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writes:so here's the deal.. literally everyone my age is having sex but me.. (I'am 16) I haven't done anything with a guy, all I've done is kiss, all the guys I've went out with, all want one thing! and when I don't give it to them they break it off. I feel so pressured into doing stuff with guys. I feel like the only way to get a guy is to give in and I really don't want to do that! I just want a guy to love me, not to just get in my pants "/I want to lose it to someone I really love, and I want them to wait for me to be ready for it, not the other way round "/what do I do? it's really frustrating me that the only way I get a boyfriend is if I lose my virginity and I really don't want to! Reply to this Question
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Yeah wait. youre still young. Id say forget what other ppl think but I adapted.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 oh and P.S - having sex is NOT the only way to get a boyfriend. Most decent men will respect a woman who does not sleep with them so quickly. They want the chase, they want the pursuit. There's no fun in it for them if she puts out on the first night.
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reader, adamantine +, writes (17 February 2012):
Please, WAIT! Who care if everyone else says they're having sex? If some guy breaks up with you because you won't have sex with him, you shouldn't want him as a boyfriend anyway!!
I waited until I was 20. I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend, and we have been together for over a year. I am so glad I waited as well. I was emotionall/physically ready, and sex with my boyfriend is AMAZING.
I can't say it would have been amazing had I been a 16 year old, losing it to some random guy who only wanted to get into my pants.
Wait for a guy who is going to get to know you, and who will respect you for who you are and will NOT pressure you into doing anything you don't want, and if you tell him NO, will be understanding enough to wait for you to be ready. That is the type of man you want to lose your virginity to.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 not everyone your age is having sex, they are either lying , or the crowd you are hanging out with. don't be pressured into having sex, don't give yourself any regrets to look back on. your friends may have given their virginity to guys, but they are making sex less special each time they do that with a guy. these boys only want one thing, and once they get it , and get tired of that girl they will move on to another girl. boys that want sex will tell a girl they love them, just to get into their pants. any guy that pressures a girl for sex does not love the girl, but wants sex, and is thinking of his self only. keep your self respect , don't let down on your standards , keep your morals high, keep your head up, and wait on the right guy to come into your life. you have a gift to give only once, you choose how you will give your virginity away to, and when. choose wisely , don't throw it away like your friends maybe doing. you only have that gift once to give to a guy make it special . don't give yourself any heart aches.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (17 February 2012):
 I'm 18, and when I met my boyfriend at 17, I was a virgin. He still loves me, and has never pressured me to do anything with him. I'm still a virgin.
The guys who pressure you into having sex with you dont really love you, they just love the thought of sticking their newly discovered sex organs into something warm and wet.
(Blunt, but true)
It may take a while longer to find a guy who wont just want you for your ladyparts, but once you do, it will be a wonderful relationship, trust me!
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Anyone who pressures you to have sex is NOT seeking a relationship.And is NOT respecting you either. Instead they are collecting notches on their belt and they want to add to the list. Such guys have NO interest in you, not matter what they claim to feel and no matter what they say. Watch and observe. See how they behave when they want something and see how quickly they lose interest once they get it. Guys who pressure girls for sex should be told to get to the gym if they need some exercise.But your body is not available for their Sexercise. Trust me if you give in to sex with any guy they WILL STILL DROP YOU once they have taken what they demanded.Yes, get on with your studies and your plans. But there is NO rush.Stay Strong and Brave and firm in the face of these callous boys.
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reader, china doll 1936 +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Hi Honey Stick to your decision you will never regreatit most guys before they marry want sex but they don"t usually marry that person unless they have too. You will find the right guy stick to your morals and God will bless you I was 25 when I gave in and not untill I got a engagement ring and hae been married 51 years and was 25 when married he was 33.I never regreat saving myself for him.
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reader, KittieS +, writes (17 February 2012):
 First off 90% of people your age are NOT having sex!
They may say they are but there not, trust me I'm a girl, and also have many a conversation with girls of your age.
There are girls having sex and maybe that's right for them, and we shouldn't judge those girls. But here is the thing, you need to be ready!
Don't go about finding a guy to "give in" wait, your virginity is the most precious thing, any any guy worth knowing will accept this - think about it..
Do you want to give it out with some guy in a back of a car, and feel ok but maybe awful or... With a nice boy that you think is worth your time in a bed with rose petals.
Trust me I waited and it was lovely, I was 19 it was romantic we had been in a relationship and there was butterflies every time I saw him, it didn't hurt it was just lovely - make it like that x
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