012: (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
Shadow's View on LGBT and the like.
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8 December 2011: It's recently come to my attention that a lot of people seem to think that they can simply BECOME gay/bi/etc. And that being so is wrong. I'd just like to write down my words, and hope it helps people. First off, I'd like to address the firs...
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
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27 October 2011: I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
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Is it a red flag if husband is facebook requesting a hot chick?
Q. My husband has friend request some hot chick on fb; she has big boobs- very provacative looking, has pictures of herself "says for modeling " they look like pictures you would see in playboy ect. I haven't seen any comunication between them- but ...
A. 17 March 2012: I say you should casually ask him, like if you are both looking at his facebook friends, say "Oh, who is that? I've never seen her before." But say it in a casual way, like you're curious about who she is, but not suspecting him of anything, because ... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend, but I don't know who?
Q. Okay so i am 14 and i have been single for over a year now. I really want a girlfriend, but i dont feel attracted to anyone. I do like this one girl who i flirt with but she doesnt know, and looking in the future, i can see we wouldnt make a good ...
A. 17 March 2012: The only way to find someone is to start meeting new people. Make new friends, and eventually you'll find someone you are attracted to. Or if you just want the feeling of someone to love, you should try with that girl you like, even if you don't see ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but what if my parents find out?
Q. soo c: I have a boyfriend and he is a couple months younger than me. we both have talked about sex and we really want to have it but I'm worry that my parents will find out and I don't know if I'm old enough either /: Help3 ...
A. 16 March 2012: You really aren't old enough.
You aren't finished growing, you aren't finished maturing.
There is a reason the US has laws saying that you must be 18 years or older to have sex.
Once you are 18, or older, then your body will be a mature wo... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and don't know what to do
Q. hello to cut to the case i am 14 and i think i am pregnant. my boyfriend is 15 but doest really know how to react. my mom and my step dad are going to flip out. i dont know what to do. so my question is, if i am pregnant at this age what rights do i ...
A. 15 March 2012: Take a test, first of all.
And if it is positive, you NEED to talk to your parents, and a doctor!
You're still a child yourself, you know, and if you want to keep the baby, if there is one (And I will stress that raising a child at that ag... (read in full...)
I'm worried our conversations are starting to get repetitive!
Q. I'm not perfect, I know I'm a repetitive person. But not this bad. I just realized, me and my boyfriend essentially have the same conversation, with minor variations, every night! I love talking to him (online, cant call or anything), ...
A. 14 March 2012: We have similar interests, but I know we've already talked about a lot of them.
A lot of stuff it's like "Oh, I beat Portal 2!" And then there's nothing else to say after we talk about that.
I guess we're boring when talking online. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried our conversations are starting to get repetitive!
Q. I'm not perfect, I know I'm a repetitive person. But not this bad. I just realized, me and my boyfriend essentially have the same conversation, with minor variations, every night! I love talking to him (online, cant call or anything), ...
A. 14 March 2012: Thank you for the advice. Sometimes we do talk sexy, but it's not too often, and it's fairly non-repetitive, since we're still virgins, so there's not much to talk about besides what we want to do to each other our first time xD ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend, but her parents cannot know!
Q. I'm 17 and love my girlfriend. We've already talked about marriage and all that stuff so this isn't some one night stand. We want to have sex (by the way she's 16 so in my state it's still legal) but her parents are VERY overprotective as far as ...
A. 14 March 2012: Like the other aunts have said, just wait. If she's really so special to you, you can wait until you don't have to hide. If you two want to have sex so badly (And I know it's because of hormones. I've still got quite a bit of those in my ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make sure you fall in love and stay in love?
Q. My on-again-off-again boyfriend is coming over this weekend. We've been "off" for a little less than two months now. My concern is that every time we get together after a few weeks apart, the passion we have for each other is intense. But then over ...
A. 9 March 2012: Well, if you're talking about making him fall in love and say in love, then it's impossible, and also kinda impossible to force yourself to feel something.
But honestly, you should just talk to him, and tell him that you don't think he's putting ... (read in full...)
Why else would he still have his profile up on the dating site if not to keep his options open?
Q. Hi, I met a really lovely 28 year old man online on a dating website in December 2011. Will get on brilliantly, speak daily, his family and friends know about me and we have a holiday planned, were not intimate yet but he told me he thinks of me ...
A. 9 March 2012: You should definitely talk to him, but don't automatically assume the worst.
My boyfriend still goes on his dating site profile from time to time. I go on mine occasionally too.
We met on that site, actually.
He just likes to use it to ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my fiance because of his mother.
Q. Should I break up with my Fiance because of the way I am treated by his mother? heres a few examples: -When I go to her house she completely ignores me / gives me dirty looks. -she has kicked me out of the house and has no respect for me ...
A. 9 March 2012: I'm guessing it's because you're essentially taking her man away. Obviously not in a steal your boyfriend way, but that's her baby boy, and she holds high standards for him. Most mothers do. They sometimes tend to hate their sons girlfriend.
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I can't bring myself to meet her!
Q. A close friend of mine introduced me to one of her friends around December last year, and at the time I liked her and thought she was quite pretty and she had an awesome personality and I got talking to her and got to know her and she is a fantastic ...
A. 9 March 2012: If you like her, do it man. If not, then dont.
Simply put, if you want to give her a chance, then go right ahead, if not, then just dont meet her.
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What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 8 March 2012: It all depends on the point of view.
But I personally believe that love and hate are like Yin and Yang. We love because we hate, we hate because we love.
It's like, opposite but equal. ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer girls who are high maintenance??
Q. Hmm, so my boyfriend of 1.5 years was talking about his ex-girlfriend (who he dumped after 4 months) saying she was high-maintenance. I asked him if I am high-maintenance too, and he said I'm no maintenance! Is that a good thing or a bad thing?? ...
A. 8 March 2012: High maintenance is not when someone puts a lot of effort, its when a person demands a bunch of things.
For example, a high-maintenance person would say something like "I ONLY drink water that is 45 degrees Celsius!"
It's not a good thing at al... (read in full...)
I get made fun of because I'm 21 and a virgin
Q. i'm a 21 year old male, who's still a virgin, and don't know what to do, i'm in this relationship and my girl makes fun of me that am a virgin, all my friends make fun of me that am a virgin and because of that i get lonely and depress and i just ...
A. 7 March 2012: Well, honestly, if your girlfriend is teasing you about being a virgin, she obviously doesn't respect you, or even have enough sexual interest in you to want to change that!
You dont need someone like that in your life.
Tell her that you may... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity without knowing?
Q. sex had always been an exciting thin for me as a child. as an adult now, i dislike it. i have always been a virgin i even broke up with my boyfriend because he wanted me to have sex with him. later when i was to try it, my partner was like you are ...
A. 5 March 2012: You cant lose your virginity without knowing, the act of losing your virginity is having sex, and if you haven't done it, then you're a virgin. ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to become a negative person, and I don't like it!
Q. I realized I'm kinda a downer sometimes, like I was talking to my boyfriend, and I was talking about how my club was losing all its members, and all I could think about was how much that sucks, and how I wish I had more people coming to club. ...
A. 4 March 2012: It's an Anime club, for school. As a senior, it's my last year of running it, then I pass it on to my VP, and she picks her VP.
I lost all my numbers because I got a hand-me-down cell phone from my stepdad, which broke soon after I got it, beca... (read in full...)
I'm starting to become a negative person, and I don't like it!
Q. I realized I'm kinda a downer sometimes, like I was talking to my boyfriend, and I was talking about how my club was losing all its members, and all I could think about was how much that sucks, and how I wish I had more people coming to club. ...
A. 4 March 2012: Thank you, and I would just like to answer some of your questions, so here they are:
My cell phone is only ever ringing when my mother is calling to let me know she's coming home from work, and to do something before she gets home.
And, I ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to become a negative person, and I don't like it!
Q. I realized I'm kinda a downer sometimes, like I was talking to my boyfriend, and I was talking about how my club was losing all its members, and all I could think about was how much that sucks, and how I wish I had more people coming to club. ...
A. 4 March 2012: Next time she comes up here, I'm going to beg my boyfriend to let me spend time with the three of us, haha. She is really cool, and I already know I can go to her if I have any female-related, or boyfriend related issues, because she knows him ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to become a negative person, and I don't like it!
Q. I realized I'm kinda a downer sometimes, like I was talking to my boyfriend, and I was talking about how my club was losing all its members, and all I could think about was how much that sucks, and how I wish I had more people coming to club. ...
A. 4 March 2012: I always try to be nice to my friends when they want to talk to me, and I try to make them feel better if they're down, but, well, my way of making someone feel like a sister is outright saying they're like one, like how my boyfriend's sister is so ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to become a negative person, and I don't like it!
Q. I realized I'm kinda a downer sometimes, like I was talking to my boyfriend, and I was talking about how my club was losing all its members, and all I could think about was how much that sucks, and how I wish I had more people coming to club. ...
A. 3 March 2012: Yeah, I definitely have some stress. Mostly from school (Failing Government class because I just dont understand any of this), and from trying to run a club...
And then there's my social life, which is pretty much talking to people online, peop... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: I agree with Miamine. Dont just jump the gun. I mean, my boyfriend likes to tease me and say that he likes to kick corgis, just because he knows it'll make me mad, and he's an asshat sometimes (But I love him, because I'm an asshat to him too ... (read in full...)
Is it taking advantage of a girl if you sleep with her because she's "easy"?
Q. So I know this girl who is really beautiful. Not only is she gorgeous but she's also "easy". You know what I mean by easy, right? She lets a lot of mates have their way with her. I mean, maybe she likes it too. If someone will get her a gift or buy ...
A. 24 February 2012: It's not wrong, but honestly, sex shouldn't just be with "some hot easy chick", it should be with someone you care about...
Also, she may have some sort of STD, if she's slept with a lot of guys, especially if she had unprotected sex with any one ... (read in full...)
I've changed but I don't think boys' views of me have.
Q. Hey, I'm abit fed up, I date boys but then they always seem to get a gf. I'm not saying I dont get boys attention because I do but I think it's the wrong attention. I admit my past isnt the best and I did use to sleep around, iv slept with 65 bo...
A. 23 February 2012: Honestly, if you've slept with 65 boys already, you probably have a reputation now. The only way to fix this is to work very hard at proving that reputation wrong. Or moving and getting a fresh start. ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really pressured to lose my virginity!
Q. so here's the deal.. literally everyone my age is having sex but me.. (I'am 16) I haven't done anything with a guy, all I've done is kiss, all the guys I've went out with, all want one thing! and when I don't give it to them they break it off. I ...
A. 17 February 2012: I'm 18, and when I met my boyfriend at 17, I was a virgin. He still loves me, and has never pressured me to do anything with him. I'm still a virgin.
The guys who pressure you into having sex with you dont really love you, they just love the thou... (read in full...)
Can you tell me how to kiss a boy Please!!!! Or how to find out how?
Q. Hi everyone, Ok, I am 16 and as far as doing anything with a boy goes, the only thing I have done is hug one. Now there's this guy and we both really like each-other, I think. He is getting a little impatient, we aren't dating or anything b...
A. 17 February 2012: Ok, so for your first kiss, I dont think tongue is a good idea.
Here's some tips:
dont just sit there and do nothing. Wont work.
No fish lips.
Ummm.... Have you ever like, kissed a younger sibling/pet on the head or blown a kiss? It's h... (read in full...)
My mother is conservative and against ANYTHING before marriage. I'm 18, but I still have to deal with her!
Q. To make a long story short, recently I've come to find out a lot more about political parties, and what exactly my mom believes in, now that I'm older. We are almost completely opposite, she's ultra conservative, and I guess you could call me a ...
A. 15 February 2012: I'd never like, rebel or anything. Mostly, I just need advice on how to get her to understand that I'm old enough to be doing more than just holding hands with my boyfriend for the most part.
I definitely know that it's her house and her rules (a... (read in full...)
Why are so many people ashamed of their virginity status?
Q. I know some girls who tell me in hushed tones that they are virgins and not to tell anyone, its too embarassing. I know girls who look down upon girls that claim to have sex as sluts. I know girls who wish they hadn't given it up that early. Why? ...
A. 14 February 2012: It's kinda like that whole saying, "The grass is greener on the other side". Especially with the media and stuff, being a virgin is considered a "bad" thing, but if you have sex when you're young, or with a lot of people, then you're a slut. ... (read in full...)
Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...
A. 14 February 2012: My boyfriend likes it when I swallow. But I only swallow because I enjoy it too. If I didn't like it, I wouldn't do it x3 ... (read in full...)
How do I make him care?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 19 months and we've had our share of ups and downs. Recently, we have been in a spot where it's not really good nor bad. I'm crazy in love with him and he generally makes me really happy. But the other half ...
A. 13 February 2012: You need to let him know that you feel unappreciated and all that stuff you just told us. Be sure to let him know that it takes two people putting in an effort to make a relationship work. If he doesn't even bother to try and correct his behavior, ... (read in full...)
I want a strong man who understands when I don't want sex and doesn't whine about it!
Q. Hi everyone :) Well my issue is that currently I am a 22 year old female and I have lost interest in sex with my bf. I used to have a high stress job on top of college so I blamed it on that. Now my job is much more relaxed and I even have days ...
A. 11 February 2012: Well, first of all, you need to tell him that you aren't having fun, and then ask if you guys could do something besides just him "sticking it in".
You said you like to masturbate, so perhaps you could ask him to just touch you, and guide hi... (read in full...)
Are people likely being honest when they say my cellulite isn't obvious?
Q. i dont really know how to phrase my question, but is it true that we (as individuals) see personal features more extreme than others? for example, if i had a coldsore, i would notice it much more than others? would it appear more severe/bigger to me ...
A. 11 February 2012: It's in human nature to over-exaggerate our fears.
That's why jumping into a cold pool or going to the doctor's to get a shot is so scary. It's all psychological. Usually if it seems like a big deal, it probably isn't as big as you think. ... (read in full...)
What do you think about people talking about their exes?
Q. What do you think about people talking about their exes? I'm dating this guy,and he has talked about one of his ex girlfriends a couple times. They went out with each other a long time ago. They started dating in 1997. I'm not sure when it ended th...
A. 8 February 2012: Depends on how it ended. For example, I still talk to one of my exes. Note, it was more of just a "Hey, we're single, we should try this dating thing" freshman year. Needless to say, it was mostly to help him figure out if he liked girls or guys ... (read in full...)
I like him but he likes her. How do I change this?
Q. The guy i like is dating someone else and i don't know if he likes me. How do i get him to want to be with me instead of her?...
A. 6 February 2012: There's no way to do that.
You cant affect free will, it's like in alladin, the Genie can do everything but make people fall in love and bring people back from the dead.
It's impossible to make someone love you, and it's really rude and selfish... (read in full...)
I really want to give him head. Is this normal?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm 19, I've been seeing this guy for 5 months, he's 23. I've known him for a year now, but only started taking it further in Sept 2011. We've been through our ups and downs, and we do communicate a lot, he's very straight up with ...
A. 5 February 2012: Yup, you're normal!
In fact, just the other day, me and my boyfriend were having a conversation about oral, and I told him I really enjoy giving it to him. He was pretty excited to hear that! ... (read in full...)
I regret being so shallow about a guy's height
Q. I turned down an opportunity to be with a guy who was committed and a good person. The main reason I walked away because of his height. He is 5 ft. I am the same height and petite. All I can think about is the life we could have had together. Bu...
A. 5 February 2012: That's not shallow, it's just a physical characteristic that you dont find as appealing. I honestly would be the same way, I would have turned down a guy the same height or shorter than me, because it wouldn't feel right. Like with my boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he doesn't reject me?
Q. Okay so its so close to Valentines Day! I'm having guy problems. There's this guy Kris. Hes a year younger than me but way taller than me. We like each other but not enough to date. We used to hold hands and he would put his arm around me but then ...
A. 5 February 2012: Unless you've invented a perfect mind control helmet, there's no way to make sure he wont reject you.
You just have to take that risk and hope he says yes.
I mean, you can do some things, like not be rude, and have good hygiene, but oth... (read in full...)
How can I learn to overcome homosexuality?
Q. Hi cupid, quick question. I think I might be gay but I don't want to be. Nowadays when people say they are gay everybody jumps up saying its ok and that you're born that way and we don't have a choice and stuff like that but I don't think I believe ...
A. 5 February 2012: You cant overcome homosexuality, it's not a handicap!
If you really think what you like is wrong, then, like youwish said, become celibate! But if you just try to go against your own nature, you will end up miserable and unhappy.
Perha... (read in full...)
In real life I've never wanted him to kiss me. So is my dream telling me otherwise?
Q. I just turned 18 and im having some confusing feelings. I see one of my mates twice a week (all-day) with a few of our other friends, but I was recently really annoyed by him and vice a versa. We sorted it out last week and that night I had a drea...
A. 3 February 2012: Dreams mean absolutely nothing. A dream is just a subconsious replay of all your memories, thoughts, and other things, perhaps you saw someone getting kissed or wanted to kiss your pet (on the head, lol), or something involving kisses, and it ... (read in full...)
"how do I attract boys?"
Q. (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
A. 1 February 2012: Thanks for commenting! Comments always make me feel like my articles have been read and enjoyed!
And Smelly, Rude, and Annoying people get no love because they are smelly, rude, and annoying xP... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, and I need ways to cope!
Q. I'm in such emotional pain right now, because I think am so ugly. Nobody ever tells me I'm pretty, I am just really plain, and today I realized I'm deformed. I tried on several tight dresses, and my hips are just too big... if I fit into a dress ...
A. 1 February 2012: Ok, you know what, I'm going to answer this, and I'm going to be blunt, and it may be a little less soft than my usual post, but here goes:
YOU ARE NOT UGLY!
Ok, let me tell you something right now. From what you've described, we have similar ... (read in full...)
How to rebuff one and encourage the other
Q. Hi everyone! I've been vexed lately. There's a guy who has been asking me out but I'm not interested in him at all! Every time he asks me out, I'd tell him I was busy/engaged and even feigned a fever once. I know it's wrong to lie to someone but I ...
A. 31 January 2012: I agree with Abella, it's not "oh, maybe later", you need to tell him firmly "no, I'm not interested". And if you dont plan on having any sort of purely friendly conbeagtact with him, outright tell him "I've been lying to you. I was faking ... (read in full...)
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